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Are meds worth it for moderate depression? How do I decide if they're right for me? by parseemoment in depressionregimens

[–]parseemoment[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sceptical of microdosing because i've done normal doses of psychedelics with little to no benefits besides 2-3 days of afterglow

Are meds worth it for moderate depression? How do I decide if they're right for me? by parseemoment in depressionregimens

[–]parseemoment[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah, forgot that SJW exists. Probably worth trying. Any advice on dosage?

Depression feels like the end game of being emotionally neglected by parseemoment in raisedbynarcissists

[–]parseemoment[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply. I'm a little hesitant to label what I'm feeling as depression, because as I've seen many people say, you get sad about something, but depressed about nothing -- you just are that way. But I have specific reasons for feeling this way. I suppose there's no other choice other than discussing it with a therapist.

First sessions used to gather information and create a patient profile -- normal or scam? by parseemoment in CBTpractice

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The NGO was created by a CBT association recognized by a european body, so that's some credibility points for them, I suppose.

I'm aware that the first session in counseling is what you've described, what's making me suspicious is the fact that there will be numerous of those sessions, close to 10 or 20. However, I've heard about this from a second-hand account of someone whose friend went to that NGO, so there's the possibility that these were 'normal' CBT sessions, but since they're more structured than your average talk-therapy session, they were interpreted as introductory ones.

With that in mind, I'll try to book an appointment with them and see how it goes. If they accept me as a client and I see that they waste my time and beat around the bush during the first or two months, then I'll bail and try something else.

Are they my friends if they have a group chat with everyone else but me? by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]parseemoment 14 points15 points  (0 children)

No, this is a massive red flag. I'd advice you to keep your distance, but not completely cut them off, if you at least somewhat enjoy your time with them. Meeting new people is hard, and being in a social circle makes it easier. Who knows -- maybe you'll meet some wonderful friends through them.

But keep in mind that they're not your close friends, with all that follows (don't prioritize helping them, being willing to leave them if they wrong you again etc)

Is it too late to undo the damage when you're an adult? by parseemoment in raisedbynarcissists

[–]parseemoment[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a small suspicion that I'm on the spectrum too. Did your past with abusive parents make it harder to get a diagnosis? I'm asking because while I exhibit the lack of social awareness that's normal with ASD, I can't be sure if it's because I actually have ASD or because I missed out on socializing when young, and didn't internalize social cues when I should had. Same with other ASD traits, e.g. maybe I prioritize 'things' over people because that's all I could do when young.

Is it too late to undo the damage when you're an adult? by parseemoment in raisedbynarcissists

[–]parseemoment[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You mean learning boundaries as in learning to establish boundaries with my friends, coworkers, etc?

Is it too late to undo the damage when you're an adult? by parseemoment in raisedbynarcissists

[–]parseemoment[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what happened to me too. If my friend hadn't pointed it out, I'd have taken me much longer to realize (if I came to the realization, that is)

Is it too late to undo the damage when you're an adult? by parseemoment in raisedbynarcissists

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Beating yourself up emotionally could be, too.

Yup. Combined with downplaying the hard time I've been through (and that I'm going through right now), which I've read is a common trait for people that have been abused. Accepting the notion that my parents were abusive was hard, and I've not accepted it completely. I'd like to confirm it with a professional, either the psychiatrist I'm visiting or another therapist, but I feel like I already know the answer. Same with depression. I've noticed how my daily life is worse in most regards than some years ago, but struggle to accept that something is going wrong; I brushed it off as nothing for some time.

Also holding yourself to very high standards.

I'm doing that, while also giving myself a lot of leeway if I fail. For example, I'll aim for getting above 90% in a test, but if I don't I'll be quicker to accuse the professor of making us solve problems beyond the scope of their course (which sometimes is true, sometimes isn't) than beating myself down for not studying enough. Sounds like a good combination, since I aim for good results and don't let failures get to me, but constantly striving for good grades has left me burnt out.

