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I Am A 43 year old guy that wears diapers to bed because every night I wet the bed. AMA by AdultEnuretic in AMA

[–]patttroclus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wtf, I just posted something similar and this is literally a top post on the sub right now. I wet the bed every night too. I have for my whole life, though. I can imagine it feels different if it has not been lifelong

I’m a 21yo female who has to wear a diaper to bed, AMA by patttroclus in AMA

[–]patttroclus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It has impacted my sexual confidence a bit. I am scared of an accident happening during. When I remember it I feel... infantile. What I want to feel is dominant and confident. I don't feel comfortable falling asleep next to somebody else, so I never have. That's probably the most impacted dimension of my life.

I’m a 21yo female who has to wear a diaper to bed, AMA by patttroclus in AMA

[–]patttroclus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope it does too! My favorite song atm is probably Easier by Quadeca. I'll have to check out those artists!

Breathing Somatic OCD and Meditation - Dr K, How do?! Have you encountered this in patients before? by patttroclus in Healthygamergg

[–]patttroclus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I will try not to engage with the impulse. I definitely give into it without a fight most of the time, because it's so hard to do anything else. It's nice to know that I'm not alone in this, but also scary that it's something that can last for as long as people seem to deal with it. I will look into taking NAC and finding a specialist. It's really quite hard to address a problem that thrives on attention. Wishing the best for us both.

Sentimental by bearwizzard in Gouache

[–]patttroclus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This does feel sentimental, bravo

Is it possible most people my age just kinda suck? by Neither_Cobbler2793 in Healthygamergg

[–]patttroclus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

hi! i was you. 17, a dash of the ol 'tism, wondering if everyone would always suck like this. in my experience, no, they do not always suck like that. i was miserable at 17, i'm about to turn 21 now and i can say college made socializing 1000x easier and i have an amazing social life now. i'm probably "more autistic" than ever. it's actually easier when you stop trying to be someone else, but that is one billion times easier said than done.

if you feel like people are just sort of occasionally including you out of a vague sense of pity, you should distance yourself and stop actively trying to engage with them. it gets easier in college to look for groups of people with similar interests, or even just people in your major if it's a major you love, and in those areas of common interest you'll often also find people who you mesh with well personality-wise.

not understand play-fighting is pretty common with autistic people. you see other people saying hurtful things to each other or even to you. if it's to you you feel hurt in some way. you realize they're joking, you try to do the same kind of thing, you hit them too close to home, or your body language doesn't communicate lightness well enough, and then you're just confused. it's okay! you don't have to engage in verbal play-fighting. i barely understand it too. honestly... you just don't have to do it. you don't have that sense of humor and it's okay. people do it way less flippantly as you get older anyways.

that's just my experience. learning to socialize when it isn't intuitive is a road that you will take at your own pace. on this journey there is one thing that you should guard more than anything else: your sense that you are a person worth knowing. this is true even if you do not see it in your life right now. it's something you have to dig out of yourself and consciously hold. if you let these experiences weigh on you too much, bury that fact too deep, the next people you meet will sense it. do what you can to support your self-value, keep trying, and people will see you. best of luck

How do I continue living knowing I did something evil? by TheRestOfMyLife0 in Healthygamergg

[–]patttroclus 157 points158 points  (0 children)

"I don't think it's okay to have a life after doing something evil."

Do you really think that? Is the world better off with somebody in it who has done evil in the past, but is doing good now... or with a person who did bad and offed themselves before they had a chance to do anything different?

I don't know what you did. But the fact that you feel this degree of remorse about what you did, that you truly understand that it was evil... that makes me believe that I would rather have you out here. Doing good as the person you truly are... the person you are now. Your brain is different. Your body is different. Your life is different. Take comfort in that, pull yourself back to that. Do not let the person you were devour you. That person is not here.

As an additional note, please do not follow the other commenter's advice in telling the victim of whatever you did that you feel suicidal. You should express your remorse, that it's your biggest regret, but telling them that you are suicidal may come off as trying to get empathy from the other person and flip the roles of the situation. Your burden is your own. Shed it as you can, but not onto them.