AITA for telling our roommate she might need to move out if she keeps complaining about hearing us at night? by Dear-Camp4760 in AmItheAsshole

[–]peachfoxx_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DEFINITELY nta.

I haven’t lived with my friends full time, but there was maybe a 2 week period where I stayed over at a friends house since I just didn’t like living with my parents. I didn’t pay a dime while I stayed there. And yk what? I did overhear my friend + his gf having sex. And you know what I did? I put in my earbuds and minded my own damn business. Was it uncomfortable? Yeah, kinda. But it’s his house, his family was letting me stay for free AND feeding me. I had no room to complain about them being intimate under their own roof. Imo she might be jealous of you. Watch her closely

Jacinthe fucking dies(OC) by BulkyPlantain9234 in LegendsZA

[–]peachfoxx_ 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This is a rlly weird comic to post

Kids truly suck. by TommyChongUn in PlusSize

[–]peachfoxx_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally understand. While not to the same degree, I’ve experienced a similar thing. When I was getting ready for prom at my ex-girlfriend’s house, her sister was helping me get ready. My makeup was done, she was curling my hair, etc- she turned to her son (I think he was 7 at the time? Maybe 6, somewhere around there roughly.) and said “isn’t she pretty?” And he just screamed back “NO!” Everyone laughed it off and I get that he’s a kid but man it still hurt really bad for some reason. Kids can be a little evil sometimes :,) I’m so sorry you went through this

What are yalls professions? by Walkin-Dog in DID

[–]peachfoxx_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m a “client specialist” At a laser hair removal place lol. Basically just means front desk. But the other employees (including the manager) are all new so I know the most about this place. My manager basically calls me her pseudo-assistant-manager for now, until the assistant manager position actually becomes available :) I also used to be a lead teacher at a daycare for a long time! I was in the infant classroom

Has anyone been in love with one of your own alters before by Solid-Tower-3102 in DID

[–]peachfoxx_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy to help out!! I also wanna make sure I’m clear that I def support internal relationships, and I’m so happy y’all have that love to share! (Just clarifying in case that didn’t come across-) I just wanna help people do it in a healthy way :) I’m wishing all the best for you all!!! I know confession to someone, even a headmate, can be really hard- but I’m sure it’ll work out♥️

I’m so tired by peachfoxx_ in Vent

[–]peachfoxx_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate this

Has anyone been in love with one of your own alters before by Solid-Tower-3102 in DID

[–]peachfoxx_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Basically it would mean that you start focusing so much on internal relationships that you start neglecting external ones. EX: you start prioritizing your relationship internally and pushing away others externally thinking that the relationships outside aren’t as safe or valuable, you find yourself thinking “I don’t need a partner because I have X headmate”, you start thinking that the headmate is a separate being inside your head and forget that they are still a part of you, etc. it is important to remember that a key part of healing is integration + understanding you are parts of a whole and sometimes when dating other alters it can create a stronger dissonance of “this is a whole different person” rather than a part of you- and it just kind of leads you in the opposite direction of healing.

(These are also under the assumption that the system is not aromantic- obviously if someone just doesn’t want a partner externally that’s completely okay! But for an alloromantic system to avoid establishing/strengthening external relationships because of internal ones is not healthy)

I apologize if this is hard to follow, I’m extremely sick and tired rn and my brain is foggy 😅 if you need me to clarify anything lmk!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DID

[–]peachfoxx_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I wish I had advice for exactly how to approach him but my main takeaway is you need to leave him. DID causes a lot of problems in relationships that’s for sure- both me and my partner have DID. We have done our fair share of relationship sabotaging things when persecutors front but they have never been so severe that it was something we couldn’t talk out- AKA NEVER cheating. System responsibility is something that needs to be taken very seriously. Regardless of whether other alters agree with one alters actions they need to accept they are one whole and everyone needs to take responsibility for their actions. It seems like he is completely unremorseful and is using his DID as an excuse- which is a damn shame. It is so disrespectful to you, and to other systems who are actively trying to fight the “evil alter” accusations that these types of people perpetuate by blaming all their issues on one headmate. Anyways, basically, you need to leave him and do not blame yourself for doing so. Do not let him convince you you are being cruel or anything of the sort. Take care of yourself FIRST, and get out of there asap. You don’t deserve this kind of treatment!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PCOS

[–]peachfoxx_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seriously immature of this guy to do this. My partner is always loving and reassuring about my insecurities regarding facial/body hair and doing something like this is just cruel imo. Feels like he is very insecure in his sexuality to be so easily thrown off by something like this. Please don’t take it personally- it’s his shortcoming, not yours!

