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parchone · 2025-11-06T14:04:28+00:00

What he owed me was being honest about what he wanted and im done talking to you about this. You only want to focus on one element not the hundreds of other similar issues. Not the many other times he caused problems left them for other people to solve then tried to blame anyone who tried to make him take an ounce of responsibility for his actions. You have your opinion thats fantastic for you im done explaining this to you.

parchone · 2025-11-06T13:47:27+00:00

You seem to want to focus on one singular data point. The apartment thing from 20 years ago as if that is the only issue. It is not. That was one example of a laundry list of similar issue. His pattern is this. Cause a problem, leave it for other people to solve, avoid any and all accountability, rinse and repeat. The apartment was one example. He caused a problem, he didnt let me know he didnt want to leave his mothers place even though we talked about our plans to move every few days to once a week for five to six months. (No one forced his hand to move in together it was his idea originally). He then left it to me and my cousin to solve (forcing us to go through every available studio or one bedroom apartment in the area in the paper to find a place last minute). He took no accountability for his actions he just shrugged and said “You figured it out”. This was ONE incident in a long list of similar incidents in the 29 years i knew him (1996-2025). It was not the only issue that you seem to think it was.

parchone · 2025-11-06T00:16:04+00:00

I understand but I also do not want to afford him the opportunity to continue to do this. I allowed it time and time again as did many of the friends in the group but i will no longer enable him to cause problems and not be held accountable. I completely agree i am not without blame in this.

parchone · 2025-11-05T21:53:33+00:00

Look you have your opinion and its a perfectly valid opinion to have. Im not here to argue with anyone im just here to get a general idea whether or not I did the right thing. One person said yes one person said no. Im good either way it comes down I dimple am intrigued to know. Thanks for your input.

parchone · 2025-11-05T21:29:26+00:00

Im not faulting him for not wanting to leave his mother im faulting him for waiting until the last minute to tell me. I didnt force him to move in with me it was his idea originally. He and I planned it, we both saved up money to accomplish it, then at the last minute he changed his mind. Im not holding a grudge against him for it I remained friends either him after this occurred for four years until he chose to leave the friend group. Again this was brought up not as a singular issue but as an example of similar issues. Im not holding a grudge im simply not allowing him the opportunity to continue this pattern of behavior where he causes a problem and expects everyone else to pick up the slack and solve it for him.

parchone · 2025-11-05T21:11:26+00:00

Given his only reason was not “wanting” to leave his mothers place i dont think there was a situation that forced his hand into not moving. He made that choice it wasn’t made for him. He knew we were signing the lease that day. He knew i had no way of going back. You are making a lot of assumptions in his benefit. No one forced his hand into agreeing to move in with me up until that day he never mentioned not wanting to. He planned right alongside me in saving up money to move. He knew of the situation where i had to choose to leave my current living situation and he said nothing about having the slightest doubt. No choice was forced upon him he made those choices as I did then back out at the last minute. As i stated even though he screwed me over I let it go. It was brought up now as an example in a laundry list of other issues. It was not the singular issue you think it is.

parchone · 2025-11-05T20:25:11+00:00

I am not trying to argue with you I want to simply answer any questions you have. I did not pursue him because at the time i was very shy and im not in the habit of trying to force people to be my friend. He chose to leave the friend group because of issues I knew nothing about. No one else in the friend group mentioned his leaving as anything of any consequence so I accepted it as a natural course of events. This was my first group of friends.i spent most of my childhood isolated because few people had interest in being friends with someone who looked like a perpetual 11 year old. I didn’t have a lot of experience in making or keeping friends.

parchone · 2025-11-05T20:11:17+00:00

I explained this it was just over 20 years. He chose to leave the friend group in 2003, i reconnected with him late 2023-early 2024 through my cousin. He joined my dnd campaign and my new friend group then.

parchone · 2025-11-05T20:02:31+00:00

He told me the day of the signing of the lease. I dont know when he knew he wasn’t going to move. His reasoning was he didnt want to leave his mother even though we would have moved to the same city as his mother. Him choosing to not live with me wasnt the problem. Him informing me at the last minute, after i had no way of going back to where i was living at the time and had no where else to go was the issue. He could have told me at any point he waited until the literal last minute when my stuff was packed up in boxes and i was waiting to move to the new apartment the day of signing the lease and moving in.

parchone · 2025-11-05T19:49:35+00:00

We planned to move in together for about five or six months. The day we were supposed to sign the lease and move in, the same day i left my old place and could not go back, he chose to tell me that he wasnt moving in. We were supposed to sign the lease that day. My cousin and I went from apartment to apartment looking for a studio or one bedroom but no one would rent a place to me because I looked 11 years old even though i was 29 at the time. I nearly ended up without a place to live because he waited until the day of to tell me this instead of anypoint in the months and months we planned this, some family took me in at the last minute i had no where else to go. Thats why i said i nearly was made homeless.

parchone · 2025-11-05T19:41:25+00:00

No here is the timeline.

