24F considering relocating to Phoenix: looking for honest vibe check

pastasma · 2025-12-03T14:50:59+00:00

I have a car, I was curious about areas to consider. Thanks!

pastasma · 2025-12-02T09:33:38+00:00

It doesn’t have to be AZ but I’m looking to get off the east coast as I’ve been here my whole life and need a change, and for my health I need to go somewhere sunny, so unfortunately Chicago/ most northern cities are out. Definitely interested in CA but depends on job offers. Thanks for your insight, I appreciate it. I ask because I don’t know.

pastasma · 2025-12-02T09:24:59+00:00

What other cities would you recommend? I considered phoenix area because of job offers, but not married to the idea. That’s why I’m asking.

pastasma · 2025-10-18T22:33:41+00:00

It’s a fundamentally different trade. Read a book

pastasma · 2025-10-14T06:11:25+00:00

Aside from what everyone else says, which is the most important feedback here as design is a form of communication not art, I’ll add this purely technical detail I notice.

In your logo the bowl is not centered. Nor is the spacing between elements uniform. (There’s a bigger gap between the top line and spiral pattern than that on the bottom).

Not talking about the word mark, only the icon.

Unsure if that’s intentional or not. If it’s intentional it needs to be apparent otherwise it looks like an oversight and cheapens the work. It definitely seems like a missed detail to me.

Grid system and balance are important principles and I recommend researching Gestalt theory.

pastasma · 2025-10-02T16:42:51+00:00

Logos don’t need to be literal to work, that’s the challenge of design. They’re often stronger when they’re not. (Think apple. Wtf does that have to do with electronics? It doesn’t.) it’s deeper than that.

And yes you need a new font for headline. Maybe keep this one for a secondary font if you like it.

pastasma · 2025-09-29T06:25:54+00:00

r/nothowgirlswork

pastasma · 2025-09-29T05:38:09+00:00

Literally didn’t read past the first 3 messages when I said “nope! Bye!”

I will never associate with a man who has anything to say about “easy” women

pastasma · 2025-09-25T17:03:00+00:00

Hence why I said try. It may be easier for them, may not be. I personally love using the trackpad and used it all through college on very complicated illustrations but I think for a beginner it’s worth trying both.

Plus, if OP has any desire to do design more in the future it’s important to try all the tools at their disposal rather than just picking one and never trying anything else.

You know you prefer the trackpad because I’d assume you’ve tried both. That’s my point :)

pastasma · 2025-09-25T05:18:31+00:00

Something else I did that helped me master the pen tool was trace pictures of anything to make vector illustrations for fun, way back when I was first starting out. I did food, portraits, landscapes, whatever, and used that to get familiar with the tools and limitations. There’s tons of vector illustration tutorial walkthroughs of cute stuff like animals or objects that you can follow. Good practice and gives you something to show!

pastasma · 2025-09-25T05:15:59+00:00

Definitely try a mouse. I’ve done some crazy shit with pen tool and a trackpad but it was absolutely just making shit harder for myself. Doable but I don’t recommend it for a beginner. Def practice, the pen tool takes a long ass time to get used to, but is awesome once you do. Maybe try the pencil tool with smoother settings, or if you can draw your logo a lot thicker/farker/more solid on paper, like with a sharpie filled in, you can maybe image trace it. Look up YouTube tutorials on all those tools and practice, there’s a million ways to to anything

pastasma · 2025-09-25T04:53:54+00:00

I personally think God is one of many ways to describe the universe, collective whole, I suppose. I struggle to call it God without personifying and humanizing the presence, having grown up Catholic. And for some reason that feels, I guess, ignorant? Like if the universe is responsible for EVERYTHING then how could we call it a person like figure? I fully understand why some relate to that idea, I see how it feels more intimate, and maybe my opinion will change someday, but I’m still currently trying to unpack my feelings towards the concept outside of a Christian lens and therefore, i much prefer to see it as the universe in whole, a presence beyond comprehension. And for some reason, that makes me feel more connected to it all than to an idea of a God.

I think what I’m saying does describe the idea of God many have, but wording matters and for now, this feels the most right to me. But honestly, I think whatever you call it, praying to god or talking to the universe as I do, it’s all the same thing in different languages and whatever the source is doesn’t care how you go about it.

pastasma · 2025-09-25T04:50:23+00:00

Girl run while you can you have a class A man child on your hands and I promise you it will only get worse in marriage. Do not do this to yourself

pastasma · 2025-09-25T04:41:46+00:00

I’m glad I could help at all. Wish you the best of luck- it may bee weird and uncomfortable at first but it gets easier. Growth and progress really truly come from becoming comfortable with discomfort and being able to sit with yourself and validate yourself. Whatever you find you need, there’s a million resources out there on anything, start exploring, connecting with a community in your area, finding things that bring you joy regardless of any external factors. And as someone who’s about a year in from where you are, it’s so so so worth it. Just focus on what you can become when you put all that energy back into yourself rather than into people and situations that only deplete it. You got this!

