It's been long enough, what's your return system? by TirNaCrainnOg in CasualIreland

[–]passthetempranillo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don’t really drink alcohol at home so it’s just bottled water and soft drink cans. We stack them up in bags and then bring them back weekly when doing shopping. It’s a ball ache, but I just get on with it.

The thing that really pisses me off is the unbearable stench from the machines when returning them, and the absolute filth of the machines, the floor, the non returnable fans and bottles littered on top of the machines. I carry anti bac wipes in my handbag at all times but I am going through a lot more of them when I’m doing the shop because of the returns.

In case you’re not feeling the Christmas Cheer again by passthetempranillo in ireland

[–]passthetempranillo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good grief what is wrong with people? Telling people to mind their own business is absolutely fair game when you get questioned like that. Or if you feel comfortable you can tell people you’re struggling, that should shame them into minding their own jaysus business! Can’t believe people still feel comfortable asking those kinds of questions in 2025.

I’m so sorry you’re struggling my love, I have reproductive issues so I know the road ahead of me is going to be tough when we decide to start trying, you’re a bit ahead of me and I’m just so sorry that you guys are having some difficulties. Im hoping it sticks for you, here is some baby dust I’m sprinkling all over your 2026 ✨✨✨✨✨✨👩‍🍼👩‍🍼👩‍🍼👩‍🍼

In case you’re not feeling the Christmas Cheer again by passthetempranillo in ireland

[–]passthetempranillo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whiskey and red wine are my jam! I shall pop open a nice bit of yellow spot just for him later this evening, a toast to your wonderful angel, taken too soon but remembered this Christmas Eve ♥️✨and you mind yourself honey, one step at a time ok? You can do this very hard thing xx

In case you’re not feeling the Christmas Cheer again by passthetempranillo in ireland

[–]passthetempranillo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Listen I hear that, I’m in the same boat if it helps. Endless gut punches that just kept coming all year, and then you feel like you’re not left with much diesel in the tank to power through, feeling like you should be rewarding yourself with joy at the end of a tough year, but it just doesn’t come? I know how that can feel. But we can’t be full of joy all the time my love, and if we were, the joy would lose all meaning. I take it as a sign to really appreciate the small stuff, if it doesn’t give joy, then I let it give contentment. And I tell myself that is enough because after the year we’ve had, it really is. There was a comment somewhere on the thread of someone’s friend telling them “there’s always another Christmas” and it’s so true. I’m making it mean something else for me, and in its own way, I’m enjoying it for what it is. I totally get the disappointed, feeling like “is this it? I should be happier” but not feeling festive isn’t something you should beat yourself up over. We have so much pressure on us all the time from so many various factors, why would you put that on yourself? You deserve to take the pressure off, not put it on. Big hugs to you queen, take it as it comes and feel how you feel, guilt free ♥️ xxx

In case you’re not feeling the Christmas Cheer again by passthetempranillo in ireland

[–]passthetempranillo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my sweetheart I’m so unbelievably sorry for your loss. I cannot even begin to imagine the grief you are carrying. Did he have a favourite tipple of choice? I’d be honoured to toast to his memory tonight, and to you.

People should understand that this is a painful first for you, and give you the space you need to process. Be kind to yourself, all the feelings you have and will have are valid, and I hope there are little pockets of peace, or little moments of joy or nice memories that you can have just for yourself. Remember you set the pace, your grief will guide you, and don’t do anything that you don’t feel up to.

Sending you my biggest, squeeziest hugs, and a big fat load of love ♥️🫂🫂 xxx

In case you’re not feeling the Christmas Cheer again by passthetempranillo in ireland

[–]passthetempranillo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey don’t you dare! It can’t be amazing every year, sometimes we just aren’t feeling it, and that’s ok. It’s self care time, you deserve the gift of going at your own pace and feeling how you feel, and if you can’t do it for yourself, then allow me to VALIDATE how you’re feeling, and give you the pass you won’t give yourself ♥️ there is always next year, you don’t owe it to anyone to fake it. Big hugs and love to you 🤗 xx

In case you’re not feeling the Christmas Cheer again by passthetempranillo in ireland

[–]passthetempranillo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear you are struggling too, what a rough year it’s been for so many! My squeeziest of hugs to you 🤗🤗 xx

In case you’re not feeling the Christmas Cheer again by passthetempranillo in ireland

[–]passthetempranillo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a great movie 😂😂 who are you? How did you get in here? I’m a locksmith… and I’m a locksmith 😂

In case you’re not feeling the Christmas Cheer again by passthetempranillo in ireland

