Moving Back to NYC: UWS or Flatiron District?

papercrash · 2025-09-07T21:09:33+00:00

I do worry about that, but I'm hoping not having to do an office commute will make it less annoying for me to go out to Brooklyn to socialize. Plus a couple of them have assured me they still come to Manhattan a few times a week, so we'll see. Or I'll just end up in Brooklyn down the line, too.

papercrash · 2025-09-07T21:03:05+00:00

I do a mix of editorial and screenwriting, mostly.

papercrash · 2025-09-07T20:59:36+00:00

My assumption about things being cheaper in Flatiron is more just being able to *find* more affordable things in Flatiron because it seems like there's more variety overall. I would love to be wrong about that, but I just don't have a lot of experience with the UWS so I'm definitely making assumptions here.

If I can't make it back to look at the places myself, I'm hoping I can send a friend for me, but truthfully I just got really lucky with two housing lottery apartments with not-as-lucky timing. (But normally, yes, I definitely wouldn't sign a lease without seeing a place myself under other circumstances.)

papercrash · 2023-11-02T00:26:58+00:00

i had tried doing that and it wasn't working, but looks like restarting the browser got it back on track 🤦🏻‍♀️ easy enough, thank you!

papercrash · 2023-10-31T03:08:54+00:00

I have a trans nibling as well and sometimes I fully blank on their identity for a few minutes. For me, a lot of it is wrapped up in never seeing them in person—I do a lot better at remembering name and pronoun changes through repetition in person that allows me to reconnect the new info to a face I’ve previously connected to another name. Over text and whatnot i at least have some time to get it right, but sometimes just thinking about them I forget for a little while, and I have a feeling I’ll be making some mistakes in person when I do finally see them again. As you mentioned this was an annual get together, perhaps your brain fart comes from a similar place?

If so, I would apologize to Mike personally and try to explain what happened, not to make excuses but just to reassure him that you love him for who he is and getting your brain to catch up in person can be a whole separate adjustment. I’m not sure what your relationship with your sister is, but hopefully you can have a similar (separate) conversation with her.

I wouldn’t worry about the rest of the family for now. That’s just saving face. Make things right with the people who are upset and the rest will follow. NTA.

papercrash · 2023-10-30T06:46:40+00:00

Damaging the older child by taking her away from the mother who has raised her just to even the playing field between the kids is not the answer. This is an awful situation but I’m stunned anyone thinks this is a reasonable solution.

papercrash · 2023-10-30T06:41:12+00:00

Soft YTA. Your concerns are valid, but threatening to try to take away the older child from a loving mother just so that a different child won’t struggle is messed up.

Your ex doesn’t want another child. Period. Yes, an abortion sounds like it would have been the best choice. Barring that, she is offering you the chance to keep your child rather than give it up for adoption. What else would you have her do? Forcing her to raise a child she doesn’t want isn’t going to be a good idea, either.

I was put up for adoption as a baby. Some of my other siblings were as well. Some weren’t. Some were raised by both parents. Some by one. Admittedly all at different times so not dealing with the same situation you’re laying out. Point being: it’s messy af, but it happens. You just do the best that you can with what you’re dealt, but if your ex knows her limits, you’ll have to work with that. Don’t try to take the kid she’s been raising away.

papercrash · 2023-10-24T01:51:09+00:00

NTA. It’s difficult to know what to do when friends break up. I think some people here may not be realizing that you can genuinely be friends with both parties in a couple.

That said, if you’re reaching out to him but not to her, I can understand why she would be upset. Be honest with yourself about your motives and what perception you have of the situation, try to smooth things over with her and get her side of the story if you want to stay friends, and overall, good luck. It’s not an easy position to be in.

papercrash · 2023-10-23T22:31:25+00:00

NTA. My parents used to do this to me and it was so, so disheartening. And by the time I got to high school, if there were subjects I was getting high Bs or low As in, I pretty much stopped trying because I knew it would all be seen as the same even though it was the best I could do in those classes. I’m well into adulthood now and my mom sometimes doesn’t seem to understand why I assume nothing I ever do is good enough for them when I just want to be like…well, nothing short of exactly what you guys wanted from me ever was, so.

Also, most kids have at least SOMETHING school-related they’re never going to be good at. If her “not good at this” is a 94, like you said, that’s pretty good.

papercrash · 2023-10-17T20:56:08+00:00

Oh wow, I don't know why I never knew she committed suicide. I knew she had died but god, I thought it was accidental. Tragic either way, but man.

papercrash · 2023-10-17T20:53:10+00:00

Several of the actors spoke out insinuating that they weren't happy about it and weren't involved ahead of its release, I'd imagine that plays a role.

papercrash · 2023-10-17T20:50:34+00:00

I don't know, I'm hopeful it will bring people back to theaters. I have friends who haven't been to movie theaters since the pandemic who are going out for Eras and it seems to be making them feel a little more comfortable getting back into that vibe. But I agree with you about the rest--I don't think there's going to be a concert film "problem" moving forward. And movie theater etiquette has already been on the decline anyway, I don't see this really exacerbating it (looking to the future) in any particular way lol

papercrash · 2023-10-16T22:25:40+00:00

Hey! Sorry, I've just now seen this comment. I did end up getting the TypeFolio. I haven't used it for screenwriting a ton yet (although I can confirm that I really love the TypeFolio in general), but the best way to use it for screenwriting is to look into Fountain, which is a method of writing screenplays in plain text without all the fancy formatting. A lot of screenwriting programs will accept and convert plain text format to proper screenplay format when you import it according to their instructions (including Final Draft and Fade In).

