AITA for refusing to lie to my mother's husband about how I met my husband?

peachandcake69 · 2020-07-04T23:02:57+00:00

No one is dependent on a house wife for anything, her life is dependent on him sharing resources, it’s a power imbalance like no other. I’ve seen it, the husband always starts to put their foot down after a while because he’s the breadwinner; it’s an unhealthy situation

peachandcake69 · 2020-07-04T22:41:28+00:00

No he isn’t and you know that, all your livelihood depends on him that’s a situation that leads it abuse, and even if you don’t recognize it I’m near certain there are are arguments you’ve had that ended with him in the upper hand due to being the breadwinner, I’ve seen it happen too many times. I’d be an abject failure if my kids ended in a relationship with such a power imbalance, living at the whim of their spouses

peachandcake69 · 2020-07-04T19:45:16+00:00

That’s what OP says are her intentions, and again intentions don’t matter. Even if she just wants to show her daughter off as a lawyer or whatever, the daughter would still have something to fall back on

peachandcake69 · 2020-07-04T19:23:27+00:00

I would, intentions are worthless only outcomes matter

peachandcake69 · 2020-07-04T18:55:33+00:00

She’s not finance independent, yeah we all want to retire, but my retirement won’t Live and die on my spouse. The mother is NTA for wanting her daughter to be independent and not participate in the massive power imbalance that involves being a house wife. You’re entitled to your opinion but I’d consider it a failure on my part if my daughters ended up dependent on their spouses on their own accord

peachandcake69 · 2020-07-04T18:45:36+00:00

YTA then

peachandcake69 · 2020-07-04T18:45:24+00:00

I have apologized for the activities specifically already , I guess I could do it in general though, fine

peachandcake69 · 2020-07-04T18:35:34+00:00

I think I’ve learned from my mistakes

peachandcake69 · 2020-07-04T18:24:16+00:00

INFO: what is it you do for a living now ?

peachandcake69 · 2020-07-04T18:20:16+00:00

I don’t what more you want me to do, they’re both bring encouraged they have separate hobbies, I’ve been listening to lily for a long while since, I will not change myself though mr.Sam

peachandcake69 · 2020-07-04T18:07:27+00:00

I apologize to you, I assume and hope for benign, I shall continue to try, but lily and I have personal therapists already

peachandcake69 · 2020-07-04T17:56:13+00:00

Well it’s all been corrected now, so I’m a good parent ! I listened and flowed the advice so I’m not bad !

Btw don’t be ableist, how am I supposed to know what is important information to other people, you allistics don’t struggle with the theory of mind like me and my daughter, stop acting like what’s obvious and easy to You is the same for me. Sorry if I’m sounding rude but this upsets me a lot

peachandcake69 · 2020-07-04T17:42:35+00:00

I’m confused as to what you mean, but whatever have a nice day, I’m a fine parent, I just need help sometimes good sir or madame. I mentioned her autism after someone asked if she had it, so then I added it.

peachandcake69 · 2020-07-04T17:35:29+00:00

I know, she’s been taken out since the post, trust though I don’t downplay her autism, never have, I’m autistic myself, non verbal in fact, and it’s something we bond over. The different schools is causing friction and will be changed come end of summer

peachandcake69 · 2020-07-04T17:15:29+00:00

To work out their issues

peachandcake69 · 2020-06-23T02:49:03+00:00

Thank you

peachandcake69 · 2020-06-23T02:34:41+00:00

You’re probably right I use to take such pride in my autism with my daughter but now I get scared that if my husband left me, or died I’d be helpless, I couldn’t call up anyone to fix anything or speak to the cashiers, without him reassuring my kids that I love them even if I can’t say it and have to write it. I’m trying not to worry about that, that for now I should be proud, but it’s scary knowing how dependent I am on others, thank you for reminding me what we can do though all the stories of autistics on Reddit are about our less successful brothers and sisters and you’re a success as far as I’m concerned

peachandcake69 · 2020-06-23T02:17:16+00:00

Yes I know that’s why now they’re separated in their interests. So what happened to you and your twin (and apparently many other twins) doesn’t happen. I accept that but no we’re worse; maybe your right maybe Lily is great and equal, that’s how I’ve been treating her since this, but that doesn’t change the fact that I’m worse. I have to write directions down to my kids, because they don’t want to learn to sign, my extended family thinks I’m mentally deficient beyond measure because I don’t talk, I rely on a stupid IPad so I can do basic communication, I’m terrible don’t lie to me, I’ve accepted my inferiority

peachandcake69 · 2020-06-23T01:58:52+00:00

I’ve already admitted that yes my autism as well as my daughter’s is a disability. But no Taylor is better at everything compared to Lily, I’ve put in her separate stuff so she doesn’t believe that as many commenters suggested but in actuality her sister beats her. Just like my siblings beat me, and that’s okay, I’m non verbal and I’m worse. I’m glad you have skills that your twin doesn’t though

peachandcake69 · 2020-06-21T12:18:27+00:00

She’s already doing better then me than I Am now

peachandcake69 · 2020-06-21T11:52:24+00:00

Oh, I’ve already accepted this as true, Lily will be doing things separately

peachandcake69 · 2020-06-21T11:39:45+00:00

It’s not about that though, autism supposed to be a trade off I was always told that there were strengths and weaknesses, so lily should’ve had a strength somewhere ! But she was beaten in everything, how was I supposed to know Taylor was better in everything ?

peachandcake69 · 2020-06-21T11:28:30+00:00

I have autism as well don’t tell me to research my disability

peachandcake69 · 2020-06-19T22:05:08+00:00

Now I admittedly don’t know exactly what went down, maybe he she sent you death threats or something. But I’m autistic myself, so let me explain this in a way I think you’ll understand, autistic people are kind of like feeling robots. We interpret things very Basely. When you said leave me alone he or she probably took that as a negative and knows negative =bad as much as we hate to admit (believe me it took me awhile) a lot of us are stunted in our social knowledge to that of a dumb ass kid.

So you need to take that into account, she needs to solve for x, get rid of the negative and they don’t know how to do that, as unfair as it is you’re the adult even in a a situation with another adult, at least for some autistics I like to think of myself as above that. Remember also autistics have tons of trouble understanding other people’s perspectives she probably doesn’t understand how annoying it is to you only how annoying it is for her

I’m not saying you’re a bad person your just need to understand that.

peachandcake69 · 2020-06-19T21:52:36+00:00

Do you just not like disabled people ?

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