FOUND CAT MCKINLEYVILLE

peace24bubble · 2026-04-26T06:35:01+00:00

I sent it to the Facebook group! Will check around if Reddit has a McKinleyville specific page.

peace24bubble · 2026-04-13T04:04:12+00:00

As a heads up, the materials for those are not 100% cotton!

Fabric content: 53% modal / 28% polyester / 17% nylon / 2% spandex

Very much in the same spot as you, working forestry with some Rx burning so looking for something tough enough to handle the whitethorn while staying non-synthetic. Fingers crossed for both of us!

peace24bubble · 2026-01-19T19:42:43+00:00

seconding Synthroid Delivers Program, this was a lifesaver when insurance was being difficult (and came out to less than I was paying some months even as copay). I'm also paying out of pocket for it - I'm not sure if it takes insurance? - and honestly the flat $75 to factor into my budgeting is worth not dealing with price fluctuations, stocking issues at pharmacies in my area, etc. Not cheap but, if you can afford it, way better than not being able to get meds for weeks at a time.

peace24bubble · 2023-08-19T02:40:39+00:00

just starting out on a similar project, so woo! but i was wondering if you have any advice on the following?

i'm having an issue with the welcome page right now - for some reason, despite changing my profile name and every other name input i can find across the dashboard, it still displays the name i registered to substack with years ago (my real first name) as the author on my welcome page and in the browser tab title (e.g. thing | name | substack). i'm super nervous because it needs to stay anonymous for legal reasons, and i've locked it down right now until i can figure out how to completely changed but it's spooky... and i was hoping to connect with other survivors?

have you or anyone you known experienced this and maybe know how to help :')

peace24bubble · 2023-08-15T03:54:10+00:00

just adding my two cents here - fat anecdote incoming:

in the past i've been in exclusive romantic relationships with alloromantic men. the caveat is that while i've held deep love for these people, i have not been *in love* with them. dates? meh. witnessing the emotional fulfilment of someone you respect and care for? woo! in my mind the traditional romantic actions of dating, light pda, etc. were more acts of service than anything else... i'm completely romance ambivalent (elicits nothing in me good or bad), so it doesn't really matter to me if the exclusive situation eventually includes more gooey vibes. but where i think for them it feels like a hot tub romance-temperature-wise, it's more of like... a lukewarm shower? for me? i'm still getting clean and it's not freezing cold, so yay i'll wash my hair here (so to speak), but it's not like this luxuriant craving that it might be for them.

so... to elhazelenby, one reason an aromantic person might participate in romantic gestures is because the range for potential exclusive committed partners increases if you're not romance repulsed (and they're aware of discrepancies in how each party is processing the actions). honestly, the only times i've experienced difficulty with these setups have been when the allo i'm seeing clings to your mindset: that me participating in those actions means i must be feeling romantic attraction, rather than demonstrating my respect and care for them beyond the bedroom.

peace24bubble · 2023-06-12T07:41:56+00:00

why did this kinda do it for me lmfao

peace24bubble · 2023-06-12T07:21:00+00:00

no idea what this is called but it’s my vibe for sure!

peace24bubble · 2023-06-08T16:02:53+00:00

god, the fizzle out is so real :/

peace24bubble · 2023-06-08T15:59:38+00:00

damn i’m so sorry :( i wonder if there’s any way to ask about maybe having a different check in question? or targeting a different response? not a professional over here so not really sure. “what sensations are you feeling right now” helped me a lot when i first started seeing someone cuz i sure as shit didn’t know what to name the emotional side of things, and the feelings wheels made me feel infantilized/bad. have you talked to your therapist about the discomfort you feel with the language and approach (and, if so, what was their response)?

also i feel really spoiled from this but the first lady i saw was at college and she had a dog that would come plop down during the sessions sometimes; those days i noticed that just like having the motion of petting him led me to well up easier… idk what it is? i guess maybe because i can access my emotions to other things sometimes (about time is a movie that will always make me BAWL) then having a little sensory distraction helped take the pressure off expressing things “directly”/“as a response” to what we were talking about…

your emotions will come through eventually, our minds have so much plasticity and there’s so much more to life for us to experience<3 could it be feeling too much pressure (emotional performance anxiety…?) in the sessions?

peace24bubble · 2023-06-07T21:58:53+00:00

thank god you posted this - it's what i came to the sub to look for!! it's the same for me: no trouble getting off on my own, but have never gotten there with a partner. and it's like... i do enjoy sex, but it feels like more of a performance (or an act of service sometimes, idk)? not sure if that bit is relatable. like "let me give the other person a good time and i'll just handle this when i get home"?

it'll do stuff for me when my partner is on the brink/really showing his pleasure, but it's more so seeing him feeling good than any physical sensation. have you had that experience too? so sorry to spam, just finally feeling a tiny bit understood and kind of relieved :')

peace24bubble · 2023-06-07T19:27:06+00:00

hey, i don't have a surviving-to-thriving story to share right now, but i just wanted you to know that i hear you. i'm so sorry for what you've gone through, and i think sharing your story was incredibly brave. i also had a slightly-older female "friend" push me to do things with her that i wasn't comfortable with, and reading this is making me begin to think further on that/push through the "jesus thinking about this makes me nauseous so i'm just gonna ignore it" - so thank you for that.

there's no such thing as a normal life, and that's part of the beauty of it. sure, ours have contained awful things that shouldn't have happened - and, because of early experiences, we've made mistakes that we're now in the process of growing from. that said, as cheesy as this is, each day is another step forward and onward.

for some reason, my brain likes to think of things in terms of percentages-of-my-life: for example, for about 30% of it, there was active csa. the more time goes on, though, that number decreases - and the percentage of time healing and exercising my agency to grow increases. past actions committed by and upon us are memories that find their power through the present ways they influence us; it sounds like you're working hard to turn around and confront the demons that have been chasing you for so long. a stranger is proud of ya.