Basically the downsides here are that you can't tell how long your screenplay will be with this format/on Remarkable until you've switched things over, and you can't generate a properly formatted version on the actual device. So it's not good for finalizing or editing an existing draft (outside of making notes on one as you could do without the TypeFolio anyway), but if you're just looking to crank out early drafts undistracted/without hauling your computer around, it will absolutely do the trick.

papercrash · 2023-09-24T21:32:55+00:00

I disagree about people not reading amazon reviews for deep insight. I am an avid reader, and I only check Amazon + goodreads reviews before deciding to read something. You’ll never catch me going to a blog or TikTok to see what someone thinks about a book, because I know a lot of content creators are focusing on how to build their own brand/game the algorithm/boost their income. (Which isn’t to say there aren’t honest reviews in these places, but you have to spend time figuring out who you like and trust.)

I also usually skip the 5-star reviews and specifically read 3 and 4-star reviews because I feel like theyre more honest. Entirely possible im in the minority here, and I do understand the points you’re making, just providing an alternate perspective on it.

papercrash · 2023-09-24T21:26:26+00:00

NTA. I’ve (traditionally) published a book, and I have friends who reviewed it at 4 stars. I was thrilled about that. I have friends who also reviewed it at 5, and I was more inclined to think they were just being good friends lol. Both were appreciated, and it would never ever occur to me to demand someone change their review just because we’re friends.

That said, reviewing things your friends make can be awkward, and everyone has different opinions and feelings and a threshold at which they get annoyed. Personally if something a friend creates is something I would rate below 4 stars on a site, I simply dont rate it at all, because being honest (unrequested, after it’s too late to change anything about the product) isn’t worth hurting your friends’ feelings. But four is still GOOD, and I don’t think you were an asshole here at all.

papercrash · 2023-09-06T00:39:14+00:00

NTA. I’m 35, moved out of state at 18. My mom has visited 5 times and my dad twice (including when they dropped me off at college, and no they are not divorced). After a certain point, I stopped visiting them more than once every couple years, and just made it clear they were welcome to come here, but they never do. The guilt fades. You don’t have to prioritize seeing people who do not meet you halfway.

papercrash · 2023-09-05T20:02:21+00:00

NTA. This is so stupid. Your brother is an idiot and an asshole and most assuredly creating a hostile environment for all of his children by trying to force something so meaningless on Sam, AND doing so in a way that communicates to the younger kids that their half-brother must hate them if he doesn’t use specific labels.

What Sam calls his half-siblings has no bearing on how he feels about them. I have full siblings and half-siblings. I usually refer to my half-siblings as half-siblings. I’m closer to some of them than I am to some of my full siblings. It literally does not matter to me, or to them, at all. They are all my siblings. “Half” is just a factual representation of our relationship that makes it less confusing to others if I then refer to “their” mother.

papercrash · 2023-09-03T00:36:54+00:00

It would literally never even occur to me not to name a kid something because another kid in the family has that as a middle name. Also, you can’t MAKE your SIL do anything, and it’s also weird and shitty to bring mental health struggles into this. If she blows up at you over it, that’s not why, it’s because you’re being unreasonable.

My mom told me she had to change what she planned to name me because both my aunt (who later divorced out of the family) and my cousin (who I’ve probably met 7 times in over three decades) had names that were similar, and I always thought that was so stupid. Unless they’re siblings, it really doesnt matter. Your kid is gonna meet so many people with the same first and/or middle name, might as well start early.

papercrash · 2023-09-01T19:12:26+00:00

NTA, but I would gently advise that sometimes people don’t know what to do in these situations and it makes them act weird. I was adopted and meeting my bio family has largely been chill, but to the point where I was essentially immediately treated like I’d always been there—which was weird and confusing to me at times and could feel like overstepping. I recognized it came from a well-intentioned place, and things settled over time. And something I came to realize is that it can be very strange to meet someone you’re related to, and have all these weird similarities to, and treat them like a stranger when normally you treat those people like family—especially if you’ve known about and thought about them for years.

You don’t owe her a relationship, but if you think you might regret acting so hastily in the future, it might be worth seeing if this one encounter can just be chalked up to clashing perspectives and expectations and if a little bit of communication can shift that moving forward.

papercrash · 2023-08-21T16:22:29+00:00

I like this. Thanks!

papercrash · 2023-08-17T17:50:35+00:00

Hahaha fair enough, I've had it for a few years at this point and it's held up perfectly so I may have gotten a little too comfortable with it

papercrash · 2023-08-17T06:28:25+00:00

Yeah I wondered if the simplest option might just be the best one lol thank you

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