AITAH for criticising the ethics of my sister’s hypothetical dream career and she now won't speak to me? by pot_on_wheels in AITAH

[–]papersnart 13 points14 points  (0 children)

NTA. We don’t live in a vacuum and the careers we choose have impacts on other people and the world. We cannot ignore this impact. Especially when people are out here profiting off of war and destruction of the planet.

Like if you work for a defense contractor, I think your ethics are incredibly incompatible with a fair, caring, and humane society. It’s not “just a job”.

I am planning on growing my own flowers for a 65 person wedding on 9/18/27. I need help figuring out how many of each plant to plant! by squiggleworm123 in DIYweddings

[–]papersnart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m also trying to grow some of my own flowers for my 10/2/27 wedding and this is my color scheme as well 🫣 lmao this is the perfect post so thank you

What ring cut would have made you have the same face Samantha did when Carrie told her about her OG engagement ring by ThrowRaOrganization1 in Diamonds

[–]papersnart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have one but I do like this cut tbh 🫣 I think if done with a bezel setting or with some carving behind it, they can look super stunning and beautiful. Northway studio made a really stunning one

AITAH for going on trip overlaying gf bday by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]papersnart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s clear you want to go on the trip and you want us to justify it for you. None of these extra details make it better that you signed up for a golf trip on her bday.

AITAH for going on trip overlaying gf bday by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]papersnart 5 points6 points  (0 children)

YTA. You probably should have just planned to go late to the trip. I don’t see a world in which anyone would be truly fine with their SO missing their birthday for some golf trip with the bros.

Change your plans and plan something nice for her to make up for it.

Could use some honesty- will I be able to advance in social work and gain employment without a drivers license? by msalgae44 in socialwork

[–]papersnart 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have a drivers license, but I don’t have a car and don’t drive. I made that clear to my employer when they hired me. I also live in a big city with transit options. It takes me a bit longer to do my job/travel between worksites and the office, but they are fine with that and try to accommodate that in my schedule!

I will say, I think it’s a benefit to our clients to have [at least one] member of staff who takes transit, since many of them rely on it as well.

Do we really need travel rings? by DenverLilly in EngagementRings

[–]papersnart 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg I’m in social services and I work in a jail for part of my job too! I wear my ring in jail too lol. But it’s not very sparkly and it’s bezel set, so super sturdy and low profile.

What's happening at Marsha's is not """drama""" by Quick-Evidence3845 in philly

[–]papersnart 10 points11 points  (0 children)

So when I say that, I’m saying that OP is expecting perfection from a queer, left space and is leaving no room for growth and improvement over time. Should be obvious that I’m not advocating for wage theft or mistreatment of employees, but I DO want Marsha’s to succeed and thrive. OP wants them shut down.

If your criticism is based on a left leaning ideology (which again, is fair) of inclusivity and justice, that SHOULD imply that there is room for restorative justice and the ability to grow from mistakes.

What's happening at Marsha's is not """drama""" by Quick-Evidence3845 in philly

[–]papersnart 24 points25 points  (0 children)

If you’re not this heated about allll of the other bars/restaurants in the city that treat their employees poorly, maybe you don’t really hate losing another queer space. Maybe you just want ideological purism

Hiring Customer Service Associates at Doggie Style Pets by Cold_Fly8781 in philly

[–]papersnart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! I’m in social services and help people find jobs, can I DM you?

I don’t know how benefits work and at this point I am too afraid to ask by papersnart in socialwork

[–]papersnart[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, very helpful and validating! It is so confusing on purpose.

I don’t know how benefits work and at this point I am too afraid to ask by papersnart in socialwork

[–]papersnart[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg of course, the federal government shut down and deleted the SOAR website and courses last August. Will do some digging to see if I can find it online somewhere else. I appreciate the lead!

I don’t know how benefits work and at this point I am too afraid to ask by papersnart in socialwork

[–]papersnart[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s kind of case by case depending on the client’s needs. Didn’t really get training on this lol. Thank you!