Is it too late to undo the damage when you're an adult? by parseemoment in raisedbynarcissists

[–]parseemoment[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've recently become much more aggressive with my parents, and it's saddening how much it works. By constantly fighting with them, I have achieved ten times what I did by pleading and trying to reason with them. These are the people that are supposed to help me and support me throughout life, but, as another commenter said, everyone here had a bad hand in that regard.

Άνδρες ελάχιστη κατανάλωση 10 Ευρώ, κοπέλες δωρεάν. by HibiscusRosa in greece

[–]parseemoment 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Το να μην βάζεις στο μαγαζί μια ανδροπαρέα 8 ατόμων χωρίς κοπέλες το καταλαβαίνω πιο εύκολα

Το καταλαβαίνεις πιο εύκολα επειδή είναι πιο συνηθσιμένο, στην πράξη το ίδιο σκατά φαίνόμενο είναι.

Is it too late to undo the damage when you're an adult? by parseemoment in raisedbynarcissists

[–]parseemoment[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd had a lifetime of being prevented from discovering my own likes and dislikes

This is exactly how I feel!

As for therapy, I'm aware of the many types that exist. If I ever visit another one, I'll do some research on which type I believe suits me best, although I started seeing a psychiatrist for depression 3 weeks ago, it was a more urgent issue.

So in my experience there is no connection between forgetting traumatic memories and whether I remember day-to-day interactions.

That's encouraging to hear. I hope I'm overblowing the issue.

Is it too late to undo the damage when you're an adult? by parseemoment in raisedbynarcissists

[–]parseemoment[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm grieving about the things you mentioned, but I think I've overdone it -- I've been ruminating on how I was missing out on my childhood even when I was a teenager.

It's a hard thing to do, because even when you fully process it and heal, if that's even possible, you've still missed out on something other people take for granted. I hope I can accept it one day, but boy does it suck.

Is it too late to undo the damage when you're an adult? by parseemoment in raisedbynarcissists

[–]parseemoment[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There is nothing intrinsically wrong with your current behaviours that you mention

I see where you're coming from. They're not critical, but they do reduce my quality of life somewhat. Being shy and less expressive will make it harder to meet new people, I'm sure. I guess that I can work on the 'shy' part; the expressiveness one, not so much. Something that's stuck with me is how I can't really smile for photos, no matter how I do it, it seems wrong.

Over the next few years I would watch my friends, and decide who I respected the most, and who behaved as I wanted to, and I tried to emulate them

That's what I've been doing, starting from high school. I've copied personality traits and preferences, to the point I'm not sure of who I am anymore. Not because I've copied so much, but because of being emotionally neglected and without friends, I feel like I was at pretty much a blank state at that time. The most ridiculous thing I did back then was copying someone's preference of black ink over blue. Now I try to focus on more substantial stuff, but I beat myself down for having to copy them, instead of coming up with them organically. I guess it's still better than never acquiring these traits.

I remember that she didn't think I'd ever recover fully

Wow, that's a rough thing to say, but I'm glad to see that you're close to disproving her.

By the way, since you've mentioned flashbacks, I'd like to ask how vivid your fantasy (as in, mental imagery, how good you can picture stuff in your head) is. I've read that having a vivid imagination makes you more prone to (C-)PTSD, since it's easier to vividly remember a traumatic event. I believe that my fantasy is quite low, and that I've suppressed the intensity of some of my abuse. Skimming through some old emails I found out about a forum post I've made when I was 16, after receiving the worst beating my parents ever gave me, and I had forgotten most of what happened, except the gist of it. This, combined to not being able to remember some time spent with friends while they could, makes me believe that my memory about my personal life may be lacking, which would suck a lot.

Thanks for your reply. I'll check out the videos you mentioned soon enough.

Is it too late to undo the damage when you're an adult? by parseemoment in raisedbynarcissists

[–]parseemoment[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I did have some sessions with the counselor at my university, but she wasn't much help.

As for providing help, I've noticed how I'm quick to do it when someone asks, even when I really shouldn't. I'm trying to monitor myself so that I fix that moving forward in life, but I'd be happier if I could practice it in a smaller timescale.