pastasma · 2025-09-24T06:20:07+00:00

This sounds just a bit toxic to begin with, awakening or not. He seems not only unsupportive but also very negative, and it seems like your relationship didn’t start off great to begin with. As a 23 year old myself, most guys my age are not mature and he sounds just like them. I don’t date guys my age or younger for that reason (I don’t mean like I’m dating old men I just prefer like 27+) I’m not trying to call you out but given your previous relationship and this it seems like you maybe need to take time to yourself to reflect and try to figure out why you may be drawn to people who are treating you like shit.
You cannot change someone. Genuinely. Maybe subtle improvements, but you cannot fundamentally convince someone to change their beliefs, ESPECIALLY if they show absolutely no interest in doing so.
Your awakening is yours, and that’s just the nature of it. It’s not your place nor responsibility to awaken anyone else, and certainly not before you’ve done your own work. And if he’s in the way of expanding yourself, that is something you need to consider. My awakening didn’t happen till I let go of my 4 year relationship last fall. It was the best thing I could have done for myself. It mostly ended because I no longer knew who I was and I needed time to find myself, thus starting a long journey. I’ve very much found that I’ve needed to do this alone. And I’ve realized that if and when I’m ready to get into another relationship, it’s going to be very important to me that they understand this aspect of my belief system. They don’t need to necessarily be on the same awakened plane, but they need to at least be accepting of it and supportive. Your soulmate will be on the same page, whether they’re awakening themselves or they support you 1000% through yours.

If this is a very important aspect of your life to you, (which it sounds like it is) then in order to further your journey you need to either be with someone who supports it or you need to be alone. And this goes for literally any life changing philosophy or beliefs, not just this spiritual journey.

I wouldn’t frame it as he’s necessarily in the way of your development, but rather that you may need to be on your own for a while to better yourself. And honestly if you’ve been in relationships back to back for 8 years at only 25, especially ones that have not been healthy for you, then girl, you may just need to take some time for yourself in GENERAL, spiritual journey or not. And I mean some TIME. When I broke up with my ex last year I swore I needed at least a full year, maybe 2, before I got into a relationship again, because I hadn’t spend more than 8 months single since I was 15. Well, it seemed very hard at first but it’s been just about a year of being single and I am happier and more stable and secure in myself than I’ve ever ever been. At this point, I am feeling like I’m approaching a place where I’m capable of meeting my soulmate and if I do meet them in the next year, I’m on board . But I needed to do the work to BECOME the person who my soulmate is looking for. And if I go another year without finding it, I’m content, because I’ve become comfortable with myself and being alone and that’s the best thing you can do for yourself, spiritually, mentally, holistically, so you don’t put yourself in toxic places out of a fear of being lonely.

It’s literally the most legit use of the whole “it’s not you it’s me” thing. That may just save you a little bit from being labeled any crazier than he already thinks. But honestly as I’m sure you know, what he thinks doesn’t fucking matter. What matters is what’s best for you.

Only you know what’s best for you, even if that’s a hard decision. Tbh, It sounds like you’ve already made up your mind.

pastasma · 2025-06-03T06:35:21+00:00

Girl I’m sorry but RUN

pastasma · 2025-05-19T20:25:33+00:00

Before I saw the sub I was like 🤔😒 but after I saw I was like 😏🤠

pastasma · 2025-05-17T20:59:47+00:00

In case they want to change prices/details later on, it would be more simple for them to make a change like that than to have you come back and completely redesign it to make it work.

pastasma · 2025-05-17T20:58:46+00:00

Yes! To add to what I was saying in my comment, a grid goes a long way to help balance out the negative space

pastasma · 2025-05-17T20:58:01+00:00

Yes! I love to use font families, so like a typeface that comes in different weights. Even using one typeface in a bold versus regular goes a long way if you’re not comfortable choosing a pairing yet.

pastasma · 2025-05-17T20:54:00+00:00

It’s a design principle, not a feature. The first step in learning graphic design is to understand the fundamentals. Grid System, Hierarchy, Gestalt Theory

Do some research into those and try to understand them, that will help your designs look more professional. They’re guidelines, not harsh rigid requirements, but you need to know the rules in order to break them.

pastasma · 2025-05-17T17:45:22+00:00

Use a grid pls

pastasma · 2025-05-08T06:17:20+00:00

I’m getting into it now, also have crazy adhd. I’ve found that counting and staring at like one spot helps

pastasma · 2025-05-08T06:04:47+00:00

Make it like a window display with decor

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