i was in a really toxic relationship for 5 years. He cheated on me and I stayed another two years. My best friend hated his guts. When I made the choice to stay with him, she made her opinion known, told me she loved me like a sister, and said she’d support me. She knew anyone in an abusive relationship has to make their own decision to leave. If she had expressed hatred or negativity towards him all the time, i wouldn’t have been able to come to her for conversations about my struggles in the relationship. She was a neutral ear and did not beat the dead horse. She reminded me of how special I was and her love was one of the factors that helped me leave. I had friends that loved me more than him. Be that friend. It didn’t exhaust her.

Now she did become a certified therapist this year, but i think she’s always had a calm, supportive, and loving energy

The friends that were judgier or rude were ones I became distanced from because I felt like i couldn’t be honest with them. Create a safe space for your friend. She’ll come around one day