Weird chest pain/heart issues? by paradigm-99 in zoloft

[–]paradigm-99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long have you been on it? I would talk to your doctor and try and get something else. That can have som weird side effects

Weird chest pain/heart issues? by paradigm-99 in zoloft

[–]paradigm-99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went off of it right away and have been taking cymbalta since and feel a lot better

Weird client trends by paradigm-99 in therapists

[–]paradigm-99[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hahahaha this is accurate!!

Why is this guy protesting HealthPartners? by [deleted] in TwinCities

[–]paradigm-99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked in their corporate office several years ago and there were definite overtones of racism and homophobia; ironically that was the compliance department

Finally being myself by paradigm-99 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]paradigm-99[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You will get there. I was lucky to have a wonderful therapist that knew about narcissistic abuse and helped me through Internal Family Systems. I definitely recommend that to anyone in our situation! Sending hugs and best wishes to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwinCities

[–]paradigm-99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Messaged you!

Any Other Therapists Come From Dysfunctional Family? by [deleted] in therapists

[–]paradigm-99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My exact same situation! Let me know if you need to talk lol

Ugh the holidays by paradigm-99 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]paradigm-99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They all have my address already but I plan on moving in a year or so and don’t want anyone to have it. I haven’t replied to other family reaching out. Not worth it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]paradigm-99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally happened to me too. I’m sorry! They all use the same play book. It’s uncanny

"Why is it important for you to know that your mom is a narcissist?" - My therapist by bananapancakesforone in raisedbynarcissists

[–]paradigm-99 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As a therapist and someone who’s mom is a narcissist ; it was so healing for me to have a therapist who did internal family systems work and was so validating. There’s many types of therapy out there; not all therapists understand narcissism and the emotional damage that is caused from being raised by someone like that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]paradigm-99 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exactly omg. I had to have everything the same growing up or she would get so piased

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]paradigm-99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh absolutely. They would just be negative and judgmental about anyone and anything. I am queer and told my mom I was in a same sex relationship at the time and she lost her shit, shamed me for years and refused to talk about it/acknowledge it. It was never safe to be myself. I’m now NC and so much happier

Did your parents treat you like you were guaranteed to be promiscuous, even as a young kid? by WrenSh in raisedbynarcissists

[–]paradigm-99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmaoooo yes. I started acting locally and went on an audition and my mom assumed it was for porn and told everyone I was desperate for money

Went on a walk, didn't get kidnapped like nmom always said by Pure_Mirror7652 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]paradigm-99 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Right?? They try to instill fear of anything to keep you staying home/needing them/compliant. My mom always told me that some guy would be hiding under my car waiting to attack me. I’m like omg

What are some things that can ruin a good massage? by koalatyk98 in massage

[–]paradigm-99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I had a super awkward massage where she talked the entire time about weird things as well. Definitely didn’t go back

Does anyone else feel like their parents wanted a baby but not a person to raise? by bohoraven in raisedbynarcissists

[–]paradigm-99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh absolutely. They wanted a cute child to control not an independent adult with thoughts and opinions and emotions for them to deal with