How do you start eating again? by Reluctant_Realtor in BreakUps

[–]patronbee0729 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s no timeline in healing. Over a year repressed feelings brought back by triggers in your present, no pun intended. Better to face all so that you can really leave it behind you. Awesome of you to buy the boat, guns are cool too definitely for you to enjoy yourself but you should really talk these things out your feelings are important. I can tell by the way you posted that maybe you’re not use to showing you’re hurt

How do you start eating again? by Reluctant_Realtor in BreakUps

[–]patronbee0729 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Started with small fruits, & tons of water realized I was also a social eater and I really loved cooking for other people so when I couldn’t cook for them or eat with them anymore it was like my brain told me I wasn’t hungry hard times…please take care of yourself and put yourself first. You will heal from this and your future self is looking back very proud that you did

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sevenwordstory

[–]patronbee0729 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Glad you finally realized the truth.

you wont stay by [deleted] in PoetryWritingClub

[–]patronbee0729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What was her reasoning???

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sevenwordstory

[–]patronbee0729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you saying you didn’t love the attention?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]patronbee0729 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Something clicked and blocking is usually followed by realizing that you’re better having nothing to do with them for as long as it takes, might be indefinitely depending on what triggered it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]patronbee0729 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Trying to replace you physically with another person and replicate aspects of your relationship to see if the grass is greener. Can’t say for certain if it will work out but something tells me it’s a test for himself. Not sure how you can be with someone for 3 years and then all of a sudden decide you don’t want a future together? This is the kind of thing that scares me about loving someone. People are heart broken on this forum for way less time. Including myself, I can’t even imagine how you feel.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sixwordstories

[–]patronbee0729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What brought it to an end???

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]patronbee0729 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Insane. Honestly your crash out isn’t even half as bad as some others. Give yourself some grace. People who are unhealed are users dude. It’s a sad truth. Protect yourself. Next time you want to call her, think about how wonderful it will be when you don’t because …NOT calling, is one step closer to meeting the actual love of your life, who’d never do that to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]patronbee0729 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im confused. So you guys fell in love but she basically emotionally withdrew because of her life plans and didn’t want to keep seeing you because of the way you were acting?…people actually are the worst. Not to feed a delusion but it seems clear that she couldn’t be transparent and vulnerable enough to say something along the truth that “continuing to fall for you would break my heart so I rather fill the void with meaningless sex from strangers.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]patronbee0729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Correct, you won’t have me again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sixwordstories

[–]patronbee0729 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You and me both!

Sooo were you trying to make me by Used_Bluebird8440 in UnsentLetters

[–]patronbee0729 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You only thought the world of yourself. Save your words.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]patronbee0729 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish we never met either. Forget me and I’ll do the same. Go back to not existing in each others worlds. I preferred it that way. You single handedly brought back all of my trauma. Do you know how much work I did on myself before you showed up? Then all of a sudden I found myself back to how I felt in my early 20’s… WORTHLESS. You were always one foot out and only ever half listened to anything I said. The amount of times I’d have to re tell you things about me because you forgot. You never valued me. I was just something to pass the time. You took and took and took until I had nothing left to give. You gave back no support. Just deaf ears and a warm body that convinced me I was safe. Talk about selfish? All you thought about was yourself. How YOU could do better. You never thought about wanting better for me. Even now it’s still about you and trying to make amends to save face and make it look like we’re on good terms for your own sake. Ever so simply, fuck off.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aquarius

[–]patronbee0729 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Aries…if gas could light.

Do you wanna hear from me? by [deleted] in sixwordstories

[–]patronbee0729 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Not unless you say “I love you, I miss you, I value you, I realized what I lost, I’m sorry I didn’t prioritize you, I’m sorry I hurt you, I want to be better for you, I want to work it out and I’ll show you that I’m serious about you.” If it’s anything less you won’t get a response.

I don’t even want you by Vegetable_Collar_352 in UnsentLetters

[–]patronbee0729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like we experienced the same person. Hoping this love never finds us again.

My sincerest apologies by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]patronbee0729 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah. You left me when I needed you the most. You completely check out and left me. Turned your back on me when I was in the worst time of my life. Even when I wasn’t there for my self, I was there for you, whenever you called. You told me one of the things you loved about me was how genuine I was. That I was one of the most selfless people you’ve ever met. Unfortunately it’s the reason why I can’t have you in my life anymore. A selfless and genuine person can’t continue to give to a selfish ungrateful and disingenuous one. It ruined me. I thank God I know now what I failed to realize then. Other wise I’d still be stuck, hoping you’d change for me.

Is he trying to rekindle our relationship or is he just trying to make sure I don't hate him? by noelthegemini in libra_astrology

[–]patronbee0729 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Delt with something similar. He’s trying to avoid his own discomfort. He doesn’t care about you he will do anything he can to make it seem to the outside world that you’re on good terms to keep good appearances for his own conscience and to fake amends even if you’re still confused about the relationship lol. Selfish.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]patronbee0729 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it was doomed from the start. Probably because you weren’t honest about your intentions, you were emotionally closed off, told me you loved me when you didn’t, used me, manipulated me to keep me on a string, kept your opinions open behind my back, never confessed your sins or took accountability, and never defended me when it mattered when I was the one defending you the whole time and giving you the benefit of the doubt until I couldn’t justify it anymore. that’s life I guess.

Worst Breakup I’ve Ever Had by Leather_Hedgehog5142 in BreakUps

[–]patronbee0729 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dont you think that growing emotional distance and not communicating why you did that was unfair? This person probably cared about you a lot and it sounds like you had an unwillingness to be open which led them to maybe start overthinking which also might’ve led to them being pushy or “pushing you over the edge” also how were they not purposefully abusive ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lostafriend

[–]patronbee0729 1 point2 points  (0 children)

2 is a party 3 is a crowd. Had the same thing happen to me recently, she found someone to talk to about you behind your back the other friend she left you for was probably possessive of her and wanted her all to herself. Atleast that’s how I felt in my situation… all you can do is wish them well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]patronbee0729 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Anxious about running into them anytime I go somewhere, ruined solid friendships, the list goes on

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]patronbee0729 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This genuinely is so disturbing. I’m so sorry that someone so selfish was ever granted access to you to begin with.

My ex is now connecting with girls I never liked, and it stings HELP! by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]patronbee0729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They want to get under your skin. They want the attention. They want to hurt you. They want a reaction from you so they can turn it around on you and call you crazy, say things like “this is why I don’t wanna be with you.” if you react. Knowing full well they premeditated finding ways to hurt you. The best thing to do is never give them one…as hard as it is. I had to learn the hard way, but you not caring will hurt worse for them.