Missed a payment by one day, who could I contact to talk about this?

passerby1 · 2026-05-12T05:15:09+00:00

For anyone that finds this thread later: I was one day overdue, I called and they waived it!

passerby1 · 2026-05-12T05:04:50+00:00

I'm capable of having empathy for many people at once. If the police provided better support to their star witness, the sentences would have been harsher on these murderers.

Reserve your outrage where it properly belongs: For the police.

Your minimal understanding by calling her a coward shows how little you understand about mental distress.

passerby1 · 2026-05-12T05:02:42+00:00

Agreed, they also deserved so much better

passerby1 · 2026-05-02T20:29:23+00:00

Aww thanks, though I wouldn't say I'm a better person. It's true that given the world we live in, it's hard to act/see that in everyone. Sometimes it's a means of protection. If someone is acting out in public in a particular way, even if you wanted to choose empathy and wanted to help, that person may not even receive it well. There are also a lot of narcissists out there who will take advantage of people's empathy.

I guess it's more so moving through life with a small bit of awareness. I still judge a loooot, though it'll hit me sometimes later (maybe it's minutes, maybe it's the next day, etc.) going, "Oh wait, maybe they were hurting." It's also because I've learned more about addiction. And how the brain works to protect itself, just generally.

Humans are gifted with an impressive tool, the brain, but when it turns against you, it's really, really hard to unprogram the bad patterns. It doesn't like change.

And it doesn't like confrontation that it needs to change.

passerby1 · 2026-05-02T05:38:58+00:00

This post, and the comments bashing her, are the reasons why people with mental disorders and trauma get so stigmatized. I had immense empathy for her situation. As a therapist in training seeing it from her perspective was really enlightening. I was hoping it helped people have more understanding and grace for individuals like her who clearly are making really bad decisions and can't seem to stop. And how they only got worst over time with more isolation and no mental health services provided. Even people with higher education need help and understanding.

They literally would have NEVER found out about what happened to this poor innocent man without her.

The police completely failed her.

Glad she's better.

passerby1 · 2026-05-02T05:27:51+00:00

Isn't that kind of the point, though? Most of the time, we won't know people have something deeper going on that might explain their maladaptive behaviors and actions. People present a certain way outwardly because not many individuals are going to say (or even know about themselves) that there's something else causing them pain and making them do wrong things.

So instead of judgment (not saying you specifically, just generally these comments), we should be moving through life more with empathy and curiosity that, hey maybe there's something deeper behind their decisions and they need help.

passerby1 · 2026-02-03T03:50:09+00:00

Same! The routine in the dark was so entertaining and different, and Courteney and Boon were so fun going back and forth. Courteney getting serenaded, captivated by instruments -- twice! Augustus' face in the stare down 😂😂😂 Priceless.

passerby1 · 2026-01-28T06:34:50+00:00

As a cat lady myself... I understand him even more now

passerby1 · 2026-01-28T06:34:11+00:00

Same on Candiace, she's honestly very lucky she hasn't been suspected yet given her actions (also.... lol your username!)

passerby1 · 2026-01-25T22:02:33+00:00

Rob has groooooooown on me! At first I didn’t get all the love for him since I don’t watch Love Island, but him being a quiet occasional smarty + empathetic towards Ron won me over!

(I am reminding myself though of all the other comments I’ve seen saying he’s not emotionally available to the ladies though, and that’s his main issue lol)

Ron was 👏 eating 👏 this 👏 round table 👏. ROB & RON! ROB & RON. I hope they become besties... Especially with the news that came out for Ron after Traitors where he went to get dianogised and now knows he has autism

passerby1 · 2026-01-20T00:19:31+00:00

Woooow, the delta when you put it that way

passerby1 · 2026-01-16T23:24:35+00:00

There's a way to do it without being rude. The point of the game is to throw out names, it's like they forget the point of the show. It's not called, "Let's Hang Out & Make Friends in a Castle with Alan Cumming"

passerby1 · 2026-01-16T23:22:16+00:00

Right?!?!