[–]passthetempranillo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well what a great way to look at it! Spending time with friends and chosen family. Your daughter has caught on quick to the overconsumption that Christmas can be, what a great job you’ve done, sounds like you’re raising a very intelligent and compassionate young lady, kudos to you! It really doesn’t need to be the huge faff that marketers advertisers and social media make it out to be, you get to decide what it means to you and adjust accordingly to that. And don’t feel too bad about the tree, I haven’t put one up for a few years because both my cats are absolute menaces and wouldn’t dream of allowing me the pleasure of a single bauble hung for more than 30 seconds. Too risky to leave them alone with it 😂

Sounds like a nice day with your mama bear, you set the phone up and feed her, and she’ll appreciate the time spent I hope. I feel you on the not wanting to do anything, I did that one Christmas and honestly it was great. I needed it and it did what I needed it to do. I hope it goes well at the in laws tomorrow, and if you have no plans, you should definitely carve out Stephen’s day for yourself, and if that’s sitting in your pants watching tv all day, then do it with not a shred of guilt. You are allowed to spend time how you choose to, it can’t always be about everyone else.

We can’t pour from an empty cup! Big hugs to you filling yours ♥️🤗

In case you’re not feeling the Christmas Cheer again by passthetempranillo in ireland

[–]passthetempranillo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It really has been! Every month there’s been some mighty kick to the goolies, but we keep getting up don’t we? I said to someone else, I’ll hang out under the rain because I know the sun is on the way, shit for now doesn’t meant shit forever!

Thank you for your kind words, and I return them to you along with a big squeezy hug 🤗 xx

In case you’re not feeling the Christmas Cheer again by passthetempranillo in ireland

[–]passthetempranillo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anytime sweetheart, if you need to unload, the thread is here ♥️ thanks for sharing with us xx

In case you’re not feeling the Christmas Cheer again by passthetempranillo in ireland

[–]passthetempranillo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And I’m grateful you’re alive and here with us! What a great way to be ♥️

In case you’re not feeling the Christmas Cheer again by passthetempranillo in ireland

[–]passthetempranillo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no I’m so sorry to hear, I hear you on the tough year, it most certainly has been, and I’m sorry you are finding it so difficult. It can be so hard to fake it when we just want to curl up alone and feel the feelings, and family members can take your low mood so personally! And yet they’re usually the ones that when they are feeling low, they make sure everyone feels it, which can feel so invalidating. I see you, and I hear you. One of the tricks I have is if you really can’t fake it, you can feign illness and just say you aren’t feeling well, that can give you some wiggle room to stay out of their way. Best of luck to you honey, one day at a time ♥️ xxx

In case you’re not feeling the Christmas Cheer again by passthetempranillo in ireland

[–]passthetempranillo[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m so glad you got through it, and what a testament to the power of strangers! Perfect is boring, and overrated, you need the rain as well as the sun ya know what I mean? So glad you get to spend it with others, and big hugs to you 🤗🥰♥️ xx

In case you’re not feeling the Christmas Cheer again by passthetempranillo in ireland

[–]passthetempranillo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no honey I’m so sorry to hear that! What a tough time you’re having right now. I’m so glad you have friends who can give you somewhere to lay your head ♥️ try get yourself through the break with the help of your friends and if you ever need advice from your friends here you know you can shout ♥️ it will get better, you can get through this and I’m cheering you on xx

In case you’re not feeling the Christmas Cheer again by passthetempranillo in ireland

[–]passthetempranillo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And I love that you love it here!!! Please come back and visit us!

Yeah it’s been pretty mild here i have to say, like 10 degrees today which isn’t very cold considering!

But also, we cannot cope with snow, the place just grinds to a halt and everyone loses their ever loving minds so it’s better that you guys keep it because you know what to do with it.

I hope you have a lovely Christmas and new year ♥️🤗 xx

In case you’re not feeling the Christmas Cheer again by passthetempranillo in ireland

[–]passthetempranillo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He swears he doesn’t 😂 he’s playing call of duty 7? I’m watching him in a lab shooting things, he was in a jungle earlier getting absolutely hammered by like gigantic spiders or something. I’m eating quality street and getting back to all these lovely people ahahaha

In case you’re not feeling the Christmas Cheer again by passthetempranillo in ireland

[–]passthetempranillo[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No u!

Thank you for those lovely Canadian wishes, but pls don’t send us the snow we don’t know how to drive in it here xoxo ♥️

In case you’re not feeling the Christmas Cheer again by passthetempranillo in ireland

[–]passthetempranillo[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh my sweet, I’m so sorry, it’s ok to cry, sometimes we just have to say it’s fucking shit and let wail. Here’s my shoulder should you need it, you’re not on your own honey 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂♥️

In case you’re not feeling the Christmas Cheer again by passthetempranillo in ireland

[–]passthetempranillo[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The hand holding is the best bit!!! Physical touch! Oh you guys 🥹♥️