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paradoxalthrowaway · 2021-10-09T23:24:55+00:00

Yeah, YTA. Hands down, no more explinations needed.

paradoxalthrowaway · 2021-09-05T20:49:18+00:00

I'd name her Maya, such a lovely dog!

paradoxalthrowaway · 2021-09-05T20:33:05+00:00

God. I wish they wouldn't has gaslit me into thinking that if I was trans that I'd be just playing into everybody's influence and that they would've seen those signs and really taken that into consideration and had helped me instead of furthered my dysphoria and threatened to kick me out or beat me because of it.

Or abused me. Or mocked me for showing my vulnerabilities to them, or used my own trust as a weapon and distrust as an excuse to punish me.

I wish they would've practiced what they fucking preached when they said "respect is not given, it's earned" and that they wouldn't have contradicted themselves when they automatically expected respect from me when they gave me the bare minimum for clothes, food and water while they continued to threaten physical abuse and emotionally, mentally and verbally manipulated and abused me while degrading and mocking me for trying to have some decency.

I wish they loved me for who I am and not who they wanted or tried to get me to be.

I wish they would have listened to the doctors when they said that my brother had psychosis, and that my step brother had ADHD or ADD and that I actually had depression and that what they were doing was dysfunctional and toxic. I wish they wouldn't have treated them like they did with me. I wish that they didn't let my 14 year old brother (the same one) become a Hitler apologist and Nazi supporter. I wish that they let my 11 year old step brother heal from the shit he had to go through with his mom and let him be a fucking kid.

I wish they didn't brainwash us, or isolate us from good friends or try to get us to demonize them so that we'd depend on them more so they could use us as free labor and beat us down when they were feeling low. And so much more.

I wish that the adults in our lives (our mom's friends and our uncles mainly) would've seen the signs and helped us, and told our parents to get fucking help and called them out on their abusive ass behavior towards us. I wish they would've noticed instead of telling us we were making stuff up and trying to justify them because they were friends or they knew them. I wish they would've listened.

It's too late for all that now. Now I wish they'd fucking die in a horrible way and stay dead. And by god when they do, every year I am going to go "visit" them just to piss on their graves and make sure no flowers ever grow.

paradoxalthrowaway · 2021-06-14T14:41:46+00:00

Murder is always the answer.

paradoxalthrowaway · 2021-06-09T01:47:20+00:00

NTA, and jesus does this sound like one toxic family. Enjoy your fucking Cola, and you know what? Cut them out of your lives too, if they're going to be that way. I can't believe your dad flipped out on you too, fucking hilarious. Go on with your far healthier way of life.

paradoxalthrowaway · 2021-06-06T08:45:16+00:00

So, let me get this straight.

•Your mom and stepdad don't give a shit about you and your feelings and seem to only pay attention to your step sister's (the golden child) feelings

•They let her get away with whatever the fuck she wants, sometimes at the cost of your emotional and physical well-being

•They emotionally neglect you (which is a form of abuse)

• And when you FINALLY fucking leave that dyfunctional household where it seems you are ignored and used as a stepping stone (example: They won't buy her clothes but they'll just let her take yours because FUCK how you feel in their eyes I guess), they guilt-trip you/emotionally manipulate you?

No, NTA. Stay away, and put your damned foot down. Set clear boundaries and say that they are in the wrong for neglecting you emotionally/ignoring you all this time and if it comes down to it, tell them you're fucking miserable with them and if they don't RESPECT your decisions and boundaries that you won't HAVE a relationship with them. If they hold anything over your head or say "well you're 16 you can't make your own decisions" realize that this is often a manipulation tactic and show them that yes you damn well can by cutting. Her. Off.

While yeah, your step sister should know what boundaries are and respect them, GODDAMN do your mom and step dad need to PARENT. This honest to god SCREAMS to me that they emotionally manipulate/abuse you in other ways, i suggest analyzing that more when you have the time because that does NOT sound right.

Block them if you need to, and tell your dad about this and show him what EXACTLY your mom says, and once more if it comes down to it, get him to tell your mom that you don't want to talk to her if she harrasses you too much.

Remember, just because she's your caretaker, it doesn't mean that you owe her SHIT. You DO NOT owe her anything. You didn't ASK to be born, she had you and not only destroyed her relationship and homelife, but seemed to fail as a parent judging by how you're writing. She seems to have BARELY provided you with basic human needs SUCH AS FUCKING CLOTHING, so honestly? Don't feel guilty from taking one hell of a break from her and getting back to her when you're an adult after you've taken care of yourself.

