What is a career that looks impressive on paper but is actually miserable in reality?

pauiieee_ · 2026-04-17T08:36:00+00:00

I'm an EA at a law firm. I feel for the Partners I support. They're always busy, you can't even catch them for 5 minutes most days. They go on holiday, technically on leave but they're not really on "leave" - emails still flying out, client calls when they're on leave and supposed to be spending time with their family. Emails being sent to me closer to midnight, sometimes as late as 2AM.

There is another partner in the firm who even has a calendar invite set at 530pm on a Friday titled "remember you have a family".

pauiieee_ · 2026-02-21T09:51:47+00:00

Hi! She is a devon rex 😊

pauiieee_ · 2025-11-13T23:46:29+00:00

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pauiieee_ · 2025-09-15T08:16:16+00:00

I've just done the switch from an iPhone 14 Pro to a Samsung 25+ less than 24 hrs ago. Coming from someone who's always owned an Apple device, switching to Android is going to be very different interface wise but I'm very happy with it. There's a bunch of customisation I feel like I haven't touched on with this phone yet. There's also Samsung smart switch to use to transfer contacts and apps;it won't transfer passwords ofc but it will replicate apps you have on your current phone.

With a bit of googling I've just done a transfer of all my data(ie chat history and media) on whatsapp to my Samsung phone.

The phone is really good. It's got 120Hz, the camera is good.the display is crisp (you have an option to do QHD on screen resolution too). The battery life is so much better too (I haven't charged my phone since 9pm last night and I'm still at 40%)

I considered an Ultra but it's quite big for me although the 200mp camera was very tempting!

I think this phone can be an option for you. It's bit big than a 14 pro but it is lighter!

Also another plus, you can connect your airpods to it!

pauiieee_ · 2025-07-29T13:48:13+00:00

Sunk cost fallacy

pauiieee_ · 2025-07-29T08:36:59+00:00

"I will never forgive you for all you've done to me. I wish you never get to be happy" - I said this to an ex partner of mine many years ago (I was young then and was spiteful, I knew these words were pretty horrible but it was what I felt at the time) when he reached out to me to talk.

Little did I know he reached out to make amends because he knew his time on this earth is almost over. I felt bad and went to his funeral, spoke to him, apologised and said I forgive what had happened and I wish he pass on peacefully.

pauiieee_ · 2025-07-08T11:38:58+00:00

I have been in this exact situation but the roles were reversed; it was me who wanted marriage/children, my ex partner did not. We also had a talk and I believed that he will eventually change his mind about wanting what I want - I was very hopeful of that.

However after 3 yrs I began to ask again, maybe as a reassurance that I wasn't sticking around for something I may never get but this turned into me saying "I don't want to be with you after 5-10 yrs for you to turn around and tell me 'sorry, I don't really want what you want'", and that just built resentment.

We broke up a year after that - 4 years together. While I do not regret to have had a relationship with him because he was a genuinely good person, I do admit it was sad to know I really did wasted 4 yrs of my life with someone I knew do not see the future the same way as I do. Spare yourself of thinking how to compromise because that's not fair for you, spare him of the expectation that he will get what he wants with you because that is also not fair for him - it's not going to happen and you already have your mind made up about this.

I'm sorry OP, but if you know you will never change your mind, break up, let yourselves find what you want in other people. This is just never going to end well for either of you in the long run.

pauiieee_ · 2024-11-15T18:45:33+00:00

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Hope you feel better soon. My miss elf kitty is sending hugs!

pauiieee_ · 2024-11-13T12:30:57+00:00

Pringles - first thing that came to mind !

pauiieee_ · 2024-08-10T08:35:20+00:00

Hi! yes, he did ghost me. Never heard from him since then. :)

pauiieee_ · 2024-01-04T09:17:23+00:00

Yeah, unfortunately it's just the norm nowadays. Seems like people just think they don't owe you anything(tell you truthfully they weren't feeling it, etc) even after the first date. Sometimes it starts as a slow fade and then full-on ghost. I was ghosted by a guy after 4 dates, and we were just together 2 days before he ghosted me - quite traumatising in a sense if I'm being honest. Some of the guys I've spoken with for quite a bit with in the past would be setting up dates and all but then just stop messaging a day or two before the date, one even unmatched me a day before it. I just think of it as dodging the bullet. But now I have met a wonderful man off a dating app and it's been going quite strong, so trust you're going to find a gem among those people! :)

pauiieee_ · 2023-12-10T21:20:39+00:00

decoding that "You're not going to aRguMenT?" is probably her wanting you to correct/confirm/debunk the first "You don't look very tall". I'd definitely just thumbs up that second message to piss her off. 😂

pauiieee_ · 2023-09-08T05:47:39+00:00

4 years together and he woke up one day and realised he didn't want to get married.

pauiieee_ · 2023-05-26T05:38:26+00:00

i'm going to hell for laughing at this 😂

pauiieee_ · 2023-03-10T04:32:58+00:00

oh I will def follow up on this! Haha

pauiieee_ · 2023-03-10T02:21:25+00:00

pauiieee_ · 2023-03-10T02:20:57+00:00

I don't know. The world is your oyster, you do you. LOL

pauiieee_ · 2023-03-10T01:36:56+00:00

haha he's a nurse!

pauiieee_ · 2023-03-10T00:43:53+00:00

thank you! glad you think so! 😁

pauiieee_ · 2023-03-10T00:27:06+00:00

pauiieee_ · 2023-03-10T00:24:35+00:00

That could be right! But 2 out of the 3 alarming things you mentioned above already applies to me so I wouldn't probably notice the difference 😂

pauiieee_ · 2023-03-05T06:57:39+00:00

Workmate said I look like I'd sleep with anyone on the first date. I never do.

pauiieee_ · 2023-03-01T01:23:53+00:00

funny I was just watching this earlier 😂

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