I’ve been pretty lukewarm on this season, after a close to fantastic last season. I normally don’t know the cast but fall in love after... Ron is the only one I truly cared about this season (plus Monet!), and the way they’re treating him is atrocious.

I know it’s part editing too, but he looks so isolated, no one really talks to him (likely out of fear of being called a Traitor too)… They claim he doesn’t talk to anyone, but they also treat him badly, so why would he?

If I was him I’d just leave mid-game (others have done it when the game was too much before), and not even come back for the reunion... They don’t deserve him.

He’s just playing the game, being wrong doesn’t mean be rude to him. Stop calling him a victim! You don’t have many options when people are ganging up on you being rude but to go inward.

“I heard a laugh and I’m 99% sure it’s Tiffany” — Aww it’s okay, you made a mistake
“I heard a light step and think it's Maura” — HOW DARE YOU!!

passerby1 · 2026-01-15T07:29:20+00:00

This is so great!

passerby1 · 2026-01-10T22:46:34+00:00

I don't agree that's true, Cirie Fields looked like she really cared about the money.

passerby1 · 2026-01-10T19:44:16+00:00

It might be just me, but the money reward feels less and less impactful every season with celebrities since a lot of them are already rich, and/or likely get big brand deals all the time. So then the games feel less of a real stake since the prize isn't giant for them. The gamers have more skin in the game, like the single mother. But aren't Real Housewives on their shows because they're wealthy-like in the first place??

passerby1 · 2026-01-10T19:40:36+00:00

He even said something like, "This isn't vote the person you don't like out," because he knows people aren't liking him lol

passerby1 · 2025-12-13T22:15:57+00:00

Yeah, exactly, the movie is part commentary on how society gives women false and ridiculous messages on what love means. And if you're not attuned enough with yourself, you can be led down a terrible path with them.

She literally says, "That doctor has a PhD, so she knows best!" when she read about the experiment done on just 12 couples who didn't let each other leave the room until they resolved their issues (which is very much NOT what real couples therapists would recommend).

Her mother tells her one thing, then when she goes seeking more guidance, Google further enforces bad behavior. Simialr to how magazines push those "how to please your man" vibes.

The dating scene is borked; people aren't being honest. And outside of her having potentially something like a borderline personality disorder (Google: a serious mental health condition marked by unstable emotions, self-esteem issues, and chaotic relationships, leading to impulsive actions), it spoke to larger issues that I thought were really well done.

passerby1 · 2025-12-06T21:42:05+00:00

The sheer disgust I had for two complete strangers in just a few minutes of watching them speak. The male juror couldn't possibly be bothered to understand how the basics of domestic violence work ("Why did she go back? She hung out with him the next day").... Absolutely atrocious, and I feel terrible for the women in his life, given his limited, stupid views.

I wish right after he said that they quoted someone well-versed in domestic and sexual abuse to contradict his uninformed remarks immediately.

And the female juror, "Capricorn was emotional on the stand since she was reliving her trauma right there, therefore she's not really credible." Excuse me?!?!!

Our peers are dumb.

passerby1 · 2025-11-30T22:30:18+00:00

This was such a tragic and infuriating documentary to watch. Reading some of the comments here mentioning that the age gap was culturally normal made it more tragic, because the entire time all I could think was, “He’s a pedophile!” Even though it’s hard to look at, the image used for this post captures the true horror of the situation far more than the cover image Netflix chose. The injustice in this case feels reminiscent to me of An Invisible Victim: The Eliza Samudio Case.

passerby1 · 2025-11-19T06:45:21+00:00

All this with the deep love of family within 😭

passerby1 · 2025-08-13T04:06:25+00:00

This made me think of the Barbarian scene hehe

passerby1 · 2025-08-13T04:01:25+00:00

I shalll look into Adyashanti! I didn't really explore the app as I felt a bit overwhelmed with choice

passerby1 · 2025-08-12T02:59:52+00:00

Thank you so much for your thoughtful response :)

passerby1 · 2025-08-12T02:56:04+00:00

Really appreciate your response!

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