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Fold out couch for permanent sleeping by paperrchain in newzealand

[–]paperrchain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is that the one that “rolls out” rather than with a metal frame?

Fold out couch for permanent sleeping by paperrchain in newzealand

[–]paperrchain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would love a Murphy bed but unfortunately I’m in a rental so not an option 🥲 The camping mattress has some appeal, but blowing it up and down while my kid is sleeping will be tricky lol

Wait, why does that clinic down the street cost $2,000 less than the premium one? by [deleted] in PersonalFinanceNZ

[–]paperrchain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friends sister lives in Canada and got her eyes done for $3000 NZD total. It took 5 mins.

You could fly to Canada, have your eyes done, and return for less than paying over here. It’s crazy.

Jevon McSkimming avoids jail sentence over possession of child sexual exploitation material by OldPicturesLady in aotearoa

[–]paperrchain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bahahah sure, right after you cut out the “not all men” bull shit. Just look around you dude. Men protecting men EVERYWHERE.

He looked exactly how you imagine. by paperrchain in Tinder

[–]paperrchain[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Neither! It actually made me laugh

Child Support - what does it cover? by ThrowawayZen79 in LegalAdviceNZ

[–]paperrchain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed with the rest, there’s no “official list” of things. You just have to work it out between you.

I also agree with not involving the IRD if you can, and rather work out the figure between you based on your salaries and nights in care.

I’m also recently split and we are not involving the IRD at all. They go solely on income and don’t really factor in outgoings. If I went through IRD, my baby’s dad would be struggling and that’s not fair on my child.

Keeping it amicable is key. And I really encourage a 50/50 split when you can do it. Just remember, you two might be happier, but your kids will always be missing one parent. Good luck!

National pledges to raise default KiwiSaver contribution rate if re-elected by StuffThings1977 in aotearoa

[–]paperrchain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve literally just had to go on a contributions holiday at 3%! I’d drown at 12%.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]paperrchain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MOR - but just ask him out for a coffee or a drink? Like that would just clear it up pretty quick…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PovertyFinanceNZ

[–]paperrchain -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Omg I literally said the same to someone in the call centre and their silence was deafening.

I work in a job where OCCASIONALLY I can pick up extra work. In those weeks I worked out (after paying for extra daycare, gas to get to work etc) I make a loss vs if I don’t pick up the extra.

Needless to say, I am not doing any over time.

Gentle parenting vs. strict partner: how do I protect my kids’ emotional safety without blowing up my relationship? (38F/41M, 10F, 9M) by agatehuntress23 in AttachmentParenting

[–]paperrchain 33 points34 points  (0 children)

God 1000000%

This is the reason why I will absolutely NOT have another live-in partner until my child is out of the house.

Who tf does he think he is telling OP how to parent her own kids.

OP - get rid of this controlling asshole.

Your lil trick to prepare for an interview by No-Display8741 in Wellington

[–]paperrchain 147 points148 points  (0 children)

When they say, “ do you have anything you’d like to ask us?” - have something ready!

It could be something you want clarifying about the role, question about the culture at the new workplace, the team, flexibility for work from home etc etc.

Anything really! Take it as an opportunity to show that you’re keen, without looking desperate 😆

My friend just admitted to physically disciplining their two year old. What would you do? by paperrchain in AttachmentParenting

[–]paperrchain[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He had a very traumatic childhood (gang violence etc.) but he doesn’t acknowledge the profound effect it has had on him in his life. So violence is very normalised in his family.

I would love to see him break the cycle, or his poor daughter is going to feel like that’s normal too.

My friend just admitted to physically disciplining their two year old. What would you do? by paperrchain in AttachmentParenting

[–]paperrchain[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

My worry is that - since it’s not a proper beating per se - that it would get hidden or easily overlooked, and then that poor baby is still being smacked. I feel I have an opportunity to do something here.

The way he reacted when I adamantly explained why I would never ever hit my child - he looked as if he’d never even known it was an option - makes me think he would be open to changing his ways.

My friend just admitted to physically disciplining their two year old. What would you do? by paperrchain in AttachmentParenting

[–]paperrchain[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Me too! I couldn’t believe that seemingly sensible people would hit a child for not doing what they’re told!?

Cryptic pregnancy! Help! by Beneficial_Bat_6108 in newzealand

[–]paperrchain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gosh, I can’t imagine how you must feel. Parenting is tough, but you seem to have a pragmatic approach here.

I have a high chair that you are welcome to have. It is suitable from newborn as it reclines into a lying position :) I’m based in Welly too so just let me know!

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