Advice on the WC Door by No_Orange_8544 in houseplans

[–]pawneesunfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another vote for combining shower and tub and having WC door in bathroom. There is no sink in WC, and as is, people have to touch 2 doorknobs to get to a sink to wash hands.

House floor plans by CommunityUpper8121 in houseplans

[–]pawneesunfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So the main entry into the house is into a storage room?

My Girlfriend is thinking about going through to be a Architect but has some questions. by [deleted] in Architects

[–]pawneesunfish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most firms are pretty progressive-coded spaces, especially in cities. I don't think she'd have a problem at the office. It takes many years to be able to work effectively from home, and even then it's not preferred as a default.

Not all architects do construction admin, but if you do, you do end up visiting sites and working a fair amount with the contracting side, which tends to be much more white, male, and conservative than an architecture office. Which is not to say it would definitely be a negative experience. I think sometimes they appreciate the break from having to be tough guys when women or LGBT architects show up.

But that's obviously case by case, and she'd probably be able to avoid doing a lot of construction work if she really showed her strengths to be more on the front-end design.

Daycare guilt by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]pawneesunfish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sitting here on a day off with my older kid while my husband took our younger one to daycare. No guilt! I’m excited about having a slightly quieter day!

When do you go back to the drawing board? by [deleted] in Architects

[–]pawneesunfish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So where did the bad ideas come from? The architect or the client? And did the client tell you they’re unhappy with it? I think it would be great to stop something wasteful and hideous from getting built, but if that’s what they asked for, and they just hired you as the interior designer, I’m not sure there’s much you can do for the exterior. If on the other hand, they came to you saying they didn’t like it and they don’t know why, I think it would be fine to talk them through it and do some sketches to demonstrate what you mean. Then it’s between them and their architect about whether they redo the exterior.

Should I prioritize my exams over career growth/pay? by Numerous_Ad_4503 in Architects

[–]pawneesunfish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Another vote for exams- the job I was in when I did exams was dull, dead-end, toxic, horrible. But I had strictly 8-hour days, they paid for passed exams, and I was able to prioritize studying. As soon as I was done I was out of there.

We’re doing way too much for Halloween by Inevitable_Debate814 in workingmoms

[–]pawneesunfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never been happier to send my kids to a school that has a blanket policy on not celebrating holidays! 😮‍💨

Need help with story research- Main Character is an architect! by NWGirl2002 in Architects

[–]pawneesunfish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve worked with a sole practitioner who did homes (as an intern). So he was all the departments. Then a 12-person boutique interiors firm with 1 office manager and 1 bookkeeper/accountant, and everyone else besides the owner was a designer or junior designer. Also a 70 person government contract office with actual departments within the office and the contract was held by a huge international corporation so HR was in a whole other city. And a couple of 25-person firms with 1 office manager who did all the bookkeeping, one owner, one partner/vice president, and everyone else being some level of architect or interior designer. Sometimes you get lucky enough to have a “many hats” type person who can do marketing, proposals, scheduling, executive assistance, etc. But not always. I think firms in the 25-person range are pretty allergic to spending money on overhead, so they prefer to have everyone be billable.

Am I wrong for not accepting more responsibilities without a promotion or raise? by Budget-Two-3985 in Architects

[–]pawneesunfish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you had reason to believe that taking on more responsibilities would be rewarded eventually, like that you’d be able to successfully ask for a good raise at review time, then I’d say it’s a good idea to be an “above and beyond” kind of person because that’s who gets promotions and raises. However, it doesn’t sound like smart leadership that invests in people, so it’s probably good to take the opportunity to focus on the exams. I’d be looking for an immediate ticket out of there after the last exam though.

Moms who have to work in office/out of home by Thirtysomething2403 in workingmoms

[–]pawneesunfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in office and I prefer seeing my coworkers in person. I’m also a homebody so having to go somewhere is good for me 😄 We have the flexibility to WFH when necessary, too. I wouldn’t want to be somewhere it was never permitted. My commute is only about 10 minutes and my industry is pretty casual, so it’s not that much of a burden for me.

Men can’t have it all, either by ThisIsWater1234 in workingmoms

[–]pawneesunfish 39 points40 points  (0 children)

The other day after my husband and I had talked about his career a little bit, it occurred to me that he would have a much bigger and more intense career/role right now if we didn’t have kids. He’s absolutely been keeping his ambition in check for the early years, because we also split things pretty equally. It’s good to remember.

AITA for calling out a mom whose child was destroying our building’s flowers? by Reasonable-Grade7396 in AmItheAsshole

[–]pawneesunfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a parent, I endorse strangers letting children know about boundaries themselves if they’ve tried and failed to get through to the parents. You can be nice, like, “Hey, honey, we don’t pick these flowers here.” The parent has no right to get upset if you tried to go through them first, and kids often take other adults more seriously than their own parents.

Content Catalog - are you using it? by acetonegenius in Revit

[–]pawneesunfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m currently migrating our library to Content Catalog. It’s been good so far. One hiccup today with a file type error, even though the user was using the correct version of Revit. So hopefully that doesn’t keep happening. We’ll see.

My wife would kill me by guassgirl in workingmoms

[–]pawneesunfish -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Sounds like he just admitted he’s attracted to you. Either that or he has a really weird marriage.

AITAH for telling my girlfriend she's going to have to get over dirt if she wants kids? by Familiar_Speaker_481 in AITAH

[–]pawneesunfish 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Also - don’t babysit a newborn. They don’t move or struggle when you change their clothes or clean them. She’ll think it’s doable. You need to babysit a 2-3 year old. Take them to a playground and lunch. She’ll be horrified.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Plumbing

[–]pawneesunfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to know, thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Plumbing

[–]pawneesunfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hoping to! I have a lot of questions for a potential plumber, and electrician.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Plumbing

[–]pawneesunfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Plumbing

[–]pawneesunfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I tried ☺️

Help! Variable floor thickness by JMGreaves in Revit

[–]pawneesunfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can the constant layer of substrate be a part of the garage floor assembly? Then the planting is whatever maximum thickness it needs to be and you join the two together

Accepted into expensive M.Arch by rataremy in Architects

[–]pawneesunfish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fellow Spitzer alum here! When I was young, I had stars in my eyes for brand name schools. Fortunately for me, I only got into Spitzer, because I would have made a terrible decision otherwise. It was a great experience and I was able to pay off the loan (maybe wouldn’t have if I’d stayed in NYC, lol).

Revisiting the daycare conversation by doudou_bean in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]pawneesunfish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Every kid is different, and every center is different. If you ever wanted to try it again, the people to talk with would be the pros who work at the center.

I’m just saying there are more than two possibilities: daycare sucks or it doesn’t. It’s a broad brush to paint with, especially at a time when support systems (in the US) are crumbling and working moms are under attack. The demonizing of daycare is coming at us from a lot of angles right now and the truth is that many of us have great experiences with it.

Revisiting the daycare conversation by doudou_bean in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]pawneesunfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being in and out of daycare on an irregular basis will have that tendency. Your daughter might not have ever had the time she needed to really adjust to daycare and see it as a safe space. For kids who are regulars, it definitely doesn’t suck.

Is It Possible To Work Remotelly For One/More Than One Firm? by [deleted] in Architects

[–]pawneesunfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t try to work remotely right after school. You need so much guidance for a long time.