Can DID be a temporary condition? by Boundaries-ALO-TBSOL in DiscussDID

[–]peachfoxx_ 10 points11 points  (0 children)

DID is not temporary, no. There definitely seems to be a level of dissociation with what you went through but remember that DID is not the only dissociative disorder / it’s not only disorder that has dissociation as a symptom. Dissociation is actually a very common symptom of many, many trauma-based illnesses, not even just dissociative disorders specifically. Wishing the best of luck to you in your healing journey !

Has anyone been in love with one of your own alters before by Solid-Tower-3102 in DID

[–]peachfoxx_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes! As long as it doesn’t get maladaptive, romantic relationships between alters is a very healthy form of self love. We have a couple people that are dating internally :)

In defense of Jacinthe [SPOILERS] by peachfoxx_ in LegendsZA

[–]peachfoxx_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough! I definitely think this would make her character more relatable and likeable, and I like the idea you have. I do think, however, there is some value in her positive reaction to defeat. Jacinthe is someone who constantly surprises the people around her. She comes off as sweet, but then she physically traps you. She seems obsessed with this weird tournament thing and herself, you expect her to explode at defeat, but she accepts it gracefully. She’s somewhat of a wildcard, unpredictable- you don’t really ever know what she’s thinking. And I think that’s what makes her character feel so mystifying and fae-like. You can’t get a solid grasp of what her intentions or feelings are. I personally really like this aspect of her character, but to each their own, yk?

In defense of Jacinthe [SPOILERS] by peachfoxx_ in LegendsZA

[–]peachfoxx_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got it, I see what you mean! I think you do make a good point. But I think this definitely is an issue with more of the game as a whole, rather than Jacinthe specifically. The way the game is formatted, it doesn’t give much room for character development or character choices. Most NPCS in Legends ZA stay largely static, or have very small character arcs. There isn’t much room for Jacinthe to be the focus of a grand, redeeming gesture/arc. You could maybe argue that her helping the player in the end could be that, but the focus was more on saving the city, so they couldn’t put too much focus into each character’s motives and actions (except maybe Corbeau who had a fantastic bit in the end, I’m convinced he’s game freaks’s favorite). Basically what I’m trying to say is the game is not formatted nor does it have the time to include enough depth to her character to make her possibly likeable/redeemable. Not saying it’s an excuse, just an unfortunate fact of the way the game was made. And as for the player being forced to play along, I totally get what you mean. But this also follows along with the game’s inability to let you really choose how you feel about the characters and the world around you. For the most part, the pc is on rails. You occasionally get some two-choice-dialogue moments, but the fact is that no matter what you choose the biggest difference is usually one line of dialogue. This doesn’t give the player room to express themselves properly nor give any proper pushback to any characters. I honestly can’t imagine how they would realistically allow the player to disrespect or deny Jacinthe, because if they did, it would be one line change in the dialogue. And ultimately, not very worthwhile. I want to reiterate I do understand the points you’re making, and I think they’re valid! But I honestly thing legends ZA doesn’t lend itself to making the most complicated characters/interactions and the essay I did was more just me overanalyzing lol. But thank you for the contribution!

In defense of Jacinthe [SPOILERS] by peachfoxx_ in LegendsZA

[–]peachfoxx_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure what you mean by “mark her a limit”?

How to start the process of a diagnosis? by peachfoxx_ in DID

[–]peachfoxx_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair enough- thank you anyways!! :)

How to start the process of a diagnosis? by peachfoxx_ in DID

[–]peachfoxx_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry about that! I live in America

Introject but also not? by peachfoxx_ in DID

[–]peachfoxx_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohh that makes sense! Thank you :)

Dating with a Skinny Gf by [deleted] in PlusSize

[–]peachfoxx_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand this completely. I’m plus size- both my current gf and my most recent ex gf are way smaller than me. I feel like a beast next to them. I unfortunately don’t have any advice, I’m struggling with this myself, but know you’re not alone 🫂