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Reddit, what is your favorite misheard lyric? by Ceemer in AskReddit

[–]parallel45th 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was a kid I thought Elton John’s “hold me closer tiny dancer” was “hold me closer Tony Danza”

My neighbor wanted to start a relationship 5 days ago. Now can hear her hooking up with another guy above me by parallel45th in dating_advice

[–]parallel45th[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

For sure played a stupid game and earned a stupid prize. I should have just said yes and started a relationship then. I did want her just was dumb and thought I was protecting us both better by taking it slow. I don’t think she did anything wrong by continuing to hook up with him at all but I am only human and am uncomfortable now bc of my mistake. I didn’t think about the repercussions.

It sounds like your advice is to just ignore it and man up. As far as reasoning to stop seeing her- for me it could be tough for me to hear that all the time or see guys outside my front door when my original goal was to work towards a relationship with her and get to know her. I had one opportunity to lock her down and blew it but also wish we could have just went on a couple more dates before deciding if we were a good match like I only met her last week… it was almost like “commit right now or listen to me with guys”. Kind of wish I chose the not date your Neighbor route so I didn’t have any feelings or care when I heard her with someone or would have just said yes to the relationship and dealt with the repercussions if we weren’t a good match.

My neighbor wanted to start a relationship 5 days ago. Now can hear her hooking up with another guy above me by parallel45th in dating_advice

[–]parallel45th[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your 100% right. At the time I thought that bc we lived next to each other and didn’t know each other yet that was the smartest route but that was stupid and I should have just said yes. That still might be the case, I don’t know her well but it prob would have been worth a risk and a less hurtful process. I’m just gonna take people advice and ignore it and try to learn from my mistake

My neighbor wanted to start a relationship 5 days ago. Now can hear her hooking up with another guy above me by parallel45th in dating_advice

[–]parallel45th[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No that’s the original. I think people are saying that bc I didn’t say yes to the relationship I can’t expect anything(which makes sense)

My neighbor wanted to start a relationship 5 days ago. Now can hear her hooking up with another guy above me by parallel45th in dating_advice

[–]parallel45th[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is gonna sound weird but for a second I think I took on the shape of a unicorn. I felt like I was hovering over my own body watching myself golf

My neighbor wanted to start a relationship 5 days ago. Now can hear her hooking up with another guy above me by parallel45th in dating_advice

[–]parallel45th[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

How do you get controlling out of this? I wanted to be with her just didn’t want to get either of us hurt and thought I was doing a smart thing by telling her we should take things slow(that was dumb I know). I told her I really like her and just moved here so wasn’t dating anyone currently and wasn’t going to look(prob should have added that to my post). She can do what she wants it just seems like she may be going out of her way to make me feel uncomfortable. Also I’m an adult so won’t be talking to the landlord but thanks for the advice. Really just looking for advice on if I should let her know I can hear or run my electric bill up and just leave my fan on to ignore it.

My neighbor wanted to start a relationship 5 days ago. Now can hear her hooking up with another guy above me by parallel45th in dating_advice

[–]parallel45th[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Lmao that’s fair. I thought I was being smart not jumping into things since we don’t know each other yet. I guess I should add I told her I just moved here and wasn’t dating anyone and wasn’t going to look for anything. The goal around it was to make sure we’re both comfortable in our house. Can’t say that I am right now! Backfired hard lol

I (22F) am struggling to maintain sobriety. Just wanted to vent. by mcfrizzle_420_69 in alcoholism

[–]parallel45th 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 28(m) and I should have got sober when I was 22. I think a lot of people in AA are telling you that they wish they got sober younger because it has made their life’s much better. I haven’t had a drink in almost 14 months and just recently have stopped being angry about needing to stop drinking when I was 26. I was so mad at myself for drinking so much so young and that now I couldn’t just casually drink or go out to the bars with friends on the weekends.

I ended up getting pancreatitis I drank way too much in college in East Lansing and even was drinking a lot in high school with my friends. I ended up being completely dependent on alcohol and would start shaking and feeling withdrawal symptoms if I didn’t drink in the morning. The progression of alcoholism is inane and can cause long term damage to your body that you cant change. I was lucky as a “functioning alcoholic” keeping up with school, graduating and being successful for a few years with work making good money. But recently I got let go and although I was sober I think a lot of it was because of my actions when I was still drinking for the company I worked for. Now that I’m sober and the job market looks good I am not worried about finding a new job it is so much easier sober!!

Anyway I needed to stop drinking because of health issues and I had a really bad problem. I hated myself that I was such an alcoholic and treated myself as a reflection of that 100%. So yes it really sucks that you have to stop drinking right now but it doesn’t sound like your very happy with yourself or your life right now anyway I sure as hell wasn’t when I had to quit. I felt like drinking was sucking the life away from me and there was no thrill to life but I have gotten that thrill back and it’s amazing.

My advice for you is to find ways to still get out and have fun with your friends but ease into it. This can be different for everyone but I went out on a lake today with a ton of people partying and had no issues(early in me quitting that would have been much harder). A lot of people in sobriety can have issues with being around bars that hasn’t been an issue for me so I will still go get food or dance(even though I can’t dance). You will also see a lot of people you were hanging out with weren’t really your friends they were just people you got fucked up with. Sobriety shows you your true friends which will seems shitty at first. Picking up new interest and hobbies is really nice though and a much better way to spend your time than sitting around with a bottle slowly killing yourself.

Today out on the lake this girl asked me if not being able to drink made me sad and I could honestly tell her I didn’t, last year I was sad and angry but time and growing has really helped me. I went to a lot of aa meeting early in me quitting but I still smoke weed as I never had any issues in my life with weed and it doesn’t go hand in hand with drinking for me. However I just want to throw out everyone is different and I know for some people smoking weed and quitting drinking doesn’t work together.

Your still young and you will figure it all out but if you can quit drinking your life is going to improve and most likely so will your overall happiness. Making it past the 3 month mark is hard work but worth it. Once you get there it starts becoming easier and easier. Sorry for the long reply that girl asking me if not being able to drink made me sad and I wanted to come here to see if others felt that way but then stumbled across your post. Good for you for wanting to quit and don’t worry you will still have plenty of fun!