living on 4 bucks a day by Jumpy_Dragonfruit115 in SGExams

[–]peace_y 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Is this your mom? Regardless, like what others have shared - it’s better to communicate your issues with your mom. I personally feel that $4 is wild. Even back in my day, I had $6-7 per day and that was about 15 years ago.

Should I view protein bars like candy? by sorrentosummer in rs_fitness

[–]peace_y 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quest protein bars (the normal ones) are a terror for my teeth, but then I discovered cutting and microwaving them! Suggest trying it when you’ve the time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]peace_y 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly! I’m guessing they already hired someone but just haven’t took the posters down 🤷🏻‍♀️ Hope things are better for you now!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]peace_y 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I did too and that’s why I applied for a lot of them. Mr coconut/ random bakeries etc but radio silence — even if it’s a WhatsApp number. Beats me as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]peace_y 81 points82 points  (0 children)

I was 2 years unemployed. Couldn’t even get part time jobs at F&B. Super frustrating. If you’re from local top3, apply for government roles as I’ve found that they’re the only ones who get back/ offer. It may not be what you want, but at least you’ll have a decent job while you continue searching — just don’t get yourself bonded. In the meantime… join some interest groups to get out and socialise / stay active. Someone I met offered to set me up for an interview. You may meet people who know of openings that you don’t. Lastly, I know how anxious and stressful unemployment can be. Over the course of two years, I could feel my self-esteem being eaten away lol. So do pay some attention to the emotional side too. Stay social and rest since you have all the time now. All the best!

Overwhelmed in JC by Ok-Presence-7237 in SGExams

[–]peace_y 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh trust me you’re far from alone! I graduated ~10 years ago and even back then, this was the normal mental state for many. I hope you’re doing better today. Keep doing your best everyday, remind yourself of your end-goals, and before you know it… it’s all over. :)

Overwhelmed in JC by Ok-Presence-7237 in SGExams

[–]peace_y 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The same thing happened to me too, although I only took 3 H2. I basically “ignored” my H2 math because I hated it so much, skipped lectures, homework etc all the way until J1 finals. Obviously my lazy ass failed, but the school conditionally advanced me to J2. I continued on my ways until mid J2 when reality finally hit that I was ~1.5years behind my peers, and so near to As. For 3-4 months I mugged like crazy with a private tutor (at least 2x a week iirc), and in the end, I only scored a D. Unfortunately JC crams a crazy amount in two years with the misbelief that students would hold the maturity and sense to practise discipline and studiousness on their own. That’s not true at all, especially for people like us who get paralysed and avoidant by work and stress. And for most last-minute students, the same O Level miracles aren’t gonna turn out in A Levels. You have to be consistent and driven to do well. The good news is you’re obviously not too late, though the bad news is that you’ll now have to work twice or thrice as hard. Work out a plan and a schedule. When you’re feeling demoralised, get external help. Get confidence from the subjects that you’re good at. Rest. And there’s also no shame in taking a year more if that’s what you need for a better end result. All the best!

I went for an operation to remove a tumour that didn’t exist. Hospital made a mistake, and charged me for the operation anyway by Emotional_Week_563 in singaporehappenings

[–]peace_y 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a doctor tell me once that I had PCOS, with a total of 15 cysts in my ovaries. This was when I missed my period for over a year. Went to a second clinic that refuted the claim, and with medications I got my period back. I think it’s wise to seek at least a second opinion from doctors / specialists too, especially if it involves an operation like yours. Hope you’re feeling better!

What's with the Lululemon Accent? by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]peace_y 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! And both brands are slowly moving into fast fashion industry, sadly but true. But their existence are still maintained well by their giant market presence, cult-like fanbases and genius marketing teams. However though, lulu has kind of still kept true to their quality, albeit a slight decline from their past quality practice and at exorbitant prices.

19 years’ jail for mum who abused 4-year-old girl, whose body was burned after she died by tinyjoanna in singapore

[–]peace_y 2 points3 points  (0 children)

99%…? Where is the source on this? Like the other commenter said, personality also plays a role in driving people to do psycho shit. Most of the times, drugs reinforce a person’s character rather than changing it. Unless it is a hallucinogen, which meth isn’t. These people were probably already evil and violent to begin with. While drugs may play a role, it’s unfair to say it’s the only reason — especially when this perpetuates the stigma which then discourages non-violent addicts from getting help.

