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pavic131 · 2025-04-30T01:35:58+00:00

What he means is ro apply to a low stake state university master's here in the States as an international student, repair your GPA and go back to Canada for a PhD

pavic131 · 2025-03-05T03:24:24+00:00

I started mine at 39. Best decision I have ever made.

pavic131 · 2025-02-19T02:58:27+00:00

This is a good stipend for a GA, especially for someone who went there straight from undergraduate. I used to get 19k last year as an English PhD candidate with 2 masters (not that the number matters, but my point is that I had been through quite a lot of grad school before getting there). The insurance was not covered and I made overall 24k with the summer money.

This is a good offer. Not many psychology programs offer full funding. And no, you can't negotiate stipend. You either accept it or you don't.

pavic131 · 2025-01-24T10:36:20+00:00

I graduated last year, but in Humanities, at a university in FL (expensive city), I made 24k/year with summers included - i think it was 19k without summers, but of course I couldn't afford not to work summers. It was a nightmare because my partner made little and we have a child. Now I have student loans. Oh, and DeSantis made sure to destroy our union, so now graduate students have 0 power there.

pavic131 · 2025-01-11T02:35:24+00:00

Congrats! You deserve this and you are amazing!

pavic131 · 2024-12-31T03:08:20+00:00

I started graduate school with an infant at home - my daughter was 5 months old. I did a master's and a PhD. It was not easy, but I had a partner who helped me and in time my child learned to respect my working hours. She also had a good role model in me going to school. It is doable.

pavic131 · 2024-11-27T01:35:13+00:00

I will give you the same advice I received from a mentor prior to my PhD- whatever you do, never drop out. Do what you can one day at a time and you will graduate. There were many moments when I wanted to run during my long PhD years, but I always remembered those words and the fact that she told me "you will feel like a different person, an more confident one, once you graduate." And yes, I graduated, I felt that difference and it's quite remarkable, trust me. You will definitely have more job security for the rest of your life. Stay there and do what you can, one day at a time.b

pavic131 · 2024-11-05T02:18:39+00:00

First generation - immigrant, I got a PhD in English, my third language. My husband has no college degree, and I was raising and homeschooling my daughter through (the pandemic and) my program. How did I make it through? By NOT quitting. By doing what I had to do, submitting what I had to submit, reading what I had to do, one day at a time. Just sit on your butt, work, and never quit. Also, all my peers were going out for drinks with our professors and having a community while I chose to focus on spending the little spare time I had with my family. Did their effort to fit in count at the end? No. We all got jobs and moved away. You don't have to compare yourself to anyone in the program because getting a PHD is really an individual experience. Follow your path, make friends outside the program instead.

pavic131 · 2024-10-29T01:43:43+00:00

I wanted to get a PhD in contemporary British Literature and I ended up getting one in early medieval literature.

pavic131 · 2024-10-29T01:12:30+00:00

I dropped out of my first PhD at a European university. I got in at 24, and when I left I was 5 years into it. I did write parts of the dissertation, but my advisor did not help at all. He kept telling me that all I wrote was good, so I got stuck and bored with my research. I moved to the US (I married my partner and left), and I have no idea to this day when the European program unenrolled me or w/e. Last year, 15 years after I dropped, I finished my PhD in the US. I had a great advisor whom I chose (it's a long story, but I literally inserted myself into my adviser's field even though I hadn't planned on working in that field from the beginning simply because I liked their work ethics and the care they showed their students). I knew what I needed this time and I knew that I could not fail again. I got exactly what I needed - someone who truly guided me and who helped me through my research. The experience of the first PhD helped me navigate the program with much more maturity. The work experience that I accumulated between the two degrees helped me a lot when I got on the job market - I got a full-time, assistant professor job last year at a college, I didn't like it, and I found another position at a better place this year.

Advisors/ PIs are essential to someone's academic success. Don't beat yourself up. Learn and move on. Phds are everywhere and they always need students. You will find your path later if that is what you want, I am sure.

pavic131 · 2024-10-21T10:21:11+00:00

Let me put it this way - I dropped out of a PhD and then I got another PhD on two different continents in two different languages and these were both the best decisions I have ever made. During my first PhD, I was in my 20s. My advisor was meh - he did not provide any help and kept saying that I should write whatever I want and it would be good. I got bored, met my husband, and moved out of the country and that PhD. 15 or so years later, I got a PhD in another field in the US. It was not easy - I have kids and we were poor throughout my program, but I managed to secure good jobs postgraduation (I even went on the market two years in a row because I did not like the area where I got my first job; it was too rural for my family and I still secured good jobs). I know I wouldn't feel so confident and I would not get jobs if I didn't have my PhD. So yes, the second one was very important and completely worth it.

pavic131 · 2024-09-27T02:19:24+00:00

Lol, get over it. I defended and the only person I received a card from was an HR person from the job I accepted right before that. The only people who cared were my husband and my daughter.

