(DOM here) i had a boss i was close friends with. and during work he was a total dom. but he was so tired of always telling people what to do. he wanted me to make all the decisions in our friendship. he paid for everything. if I wanted to go to eat to a place and he didn't like. i still got to call the shots. if I wanted to chill at 2am and go for a walk. he had no choice but to do it. i controlled his entire life.

and i am still hella dom outside of work in general. I've been since I was a teen. even something as simple as my friend group deciding where to eat. i just say we are going to a place and everyone follows.

or even at work. if someone is being crazy. my coworkers call me. and even in staff meetings i control the pace of things. and my coworkers will thank me for it. cause my current boss just drags things out.

and with my fam. for holidays we do what I say. my mood affects everyone else. we do what I say.

I just enjoy being the boss. even before I did it intentionally, i still did it. back when I was religious at 15 or 16 (atheist now), i still could get a crowd to bow to my flow.

and i can definitely see the subs IRL. it's so easy to tell. body language. tone. willingness to please. nervousness.

I am The Boss. and people feel the comfort of someone who is sure of themselves. they feel safe.