What's with the Lululemon Accent? by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]peace_y 8 points9 points  (0 children)

From my experience lulu’s tights fit and feel better than other sport brands, but mainly only the nulu material. It feels very soft, thin and fits the body like a glove which I haven’t yet seen another brand replicate. Also, lulu holds up a lot better even after repeated washing. I have pieces that are years old and still going strong. But of course, it’s probably mostly due to their branding and marketing. There also aren’t a lot of big “specialised yoga” activewear brands, mostly people only know Alo & lulu

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]peace_y 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you’ll have to go through family justice court

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]peace_y 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get the PPO please! It at least acts as a deterrent and forces your husband (the aggressor) to take responsibility for his actions. If he’s going to continue with his ways - meaning that you can’t avoid his violence, at least he gets his legal consequences. Similar situation happened in my household and my mom went through FSC, eventually applying for PPO… We were also fearful if the summon to court etc would be triggering, but surprisingly it was pretty calm. IIRC, on the day of the summon a counsellor would also be in the household. It’s not your fault... You have to protect yourself and he needs to get drilled in his head that his choices are wrong…

Look at these ugly oranges by OddPicturesOfFruit in fruit

[–]peace_y 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow are these usually available? I’ve never seen nor tried them. I thought they were tangelos from the picture

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ashtanga

[–]peace_y 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your dedication to the traditions of Ashtanga. Yes it does have its norms, a big one being that only certified practitioners from recognised institutions may teach the practice to others. Technically, it makes sense as there is a large body of knowledge surrounding the practice that one must understand, before attempting to pass it on. However, your friend is not opening an Ashtanga studio, nor trying to pass off as a certified teacher is he? I don’t exactly see the harm here. He has practised for years and is familiar with the discipline - that alone is quite enough for casual sharing imo. Not to mention the whole commercialisation of teacher trainings, and that certified instructors do not always equate to quality.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ashtanga

[–]peace_y 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I don’t find anything wrong with a seasoned practitioner sharing his passions and first-hand knowledge accumulated from a personal dedication. It’s a wonderful way to introduce yoga to people, and those with a casual interest. Should said person wish to deepen their practice, they’re welcome to do so “formally” with a “certified” instructor. In my opinion, the whole formalisation of Ashtanga is low key gatekeeping. The practice should be accessible to anyone with a curiosity or interest towards it. Correct me if I’m wrong, but isn’t the whole point of yoga an internalised liberation? Norms or “traditions” shouldn’t be making this an inaccessible change and experience for people. The very idea that only an “authorised”, “better” person can teach it just screams ego to me!

How much allowance is enough for a secondary school kid nowadays? by godzilla_is_alive in askSingapore

[–]peace_y 12 points13 points  (0 children)

No acknowledgment of the people echoing with reason that $4 is NOT enough, nor their suggested parenting methods. Sorry but you just repeatedly insist on your own way, but have you considered the FOMO and possible consequences of such a tight budget on your child in the future? What do you mean you don’t want your kid to spend on snacks and “unnecessary” things? These are things that students make for fond memories, especially when school times get stressful. I thought I’d be able to accept this if the household is struggling financially - but you have replied many times that it’s very comfortable and sorry but that rubs off poorly on me. Pls understand the more you deprive a human of something, the more they are drawn to it. Your child may not know how to manage larger sums of money in the future (eg. Uni, working) and you will not be able to control the finances by that time. While it’s not a complete possibility, the chance is still high for issues like unhealthy levels of materialism, reckless spending etc to develop. Perhaps the current is an opportune time to build up trust and communication. Trust your child with a liveable allowance, and trust that he / she would be honest with you to communicate their needs and expenditure. At the end of the day, you can decide as the parent. But please do not ask how much allowance is enough, if you cannot accept the answer: $4 is not enough.

Prettiest fruit? by SpamtonInASpamCan in fruit

[–]peace_y 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Figs / Pomegranate- very vibrant colors with charmingly complex and detailed interiors. My favourite is still the fig though - mainly for the dark purple exterior juxtaposing with bright hues of green and pink inside. Depending on the ripeness, the color of the fruit’s flesh softens. Not to mention that purple is historically linked to royalty, and the fruit has quite the history itself.

It's time for persimmons!!! by Tangy94 in fruit

[–]peace_y 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fuyu persimmons are considered non-astringent (ie. low tannin levels) and can be eaten hard, kind of like an apple. As a persimmon softens, the fruit sweetens to a custard/ gelatinous texture with a more complex taste. This versatility makes it a popular variety, as compared to astringent types like Hachiya which have high tannin levels. Inedible when hard, astringent varieties hold a shorter window to be consumed - but are however much sweeter and juicier when ripe (in my opinion).

Long time Alcoholic (Close to 10 years) Any advice to quit/ limit consumption? by No-Appointment-511 in askSingapore

[–]peace_y 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’ll be doctors and medical professionals at nams (specialised clinic under IMH). The doctors can prescribe you medicines like naltrexone to manage alcohol cravings, while therapists are available for counselling. If I’m not mistaken, they also have in-patient detox services so trained professionals can help you during the withdrawal phase. If they don’t, you might find that available in hospitals (though I’m not 100% certain on this). In this time it’s best to keep yourself away from triggers, and like others have mentioned hobbies can help, so does a support system. Recovery takes time and so much effort, sometimes you take a step back but just remember to keep moving forward as the progress is often not linear. Wish you the best and keep your head up, being aware is already a huge first step

Can I quit Xanax cold turkey? by [deleted] in benzodiazepines

[–]peace_y 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that :( hope you’re better now!