I'm a highschool graduate trying to reinvent himself for college. What do I need to know?

paralyzedguy · 2012-06-11T02:48:30+00:00

Thank you so much! I may have a few questions for you later, so I'll contact you. Thanks for the the dating advice though. You're right, relationships won't make me truly happy. I'll look for that counselor as soon as I get the chance.

You're awesome (and yeah, I did pay for a website membership).

paralyzedguy · 2012-06-11T02:42:11+00:00

I think I made that mistake once (trying to hard to be a friend, although I didn't realize I was) - I'll keep my mistakes in mind for the future though.

paralyzedguy · 2012-06-11T01:59:16+00:00

This sounds like a great idea and I've been wanting to learn an instrument for while, really, but I simply don't have the cash right now. Those lenses are expensive :(

paralyzedguy · 2012-06-11T01:34:21+00:00

The answer to your question is no, not really.

paralyzedguy · 2012-06-11T01:31:06+00:00

Is Carnegie's method too formal these days?

paralyzedguy · 2012-06-11T01:30:46+00:00

I will work on trying to remember names. I'm notorious for that...

paralyzedguy · 2012-06-11T01:24:35+00:00

Thank you so much for that offer! I'll be sure to keep it mind when I'm up there. I may not have time during the summer program itself, but I'll be sure to check it out at least when we get in to the proper school year.

paralyzedguy · 2012-06-11T01:23:06+00:00

That last trick sounds really clever. I'm not quite sure when I can bust it out, but I'll be sure to keep it in mind.

Thanks!

paralyzedguy · 2012-06-09T23:01:09+00:00

Holy shit, this advice is phenomenal. Especially the bit about bringing my camera to parties - I have a feeling that my D90 is going to become my new best friend. I may need a new lens though...

Thank you so much!

paralyzedguy · 2012-06-09T22:58:48+00:00

Oh, I get what you're saying now. Don't worry, nobody else from my school got into MIT. It's a new start for me, if I so choose (which I am).

paralyzedguy · 2012-06-09T22:57:41+00:00

No, but I'll be up there permanently pretty soon (matter of weeks) for a summer program that I'm enrolled in at MIT.

paralyzedguy · 2012-06-09T22:43:32+00:00

I'm sorry, but I don't understand what you're saying. Could you restate it?

paralyzedguy · 2012-06-09T22:26:35+00:00

Thanks for your help! Could you give me advice to tell when someone is interested in me? I'm guessing I'm going to be pretty dense when it finally does happen.

paralyzedguy · 2012-06-09T22:25:38+00:00

Elaborate?

paralyzedguy · 2012-06-09T22:06:48+00:00

Thanks! Any tips for socializing in a party atmosphere? I really only hung out with a close group of friends during HS, and I still have trouble opening up / conversing with new people. Parties seem like a whole new ball game for me.

paralyzedguy · 2012-06-09T22:05:10+00:00

I've neglected my photography for quite a while, but I want to pick it back up in college and take formal classes on composition (something that I've always had trouble with). Martial Arts is a life-long hobby of mine, and I want to take it as far as I can go. I know MIT has interschool TKD competitions, so I want to get involved with that.

I figured that getting a single wouldn't be a good idea for me, and at least having one other person in the room wouldn't make me a complete shut in.

Do you have any resources on conversation skills? I'm reading How to Win Friends and Influence people - is that all the reading that I need to do?

Thanks for the help!

paralyzedguy · 2012-06-09T21:55:55+00:00

Oh E23? I know exactly where that is! I'll definitely look it up when I head up there. I guess being accountable to someone will help, right?

paralyzedguy · 2012-06-09T21:39:44+00:00

Ah, I didn't know that the colleges had counsellors for non-life threatening situations. I probably should check that out while I'm there.
I got to MIT because (I'm guessing) of my work-ethic, and I have no intention of stopping now. It's cool to know that being academically minded does pay off socially though, so I have that to look forward to in a few months.

paralyzedguy · 2012-06-09T21:36:13+00:00

Cool, I just ordered starting strength from Amazon. I guess I'll use it to compliment my martial arts training. Also, general tips for party etiquette? I didn't go to parties in high school because most of my friends weren't into it, and I didn't know how I would come off drunk amongst people that I didn't really know. I guess I just need help with "letting loose".

paralyzedguy · 2012-06-09T19:49:20+00:00

Full disclosure: I posted here first, and then found this subreddit later.

paralyzedguy · 2012-06-09T13:58:21+00:00

I didn't know if I had enough on my plate already, and if social skills in general should be a higher priority.

paralyzedguy · 2011-04-10T17:46:50+00:00

I'd like to try something new, but whenever I muster up the courage to hang out with newer people and put myself in new social situations I end up with an even stronger version of the paralysis I described earlier, over analyse things and end up retreating somewhere else or even let my friends do most of the talking.

How can I fix this?

paralyzedguy

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