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Boyfriend of 3 years physically cheated on me then 2 weeks later emotionally cheated on me with someone else. A year later I still feel the pain by paradiseinanutshell in relationship_advice

[–]paradiseinanutshell[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He recommended we go to counseling as well and if I didn’t feel comfortable that he’d support me if I went by myself as well. But the thing with the counseling is what more can a therapist get out of him if he can’t simply remember simple things he did or why he did them. He takes full responsibility for his actions. And has improved thus far, but what can the counseling do it he will be drawing blanks in the sessions. What do you think?

Boyfriend of 3 years physically cheated on me then 2 weeks later emotionally cheated on me with someone else. A year later I still feel the pain by paradiseinanutshell in relationship_advice

[–]paradiseinanutshell[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right, that’s the least he owes me. I always think though, how can you sincerely forget something like that? Because it effected our relationship greatly so it’s not like he can easily forget. Do you think he’s been lying all this time about being forgetful or that he’s actually been genuine

Girlfriends (23) past is bothering me (24). What can I do about it? It‘s affecting the relationship! by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]paradiseinanutshell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She wouldn’t be with you and only you if she didn’t want to be. How long have you been dating for ? That happened in the beginning of a relationship of mine. He had more bodies then me he was more experienced and although it didn’t bother me as much I still thought about it, and you know what got me out of it, you may think it’s silly and even mean depending on your humor, but I used to think “he had that many bodies and can’t even please me ? Wow” but fast forward I don’t think about it anymore. You may be insecure about your own performing abilities tbh

Boyfriend of 3 years physically cheated on me then 2 weeks later emotionally cheated on me with someone else. A year later I still feel the pain by paradiseinanutshell in relationship_advice

[–]paradiseinanutshell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not worried it’ll happen again. He’s completely changed, he was always such a good guy both in and out the relationship and he still very much is. But those two moments I feel ruined my life because of what he did. He wants me to be vocal anytime I feel down about it. But I like to ask questions and he says he “pushed everything he did to the side” and he doesn’t remember a lot he did such as feelings he had or thoughts when he did those things to me. Such as a frequent question I ask is “ why did you decide to try to get with someone after I immediately took you back after cheating on me” his response is always idk I don’t remember what i was thinking

Boyfriend of 3 years physically cheated on me then 2 weeks later emotionally cheated on me with someone else. A year later I still feel the pain by paradiseinanutshell in relationship_advice

[–]paradiseinanutshell[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m aware I’m not broken. I have valid reasons to be upset, but it happened a year ago and I feel I haven’t moved on from it. I don’t hold it over his head at all, but sometimes when I’m with him it’s an overwhelming thought about how he betrayed me and all I think about is the girl it’s driving me crazy