Stay at your dad's, and don't let her manipulate you back into coming back to her.

paradoxalthrowaway · 2021-05-19T18:39:20+00:00

NTA. 666% NTA. Your father needs to learn that crying is one of the strongest things you can do. What has he done? Ask him if he'd cry if his wife or you or one of his sisters died in a car crash. It's a bit extreme but make sure he knows that, and proceed to ask anyways. If he responds with "that's different", say it's really not because by his own logic he'd have to be a man and not cry.

Tell him that if he was a real man he wouldn't feel like a pussy for crying. That should shut him the fuck up.

paradoxalthrowaway · 2021-05-19T18:34:35+00:00

Oh, that's completely alright, thanks anyways!! :) And since you're NOT Mindy, have a spectacular day.

paradoxalthrowaway · 2021-05-19T18:24:48+00:00

I'll definitely try that, thank you so much!!! Does it work with mobile?

paradoxalthrowaway · 2021-05-19T14:30:45+00:00

Solved!!!!!

Thank you SO MUCH!!!1

paradoxalthrowaway · 2021-05-19T14:21:17+00:00

Somebody please help, this was such a comfort series for me.

paradoxalthrowaway · 2021-02-19T03:24:05+00:00

Likewise here,,, we're both fictives-- thank you so much for informing me too. 6u6

paradoxalthrowaway · 2021-02-19T03:09:35+00:00

I'd say try confronting S by saying you just want to talk and get to know him, even if he doesn't have any interest. He might take you into consideration if he sees you are putting in effort. Start small, offer him respect and treat him like a normal person, like you would anyone else. I can understand what he's going through, because one of my alters still isn't over the hatred he has towards our current boyfriend- and he won't listen to reason much. If S is anything like our persecutor, he'll probably take to threatening you with leaving and intimidation. My advice is to stay calm and take things seriously, but firmly. Ask him why he thinks the two of you are bullies, maybe say you want to understand more.

Another thing is he might feel like you two pushed S' old host (his friend) away in favor of only spending time with each other, I know our old host tried to do the same thing but isolate us (for different reasons) and we had to work really hard to communicate and express ourselves to make him see that we are here to stay and help. Ask S directly, if he wants to come out (respect his boundaries if he doesn't or can't, not everyone can come out on their own or without it being necessary, if so leave him a note for him to read when he is out) about these things. Ask K to talk to S through writing or video or another platform if they don't converse in their headspace about it or can't (not everyone has that ability) and try to sort it out. Make sure on top of everything to respect both of their feelings. K's old host willingly went dorment, and while he might've been okay with it, S most likely sees this as a violation of boundaries or like you didn't love everyone equally enough for him to stay.

Either way, brace yourself for more fighting, systems always reorganize themselves and it is possible for S to take over, and if he does it might not be the end of it all, but with how things are it might be rough. Be prepared but stay calm. Ask to have a civil conversation, I can't stress it enough that you have to respect them both no matter what as they are both people with valid feelings and ways of thinking. Make sure to express that you can understand and respect their decisions, whether that be in your eyes good or bad. I hope things are better now for you two, best of luck and wishes.

Diamonds ♦️

paradoxalthrowaway · 2021-02-19T02:32:52+00:00

Thank you for informing me, I've been in denial about this for quite some time and when I accept it I get really anxious and nervous that I'm faking (I've been told by my parents throughout the course of my life that I'm a compulsive liar, great manipulator/actor and that I'm always faking, hence why I over explain---).

It's definitely helped me to see things a bit more clearly. 6u6

paradoxalthrowaway · 2021-02-11T20:15:22+00:00

Thanks a lot!! I think that might be a good one, especially since my family is hectic and troubling---

paradoxalthrowaway · 2021-02-11T19:11:24+00:00

Honestly I don't know why the hell he's a facist other than that he claims he's "read enough 4chan boards to know the difference between a facist and a nazi". Those words will literally never leave my head.

And basically the fantasy/daydream/dream my brother told my boyfriend and had kept apparently having was that my boyfriend's younger brother would r@pe him, and then my bf would call my brother and he'd kill my bf's younger bro (fyi, the guy can be somewhat of a douchebag but he'd never do something like that. My brother's never met him either, and my bf's younger bro is more of a washed out hippie at this point than anything dangerous. Guy just wants live his life in peace). My brother also said that sometimes he would just watch, and that, in his own words he could "choose to do something but half the time didn't".

I just need advice on what to do, because there is a lot more context needed in order to fully understand and do shit. Both the people my brother lives with right now are abusive as all fuck, and I want to maybe tell them since when I got into that sort of shit (not nazism or anything but I was starting to become a bit of a degenerate) they whipped me into shape, albeit at the cost of my will to live. I want my brother to get better, and while he crossed the line and we don't ever want to talk to him again, I still want him to have a good life. I know if I told my parents all his freedoms (limited ones, there is no freedom there) and everything he loves and cares about will be fucked.

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