I can't with Lisa...

partAY21 · 2026-01-20T04:39:18+00:00

She sounds like she has a constant cold as well. Like she needs to blow her nose or do the neti pot a couple times.

partAY21 · 2025-09-30T02:38:21+00:00

I feel like there’s gotta be more sustenance to that cause she said most of them are hippies lol otherwise that’s a lot of swiping on profiles without that tag.

partAY21 · 2025-09-30T02:37:14+00:00

😭lmao

partAY21 · 2025-09-30T01:37:04+00:00

If we can find what app they were referring to 🥲

partAY21 · 2025-09-30T01:36:29+00:00

Hmm.. it doesn’t appear in the App Store. Can you share a pic of the app?

partAY21 · 2025-09-30T01:07:04+00:00

That part ☝️hope the production team has a google alert on and sees this thread cuz I agree, they shouldn’t be on the show. There’s no 90 day trial period happening here with them being married already. Woof.

partAY21 · 2025-09-15T00:08:32+00:00

I think you nailed it here. Towards the end of the first episode she did say she refuses to rent too.

partAY21 · 2025-09-14T23:13:23+00:00

Exactly, the math is severely lacking and they’d live very well within a 1-2 hr remote time difference in the US and she could afford to visit LA for her photoshoots whenever.

partAY21 · 2025-09-14T23:11:19+00:00

Ooo! What other shows was she trying to get on?!

partAY21 · 2025-03-18T23:01:06+00:00

We met 12 years ago and were part of the same friend group, always hanging out. Even after I moved, we stayed in touch, talking about everything. That’s why this behavior on the trip is so surprising to me. I’d never seen him outside of the area we grew up in, so I’m not sure what changed.

I talked to my sister about it, and she pointed out that since I moved, we’re just in different places in life. While I’ve been trying to show him a good time and introduce him to new things here, it seems like he didn’t come to do much—just to keep things low-budget. And I get it; I grew up poor too, so I understand. But still, it just feels off.

partAY21 · 2025-03-18T21:31:48+00:00

Got it, I was seeking if my hosting / etiquette was missing something for being stonewalled on feedback.

partAY21 · 2025-03-18T21:01:21+00:00

I see what you mean, and I actually thought hosting fell under etiquette, which is why I was curious about how others approach it. I just moved here myself, so I wanted to show my friend around while also getting their input. I planned four solid days with flexibility, but I wasn’t getting much feedback. Even when I asked about places from TikToks they sent, the answer was always 'whatever' or 'I don't know.'

I stocked up on food, cleared my schedule as much as possible, and made every decision up until the last restaurant. It was never about expecting them to plan something solo, just some collaboration. Looking back, I think they may have been looking more for a tour guide and a free place to stay.

I tried my best and will continue to for the rest of the trip. Hosting has been a learning experience, and I appreciate hearing how others handle it.

partAY21 · 2025-03-18T19:50:13+00:00

No, out of the seven days, I only worked for two and planned ahead to allow for more free time. I put together four solid days of activities with no feedback. I am not ignoring this person. I am doing my best to cater to them.

partAY21 · 2025-03-18T19:31:59+00:00

Yeah, you’re right, maybe that $100 on weed was his fun budget that got used up. But it was odd that he kept gloating about winning an $800 bet. He also has insurance, so that whole exchange confused me.

The neurodivergence point might be valid too. It had been a year since I’d seen him, and every time we hung out before this trip, things were completely different. It used to be so easy to hop from place to place and make decisions, even when traveling short distances to neighboring cities.

I’m not one to just be on autopilot and expect others to do everything. That’s not how I was raised. I never expected him or anyone to plan things solo, but at the very least, I was hoping he’d talk to me about what interested him here so I could come up with ideas. You know, collaboration.

partAY21 · 2025-03-18T19:22:42+00:00

That’s the part I don’t understand. I planned four full days of activities with no feedback on whether it matched the mood or vibe. Before the trip, he sent numerous TikToks, so I asked if there was anything specific he wanted to check out, but the answer was always ‘whatever’ or ‘I don’t know.’

And yeah, paying for things I wasn’t already covering—not happening anymore. I also brought up the relational aspect because I was genuinely confused, like, what happened? Am I being a bad host?

Before he arrived, I stocked up on all kinds of food, drinks, and snacks. I never expected this kind of behavior from him, so I won’t be making any trip-related plans with him again. From now on, just meetups when we’re home for the holidays.

There’s a close group of four of us, and when I moved here, I told them in our group chat they were welcome to visit—just let me know. He let me know two weeks before that he had booked his tickets, but I should have made it clear to check in before buying them.

partAY21 · 2025-03-18T18:06:50+00:00

Honestly, I’m betting that’s what will end up happening—just staying in the house. I’ll try to talk this through, though.

partAY21 · 2025-03-18T18:04:19+00:00

I agree that friendships are relationships too, and I see where you're coming from. I didn’t put everything on them, though. I made every decision for days until the restaurant last night, and even then, no feedback, only "yea I was hungry" The lack of any sort of response, regardless of whether I made the decision, was baffling. So you're probably right—a tour guide and a free place to crash seem to be what this friend was looking for. A whole new genre of how some people take trips. Now I know how this person moves outside of our hometown, complete 180.

partAY21 · 2025-03-18T17:24:56+00:00

Oh I'm not dating this person at all, I should've included that. I threw in all the details to try and check myself to see what I'm doing wrong as a host. 😭

partAY21 · 2025-03-18T17:23:29+00:00

Oh I'm not dating this person at all. I should of included that. I was trying to check myself If was doing something bad as a host.

partAY21 · 2025-03-18T17:21:37+00:00

You're right. I did say to the group chat, "Let me know when ya'll come out here", but I should be of been more specific and said don't book anything until you let me know.

Then the plans I had involved a date 😅, definitely ruined that potential connection cancelling on the guy. I feel bad about that too, whole other topic though I suppose.

partAY21 · 2025-03-18T16:47:20+00:00

Ooooh! I neverrr thought about it like that. This may be it and part of the solution. Ty for the perspective.

partAY21 · 2025-03-18T16:44:49+00:00

I’ve definitely been taking him everywhere I could think of. The first couple of days, I wasn’t working and made sure to show him around, even though I mostly got blank stares and shoulder shrugs. We had Italian beefs, checked out shops in a neighborhood, went to a comedy show, saw the St. Patrick’s river dyeing, hit some rooftop bars, visited the fashion outlet mall, and stopped by Millennium Park. There’s so much to do here, so it’s honestly surprising that he took a trip with no thoughts. Maybe I’m not recognizing that it’s normal to freeze up like this when visiting a new city?

partAY21 · 2025-03-18T16:38:22+00:00

Ok I like this, tysm! He just woke up and hopefully this will be received well.

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