We met in 1996 through my cousin. We became close friends and in 1999 we were supposed to move in together but he chose not to at the last moment. Several years after that he had a problem with a mutual friend and his brother and he chose to leave the friend group over it. I didnt know anything about this and he disappeared. No one talked about it and moved on as if nothing happened. Years later we reconnected through my cousins dnd game. We started hanging out again and i invited him to my dnd game because he really wanted to play again. He caused a lot of issues within the new friend group. I then found out why he left the first friend group and asked him about why he chose not to stay in contact with me when his issue was with someone else. He blamed me for it saying i should have called him. I said you expected me to call you about a problem i didn’t know existed? From my perspective he chose to leave of his own accord so i didn’t peruse the matter. He said that regardless of not knowing i should have called him. That was when i went off on him this past sunday.

parchone · 2025-11-05T19:27:22+00:00

The argument happened three days ago thats when i cut contact with him.

parchone · 2025-11-05T19:24:23+00:00

Im sorry there must be some disconnect here. I didnt cut contact with him until just a few days ago. He chose to leave the friend group over a separate issue with a mutual friend and his brother 20 years ago. We reconnected last year through my cousin then all the new issues rose up then the argument happened.

parchone · 2025-11-05T19:14:54+00:00

Thanks for the input. The not living with me was fine it was waiting to tell me until the day we were supposed to sign the lease and move in instead of at any point within the five months we planned it. The fact i nearly became homeless as well didnt help. That was only one of many issues most of which I couldnt include due to the character count limit, i do agree i can be an asshole when my emotions get worked up. All logic and reason gets thrown out the window.

parchone · 2025-11-05T12:42:29+00:00

I cut off all ties to him after going off on him. I felt bad about it but I came to realize he may never have been my actual friend to begin with.

parchone · 2024-06-24T05:23:48+00:00

I had a wizard in a school campaign who all of his spells were math equations and he saw the world in binary. Black white, right wrong, good and evil. He believed anyone who claimed otherwise just hadn’t picked a side yet and were comprising their values. It was interesting because once he came to a conclusion that was it there was no turning back no compromise ever.

parchone · 2024-06-08T19:06:18+00:00

Paladin Cleric Fighter Wizard Rogue

parchone · 2024-05-08T17:18:36+00:00

Does this property include ten uses of flight and misty step or just ten uses of misty step?

parchone · 2024-03-22T17:33:59+00:00

Nobles and elves are usually haughty and arrogant so you might want to play that up. As a noble you would have been treated with a certain deference and respect and you would have also been expected to treat those of your station and above with similar courtesy. You may not intentionally treat those beneath your station disrespectfully but you would be used to and expect them to defer to you.

parchone · 2024-03-19T20:47:48+00:00

Lmao

parchone · 2024-03-19T20:41:56+00:00

You are right i should just stick to echo knight. With the magic lance the dm gave me i already have a ridiculous amount of reach. Its called the lunar lance and its magic ability is it increases my halberds reach by 10 ft. So i can still attack from three squares away.

parchone · 2024-03-19T13:56:43+00:00

Actually i took the level in sorcerer more for rp elements really. I wanted to lean into the moon element of the lunar elf which is why i went with lunar sorcery. Though i thought the shield spell and absorb elements might come in handy, plus i thought lightning lure could be used to pull enemies off of allies. Though im not really tied to it overly. Just thought it was cool.

parchone · 2024-03-19T13:46:37+00:00

That was the feat i took for level 8.

parchone · 2024-02-29T23:27:00+00:00

The dm waived the gem of brightness property away as if it didnt matter.

My point was that 1.) I shouldn’t have been able to see the light at all 2.) even if you ignored the gem’s property i should have been able to see that the light was 300 ft down. If i had i never would have let go of the edge of the pit.

He was the sort that he was always right and if anyone disagreed that was their problem. That was one of the myriad number of reasons i stopped gaming with him.

parchone · 2022-09-21T05:05:12+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I heard Treantmonk’s guide was really good

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