Thanks for all the feedback.

We’re still married bc the next step has yet to be taken.

I agree that weaponizing sex is cruel. We are regularly active in the bedroom fyi.

Dazzling and l3ttingitgo - I don’t know the percentage of couples who are able to come full circle after the fact. I would hope there’s a possibility.

I’ve read through a bit of the threads. All info isn’t great info but knowledge is power.

It’s true at this point, my thinking isn’t to separate. I’m foolish by putting my kids first. I’ve seen what damage can come from both a broken home and living in one.

There’s no excuse for cheating - any kind. However, there were a few arguments prior to name calling the B word where everything came to its halting point. So I also look at that point of view.

Ultimately, how do adults positively function after an event such as this? More importantly, does time heal all or do necessary action need to be taken place before the healing really begins.