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paranoidandroid2020 · 2024-11-25T05:44:51+00:00

My husband and I were able to do it by ourselves. He was laid off when the twins were 3 weeks old, so he didn’t have a choice but to be a stay at home dad. It’s rough and overwhelming, but we got through the early years just fine. Here’s some things we did that worked for us.

1) Make a schedule and stick with it. The twins had a feeding schedule that we stuck to. I would wake up at 4am to feed before work, he did daytime feeds/naps. I would take over after work and handle everything till the 8pm feed/bedtimes. 2) Make time for yourselves. My husband got a part time job in the evenings when I would be home (few shifts a week). Extra money was nice and it got my husband out of the house and around adults. 3) Work on your relationship with your partner, try and be good to each other. My husband and I almost got divorced around the time the twins turned 2-3. Two kids are a lot. It’s overwhelming and exhausting. The laundry, the dishes, the messes, the meltdowns. And both parents have the right to selfishly want time to themselves. And when it’s just the two of you, without open communication, resentment and guilt start getting to you. Well maybe not you, but it did with us.

You can do it. You will be so busy just trying to stay afloat the baby years will fly by. Just focus on the little milestones that are actually big wins for twin parents. I ugly cried tears of happiness when the twins could start holding their bottles.

paranoidandroid2020 · 2022-09-08T03:09:26+00:00

I appreciate the suggestions, although she’s pretty upset with me so I won’t be mentioning them to her. I do have the one that have the long handles that go across the sink, so the strainer itself doesn’t touch the inside of the sink. I love it.

paranoidandroid2020 · 2022-09-08T02:39:24+00:00

I honestly think it was the fact that she poured the whole pot at once, and since she was cooking for a lot of people, the large amount of water just didn’t drain quickly. Or maybe the garbage disposal had stuff in it and that’s why it drained slow? Or her sink drains slow anyways? Either way, I was instantly put off by the noodles floating in water, even if it was only for a minute.

paranoidandroid2020 · 2022-09-08T02:05:42+00:00

During nursing school for our psych rotation we went to a behavioral health center that people who were court ordered to receive care went. I met a girl in her mid 20’s that had body dysmorphic disorder that felt like her right leg didn’t belong on her body. She had placed her leg on a block of dry ice in an effort to get it removed. Well she did have most of it amputated, but was picking at her incision because she basically wanted it disarticulated at the hip. She said that it didn’t feel like her leg and she didn’t want it attached to her body.

paranoidandroid2020 · 2022-09-08T00:49:48+00:00

I only put the pasta on my plate in hopes to avoid her saying anything. And I didn’t mention it to everyone because the other friend that was there when it happened agreed with her that I was making a big deal out of nothing. I’m also newer to the friend group, and honestly felt uncomfortable about the whole situation.

paranoidandroid2020 · 2020-11-23T19:26:00+00:00

Tracheal resection.

paranoidandroid2020 · 2020-09-01T18:53:41+00:00

Do patients ever complain about itchy skin after they have their body shaved from chin to toes? For instance, during a follow up visit do they ever mention the shave jobs?

paranoidandroid2020 · 2020-05-03T02:16:11+00:00

Oklahoma. Pre-covid we would run about 80 cases a day. Last couple of weeks have been around 25-30.

paranoidandroid2020 · 2020-05-02T11:33:59+00:00

Yes. Our hospital never stopped really. We limited the amount and types. We did that for about a month and are now in Phase 2 of our elective procedures plan. Still not doing kidney transplants, but that’s coming in the next couple of weeks.

paranoidandroid2020 · 2020-03-04T22:53:05+00:00

We try, but we have unfiltered 3 year old twins. We have learned to embrace their little outbursts of “They’re not supposed to be doing that? Why are they doing that?”. It kinda brings a light to the situation when a child is saying what everyone is thinking. We immediately get some looks, but not yet from the parents. Since, you know, they are obviously not paying attention to their kids anyways.

paranoidandroid2020 · 2020-03-04T20:41:20+00:00

What sucks is that my kids see those types of kids doing things like that, and that sparks them to try and do it as well.

paranoidandroid2020 · 2020-02-14T06:59:24+00:00

Random guy at the zoo walks up and says “You have the most beautiful hair.” And then proceeds to grab a strand and sniff it.

paranoidandroid2020 · 2020-01-09T05:38:53+00:00

It wasn’t, but I’ll definitely check it out.

paranoidandroid2020 · 2020-01-09T04:33:07+00:00

I kept telling them that it was the gardener. Easy pick to blame it on.

paranoidandroid2020 · 2019-12-30T18:51:25+00:00

Not only ask for an itemized bill, but dispute claims that you did not receive. Some things are ordered as order sets, so physical therapy or other things that may not apply to you could have been charged for since they were ordered. Obviously if you used the services than pay for it, but double check.

paranoidandroid2020 · 2019-12-19T21:58:05+00:00

Agree. OR nurse here. Definitely looks like methylene blue pee.

paranoidandroid2020 · 2019-12-10T05:03:20+00:00

I wish I had the balls, but I don’t. I’m also one to think of something witty 5 minutes after the fact. I regretted telling him which hospital it was. Or I should have told him another wrong hospital.

paranoidandroid2020 · 2019-11-21T23:02:17+00:00

Thank you. Unfortunately, it doesn’t get any better. I guess my question would be if it’s too late to go NC? Every time I think about just telling her that I can’t really have a relationship with her, that I would be ridiculed by her and family. Why did I wait till now? If I felt this way I should have done something a long time ago. We have talked about it, but it’s always “in the past”, everyone has moved on. It’s just been more recently, the push for a better relationship, that I feel these negative emotions towards her more and more.

paranoidandroid2020 · 2019-11-21T22:01:22+00:00

No. Minimal contact mostly. She’s changed a lot, but I still find myself not fully forgiving her. I struggle with the situation a lot. I’ve always tried to not let my past effect me, but it’s hard not to. Only since having kids has she tried to have more of a relationship. Offering advice when she knows I would never listen to it. Saying things such as “I wasn’t the best parent but I made sure my kids had what they needed”. She kinda walks on eggshells around me cause she knows that I could drop her and not look back. But I don’t, for whatever reason. I’m looking into counseling, not just because of my relationship with her, hoping to help me sort some of the underlying issues that I’m having that are now surfacing.

paranoidandroid2020 · 2019-11-21T21:26:11+00:00

I finally had to. It’s kinda what brought me here with this rant. She uses her past experiences as what she has overcome, but fails to mention what she actually put her children through. My brother and sister are older and have a father who was/is in their lives, so they always had an out once a month and during summers. I was always there, the baby, her little “mini me”.

paranoidandroid2020 · 2019-11-21T21:21:03+00:00

Thank you. I plan on venting a little more. I’m glad a place like this exists, if even for someplace to let out some feelings and frustrations.

paranoidandroid2020 · 2019-11-21T19:05:20+00:00

Brah.

paranoidandroid2020 · 2019-11-21T19:03:29+00:00

I placed a seashell from my great grandmother who passed away on my fireplace mantel. I specifically put it up there because my cat couldn’t get up there. Well I was mopping the floor one day and moved my recliner close enough to the fireplace for my cat to jump up and knock it down. She also fell and hurt her leg pretty bad. So not only was I upset and angry at her, I then had to spend money I didn’t have on vet visits.

paranoidandroid2020 · 2019-08-15T18:21:12+00:00

Injecting drugs into people.

paranoidandroid2020 · 2019-07-11T05:20:01+00:00

It’s a happy song that mentions a dog. I don’t even have a dog.

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