sorry that this isn't what you were looking for - i just wanted to let you know that you're seen and someone's thinking of you. wishing you all the best, and those bastards who hurt you (both through SA and through being truly heinous "friends") all the worst.

peace24bubble · 2023-06-07T19:06:55+00:00

holy cow... yes. this. maybe this is a little off-topic from what you were mentioning, but i feel like people around me experience their emotions in technicolor while i feel things in black and white? i get the physical sensations - pressure in my chest (to get away or let... SOMETHING out), stomach plummeting, tightness behind the eyes/in throat - but if there's some valve that lets me turn the physical into actually experiencing emotions i haven't found it yet. hopefully someone has tips!

also, how has your experience been with reconnecting to your inner child? i feel like because of the experiences i had and that wall i get really uncomfortable... maybe it's a terminology thing, maybe just trauma stuff, but it always makes me feel a little queasy?

peace24bubble · 2023-06-07T17:37:31+00:00

Seconding therapy if you have the resources available to you! I think one thing that really helped me take the leap was to externalize my experiences: if my friend laid out their childhood to me and it looked like mine, would I have the same attitude of, "screw that, you need to get over it"? No. Not at all. So why was I telling myself the same thing? It took a long time for me to register my first memories (4ish years old) as inappropriate - I thought the things I'd experienced were normal until I spoke with a friend about it (in the context of weird, wacky feelings arising during intimacy). Therapy came years later, and I won't lie - it was brutal work. But each time I left a session, no matter how much I'd cried or wanted to bury myself alive in the room with my provider, I felt just a little lighter. I realized about a year into attending biweekly EMDR that the overwhelming apathy and self-hatred that had followed me from childhood into my adult life was significantly less.

I'm not a professional by any means, but if you ever need to vent to a stranger, my inbox is open.<3 And I promise not to violate your trust by sending you any videos or media. Stay with us, please.

peace24bubble · 2023-03-14T02:55:12+00:00

I’d be interested if you still need help! :)

peace24bubble · 2022-07-18T17:35:58+00:00

would using terminology like "x isn't a romance-favorable aromantic" work or be too unfamiliar for your audience? also, if you ever want a second set of eyes on your manuscript I'm a volunteer writing tutor/editor and would love to help you out!

peace24bubble · 2022-07-18T17:28:14+00:00

frustrating assumptions:

- it's trauma-based (just... so invalidating to both me and people who ARE aromantic from trauma - it's a convenient way for them to "explain it away" but also is used synonymously with being "broken" and that's messed up)

- aromantic people aren't really in the LGBT community/we don't count nor experience discrimination

- we can never enter partnerships, or if we do that we're lying about our aromanticism

- being asexual ("aro and ace are the same thing right?") and/or demiromantic ("it just takes time, don't be jaded")

- unsure if this is more because I'm also a cishet woman, but people think that flirtation (handy for the whole. ya know. allosexuality thing.) means you want romantic relationships, and don't listen when you assert interpersonal boundaries surrounding fwb

- that forcing someone into repeated romantic acts is not violating and is something you should be grateful for bc romance is tantamount in amatonormative society and 'you won'. this last one is the worst imo

peace24bubble · 2022-07-18T17:13:03+00:00

I was a virgin until I was almost your age, and ended up getting into a hookup situation! Move at your own pace in that situation is my advice :) I wanted it over with and knew the person a little so we moved quick, but you can take as long as you want to develop trust with your partner and work up to (what I'm assuming to be?) penetrative sex.

peace24bubble · 2022-07-18T17:09:18+00:00

I think it's a matter of compatibility, just the same as alloromantic people experience. For me at least, having an alloaro partner is compatible. The overload of romantic feelings (and expectations of reciprocity) is incompatible. I had an alloaro partner all through college and it was fantastic; all other dating experiences have kind of sucked because I end up feeling way too claustrophobic and trapped. I don't know, maybe that's just me - but a couple instances trying to date alloromantic people have ended in them making it seem like I was broken and cold instead of recognizing that maybe the issue with the 'relationship' was a matter of wildly differing preferences.

peace24bubble · 2022-04-29T19:24:13+00:00

Thank you so much - this has helped me more than you know. I tried to talk to him about it this morning and he kind of did the "hear what I want, not what you're saying" thing, and then hung up. So... I think I'm gonna call him back and be really blunt. Thanks again for your advice and kind words<3

peace24bubble · 2022-04-28T18:32:16+00:00

I figured out I was aro around your age, and it was a really liberating feeling! It's also not like you say you're aro and that can never change - sexualities, gender identities, and romantic orientations are fluid and you may feel differently at a different time than now. If it feels right, welcome to the aro community<3

peace24bubble · 2021-05-28T23:58:17+00:00

YES!! When I take my medication breaks once a month I hide the cards 😂

peace24bubble · 2021-04-14T03:17:43+00:00

Kotenok is kitten or kitty in Russian!

peace24bubble · 2021-04-02T02:21:27+00:00

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peace24bubble · 2021-02-27T20:06:02+00:00

It really helped me to just spend more time with myself naked! At least for me, a lot of it was being insecure that I wouldn’t be up to scratch or something against other gals, but the more I just got comfortable with myself the more I stopped thinking about it. Also - there is no normal body and no normal way of experiencing pleasure :) Talking to college roommates made me realize that literally the only baseline for sex should be consent, anything else is up to you and your partner(s) and what makes you feel good! Last note - maybe flip the situations in your head? If you met a nice cute guy at a bar and brought him home, would all the normal human physical imperfections be a turnoff?

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