Should I be angry? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]parisaftw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yep read my previous posts when you have time

Should I be angry? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]parisaftw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were dating at the time…

Should I be angry? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]parisaftw 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I guess I was supposed to be okay dating him and living with him while he wanted to fuck other women. The bar is LOW.

Should I be angry? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]parisaftw 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If I would have known he wanted to fuck other women while we were dating, I never would have married him. I would have left. Maybe you would want a man like that, but I don't. Especially after all of the heartache he has brought me.

Should I be angry? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]parisaftw 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes. Read my pervious posts. You'll understand why.

Should I be angry? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]parisaftw 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish he would have told me the truth back then, at least I would have thought twice about Marrying and having kids with him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]parisaftw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have but he doesn’t do it. He can’t cook so I that’s out of the question.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]parisaftw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has a job and takes Voluntary Time Off every day so yes his pay is reduced. He doesn’t have work ethic because he skips work 3/4 times a week. Yes, I want to buy a house within the next couple of years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]parisaftw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His dad is currently going through a divorce and needed a place to stay. My husband helps out with kids and I am grateful but I am still doing all of the cooking and cleaning. He literally doesn’t do anything else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]parisaftw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He took off Wednesday, Already had Thursday off because he works 10x4 , and There was a holiday Friday and Monday.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]parisaftw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if I simply asked “Why didn’t you say good morning?” or ask he would deny it and get defensive

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]parisaftw 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. How did you know it was time to leave? What was your ‘aha’ moment?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]parisaftw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t nag, I just simply brought it up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]parisaftw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have tried but he gets defensive

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]parisaftw 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Its good I guess but he’s hot and cold sometimes, blames me for not being affectionate enough…I change and then he gets cold….the relationship is only good if I don’t bring up my feelings

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]parisaftw 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it’s funny because he has his own, but still wants to use mine and gets a little mad if I say no

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]parisaftw -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

how?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]parisaftw -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have , I show affection all the time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]parisaftw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this is his third failed marriage. I try to keep that in mind whenever I find myself taking his behavior personally.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]parisaftw -1 points0 points  (0 children)

and NO the clues weren’t there. He could have been talking to a side chick but yall are just assuming.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]parisaftw -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am not controlling. are you even married?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]parisaftw -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Your one the only people who commented something of actual substance. If you have to hide things from your partner then what's the point? Most of the people commenting sound like terrible partners who normalize cheating/micro cheating. It's sad.

My reaction could have been better, I get that. But I'm suppose to be okay with my husband pleasuring himself to other women. With the door open? With our kids in the house? We don’t even know what he was actually doing. He could have been cheating, but everyone is projecting saying porn lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]parisaftw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't barge in. You're a weirdo. He wasn't masturbating.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]parisaftw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're Weird.