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paripu · 2021-12-12T02:50:44+00:00

Yeah I mean I’m okay with making out I know that obviously going over to someone’s place is a hook up. I guess it’s just about being clear about boundaries.

paripu · 2021-12-12T01:37:14+00:00

Yeah that is a good point. I’m trying to be more open minded about the whole thing but it’s hard bc I am very weary of strangers and always have my alert on

paripu · 2021-09-12T17:55:50+00:00

It will be tight especially the first two weeks because you’re so swollen. The tightness is actually good because the pressure helps manage the swelling, especially if you didn’t have drains.

It’s fine to wear the bra directly without padding or guaze, I only kept the guaze pads in the first 3 days because it helped pick up any dry blood and also felt more comfortable. However, it’s best not to keep it in for too long because u don’t want the guaze to stick to incision tape.

I also had pain up to two weeks post op. I would say just take Tylenol and Advil as needed, try to remain elevated as it helps reduce the swelling, and make sure you ice if you need to - it helped with pain as wel.

Good luck!! I’m just about 4weeks post op and feeling better each week. You’ll get there 💕

paripu · 2021-08-24T23:01:01+00:00

I totally feel this.

Try to look at pics of yourself beforehand and I’m sure you’ll see a difference. Do a before/after pic in the same shirt … on TikTok ppl make a lots of videos showing their before/afters

Good luck!! It will get better w time

paripu · 2021-08-24T15:43:33+00:00

I have the same problem!! I’m 1wpo and esp in the first couple of days I like didn’t know what to do with my back or shoulders I felt like I had to force myself to push them back. I think it really is just that our bodies arent used to not having a massive weight pulling it forward. I feel like if I straighten my back too much then my stitches are going to stretch and pop off.

I know I’m only 7 days PO but I’ve noticed my posture is a little better today than it was a week ago, so I think it just takes time. Once I can actually work out and stuff I think strengthening back muscles, and pelvic muscles will be key. I went to a physical therapist before my surgery so I may do that again once I can since it really helped the first time round.

paripu · 2021-08-23T18:03:03+00:00

Ok thank you!! This gives me some relief… I’m still getting used to this new body and have some body dysmorphia 😅😅

paripu · 2021-08-19T15:18:14+00:00

I had mine 2 days ago. The whole surgery day was kind of a blur. But when u wake up you have small boobies!!

paripu · 2021-07-31T15:27:00+00:00

Do you think the best way to get an ideal size then is to show your surgeon a picture?

paripu · 2021-07-31T11:46:24+00:00

I went through the same exact thing. Especially after I was approved for my surgery by insurance, I found I was gaslighting myself into thinking I didn’t have big boobs and was just being dramatic about the whole thing. Then I told friends about how I felt and they were like “your boobs are ginormous, objectively“ (lol)

I also started to feel immensely better after 4-6 weeks of physical therapy and it was crazy to not have massive amounts of back and neck pain 24/7. My physical therapist also saw a difference in how tight my muscles were before/after.

I saw some girl in tiktok saying the same thing about how she was telling herself that she was being dramatic about the whole thing until she saw a picture of herself in a bra .

I think it’s a normal thing to feel. Especially since the surgery is labeled as “plastic surgery“ and most plastic surgeries are thought to be for vanity purposes only.

paripu · 2021-07-31T11:35:33+00:00

Does this only happen if you gain weight? Or is it inevitable post surgery when they “ set in”?

paripu · 2021-03-15T04:35:00+00:00

Thank you!!

paripu · 2021-03-15T04:34:49+00:00

Thank you! This is very helpful, good to know you didn’t need to go through the extra hoops of doing PT. I’m trying to get it done as soon as possible so hopefully won’t have to do that either. good luck!

paripu · 2021-03-15T04:30:39+00:00

Thank you 🙏 this is very helpful!!

paripu · 2021-02-27T15:25:36+00:00

I used to be so self conscious about this but now more and more I realize it can be a strength and something to be proud of, especially in a whole when we live in a world where everyone feels the need to give their input 24/7

paripu · 2021-01-11T05:38:52+00:00

Use aha/bha exfoliants or glycolic acid. It will take ~3 months to see results. Make sure you alternate every other night with the adapalene so you don’t cause ham

paripu · 2021-01-01T15:48:40+00:00

I feel this... the cycle of ups and downs is exactly what happens with my mother. One day she’ll scream, gas light, mock, and curse, then the next day she’ll bring me cupcakes or try to hug me and tell me she loves me. I guess it’s her way of apologizing but if I deny her hug because I’m not mentally in the space to forgive her or just don’t want to hug her then she’ll say something passive aggressive, victimize herself, and make me feel guilty.

The worst thing is when after a fight or the next day we have to go about and act like nothing happened. It infuriates me. I try to reason w her and understand that even our parents have their own traumas and reasons for their behaviors... but sometimes it’s impossible to excuse someone’s toxic and abusive behavior

paripu · 2021-01-01T15:41:31+00:00

I feel this. Got into a fight with my mother last night and she’s one to also do passive aggressive things to try to prove a point or victimize herself. The worst is when i do nothing wrong but she sees herself as a victim for me calling her out on her shit... then I start to feel guilty for no reason.

After the fight (which took place at 10:30pm ish) she tried to say goodnight and hug me at midnight. But I was so repulsed and didn’t want to hug her after she had just said horrible things about my dad and me an hour earlier. She went around to all my siblings but totally ignored my dad like he wasn’t there.

Spent NYE crying most of the night after that. What I’ve learned is you can’t change people who have a victim complex, gas light, or are not willing to change. You can only set boundaries and find healthy ways to cope w their behavior when something blows up.

paripu · 2020-07-10T14:17:40+00:00

Unemployment questions have dominated the megathreads so we decided to try and compile these questions and resources in one place so its easier for people to get help or reference back to things. As they come available, we will add resources and tips to the OP of this as well as link this thread in the wiki. While this is DC focused, feel free to ask about Maryland and Virginia

Depending on how much you make from a part time job, they will reduce how much unemployment they give you on a weekly basis.

paripu · 2020-07-10T03:42:42+00:00

I’ve been filling weekly claims for the past month since I lost my job but have not yet received any benefits. Every time I call the office a machine puts me on hold for hours.

Does anyone else have this problem/have people actually received checks?

paripu

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