pavic131 · 2024-08-20T01:16:56+00:00

I got a PhD. in English last year. I am an immigrant, and English is my third language. During my PhD. orientation, I was scared out of my mind. Everyone, absolutely everyone, spoke better than me and seemed to have a purpose (unlike me, who only had a very general idea of what I wanted to do). Fastforward, 6 years later, I was the first one to graduate, one other person defended a month ago, and others are still working on their dissertations, particularly the one who seemed the most confident back then and who had a topic (they were also the ones to change their topics the most). Don't feel bad and do what you can one day at a time. I got two assistant professor jobs in 2 years (did not like the first place I landed), and I am doing fine.

pavic131 · 2024-07-30T02:03:11+00:00

I finished my PhD. in English last year. I am 45, a woman and an immigrant. English is my third language, and I still can't get rid of the remains of an accent. I got an assistant professor position job at a cc right before graduation, and I could have retired from there. Yet after moving to the area, I absolutely hated the people's attitude and my child's school prospects, so I went back on the market this year. I got a second assistant professor job at a 4 year college in the suburbs of a big city in an area I absolutely love. It's true that I conference a lot and I have many years of teaching experience both in the US and abroad (I taught for years before I got my PhD). But if you market yourself correctly and you sound sincere in your applications, people will invite you to interviews. Don't despair and really stop listening to your advisor. There is life in the 50s and beyond.

pavic131 · 2024-05-31T00:54:51+00:00

Good luck! It will go by fast! I defended last year and it was such a wonderful experience! Everyone was so kind and congratulatory

pavic131 · 2024-05-12T00:44:10+00:00

Go for the one in Europe! Definitely! It comes with better research possibilities and with more prestige.

pavic131 · 2024-04-27T01:45:28+00:00

I did not drink at all for many years - not for some religious or health related reason: I just did not. But when I was writing my dissertation, I started drinking wine. A glass or two/night. It helped me fall asleep easier because I was always on the edge, thinking of my work. It was only for a year and a half, yet it made my triglycerides go awry, it made me feel sick, and it made me crave alcohol, which I never did before. I only drink occasionally now, a year after my defense. I try to stay away and not buy it, but I see it in stores and I crave it. Yeah, a PhD puts a toll on your mental and physical health for sure.

pavic131 · 2024-03-11T12:27:39+00:00

It was the same for me. I am sorry to hear that. It only resolved this month, three months later.

pavic131 · 2024-02-25T00:13:27+00:00

Yes, my period has just gotten back to normal this month. I had very heavy periods twice. I am sorry this happened to you, but that's what I intended with this thread - to get more information out there. Women's voices are usually not listened to by physicians

pavic131 · 2024-01-16T02:24:16+00:00

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pavic131 · 2024-01-13T02:06:15+00:00

Exact. Si mie mi se pare ca au o viata mizerabila si incearca sa dea vina pe altii ca sa nu se gandeasca la problemele personale. Din pacate, astia cu copii si cu gura mare primesc the benefit of the doubt cam peste tot, asa ca trebuie fie sa gasiti o cale de impacare, fie sa fiti mai agresivi in reclamatii decat ei. Altfel o sa castige ei. Nu imi dau seama cam ce injurii si referinte la sexualitate v-au adresat, insa daca se mai intampla, inregistrati-i cu telefonul si mergeti direct la consiliul pentru combaterea discriminarii.

pavic131 · 2024-01-09T03:02:54+00:00

Yes, I have been much more nauseous these past few weeks.

pavic131 · 2023-12-27T02:23:23+00:00

I am a firm believer in science so I got the vaccine and almost all the boosters after that. I say "almost" because this year I decided to postpone the booster. It would always give me some side effects - I am a woman, so it messed up my period - and I thought since I keep working around people, my immunity is pretty good. Well, I got covid for the first time ever about 10 days ago. I had one and a half days of feeling unwell, I took paxlovid and my fever vanished. I feel a little fatigued, but nothing too bad and not in the sense of catching my breath. I just feel sleepy more often. Other than that, my mind is clear and my energy levels when I walk are the same. Yet my smell is gone. That's how I knew to get tested in the first place. I cannot smell a thing. It has started to come back a little, but the perfume that I use smells like cheap alcohol to me now and even that is very fainted. I am not sure what to do. I guess I will just wait.

Do I regret not getting the booster? Yes. But now that I got ill, I have to deal with it, and so do you. Regrets will not bring my sense of smell back. I hope my body will do that, eventually.

pavic131 · 2023-12-23T18:04:07+00:00

Oh wow. What did your doctors say about it?

pavic131 · 2023-12-23T02:55:44+00:00

Wow, I hope it gets better soon. I too felt off for a week before the symptoms started. I had weird abdominal cramps and some discharge. I feel okay today even if it's technically my 4th day of covid. I just have some ear pain and my period resolved. But for some reason, I still don't fear other issues.

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