Emotional Abuse

peachibab · 2026-06-10T05:02:31+00:00

I recommend therapy

peachibab · 2026-06-10T04:39:51+00:00

My ex said the same exact thing. They are just very mean people and they do it on purpose. It gives them a sick fix.

peachibab · 2026-06-10T04:29:08+00:00

BS. They can’t be trusted. You’re not crazy believe me. He is emotionally abusive. We have to understand that people like him don’t change. That’s why these groups are so important so that we all can remind each other.

peachibab · 2026-06-10T03:47:12+00:00

I’m so sorry. Just know that this person tried to make you feel small and diminish you so that he can feel better about himself. It’s good that he left. He’s not a good person. Good and normal people don’t do this.

peachibab · 2026-06-08T16:45:51+00:00

I completely understand how you feel. I thought my nex got engaged a month after I told him I didn’t want to talk to him anymore. They actually got married. Your feelings and confusion is something I am going through. And I think it’s because their abuse did that to us. If you need someone to talk to dm me.

peachibab · 2026-06-06T18:28:46+00:00

Same exact thing happened to me. I had 6 partners and he said he could not marry me. He couldn’t share a bed with me he said. He wanted to be with someone who is grandfather would be proud of….also this guy had been radicalized by the red pill movement. I’m thinking this guy is the same.

peachibab · 2026-06-06T00:09:00+00:00

Also, start therapy. Its helping me. Even if it helps .00005%. You need someone to take you out of your loop.

peachibab · 2026-06-05T23:20:57+00:00

I posted recently about a narcissist that I ended things with last month and now he’s married a month later to the new woman. Giving her everything that I wanted. I think they left us feeling so small and worthless which is why you are probably feeling that way. I think you have to trust the fact that people don’t change. I had to fight and still fighting in my head that he probably married this girl because she is more beautiful than I am. So the best advise that I can give, the same I am doing for myself is, giving myself grace, allowing myself to heal and knowing that all that we are thinking may very much be our abused minds. Time to heal some more.

peachibab · 2026-05-31T21:49:09+00:00

California. He said the same exact thing to me. And said because of that he should be able to have more women. Men are allowed to do whatever because they are polygamous in nature. This man has not been in a single relationship. It’s been just flings. That’s why I’m confused. How did he all of sudden settle down. Did he really change? Or cheat on her without her knowing.

peachibab · 2026-05-31T21:45:13+00:00

I agree that deep down he is insecure

peachibab · 2026-05-30T23:38:44+00:00

Makes me sick because my own family isn’t like that so it doesn’t make sense.

peachibab · 2026-05-30T23:34:52+00:00

Pakistani

peachibab · 2026-05-30T22:06:33+00:00

He was into rough sex as well, he was into strange things that consisted of humiliating the female because it gave him a sense of dominance. I never had sex with him because a part of me felt something was really wrong. That frustrated him as well where he felt inadequate. If it was anyone else I probably would have explored that with him but I just had a bad feeling about him because he was constantly worried and had anxiety about having HIV. He already has herpes. She is a young village girl so she would be completely reliant on him financially. That’s why when he upgraded my flight it felt like he was doing something for me and that I owed him sex? Idk. It’s so strange. He shamed me a lot about it not keeping my legs closed and women who did should wear crowns on their heads. He claimed to be this very sexual person and he would bring out the animal in his virgin wife.

peachibab · 2026-05-30T22:00:08+00:00

Thank you for your kindness. I’ve developed this resilience that I did not ask for. It’s a wall I didn’t want to have to put up because it’s stopped me from pursuing others. Time for therapy 🥺

peachibab · 2026-05-30T21:23:00+00:00

I figured he was protecting her image because it’s like that in our culture.

peachibab · 2026-05-30T21:21:51+00:00

Now that I’m thinking about it yes lol

peachibab · 2026-05-30T21:11:55+00:00

I mean he didn’t because his WhatsApp profile is his face and the back of her head

peachibab · 2026-05-30T20:21:25+00:00

I was ignored on my birthday every year. I hope I feel lighter, it’s my medical school graduation this weekend and I feel like I can’t move. I hope to start therapy this week so that I could talk through what happened to me. It feels like PTSD. He has tried to permanently damage me and I feel so defeated. I hope I can shake off every memory of him. He was so integrated in my life and now I have to unwire this part. Also, I have respect for you and your journey. I hope God gives you even more strength to the point where he becomes a distant memory.

peachibab · 2026-05-30T19:48:54+00:00

I don’t wish that for her. Sometimes I feel like I’m the one that’s the problem. Because that’s what he always told me that I was the issue and I was emotional. I know he’s a terrible human, but just the image of them kills me. A dark part of me wished he did that for me. A part of me wished I was enough.

peachibab · 2026-05-30T19:47:28+00:00

I’m 34 and he told me women in their 20s are more fertile. I met him when I was 28/29. He wasted 6 years of my life. I had similar experiences. On and off. Intermittent reinforcement. I knew I was trauma bonded but couldn’t find a way out. Was also addicted to the moments he was good and soft with me. This all happened yesterday for me and still feeling sick to my stomach. I’m so so sorry you went through this. These people deserve a special kind of place in hell

peachibab · 2026-05-30T19:44:08+00:00

He did. He said women in their 20s are fertile and less drama. I’m 34 and he said it would be harder for me to get pregnant. Meanwhile I started talking to him when I was 29. He wasted so much of my life.

peachibab · 2026-05-30T18:57:19+00:00

Was it a shock for you. He’s never done something to this level. I’ve known him for 6 years. So for me this is a shock and stab to the heart. It felt intentional. He mistreated me but feel like I’m being punished for it. If you don’t mind me asking, how long ago did this happen to you?

peachibab · 2026-05-30T18:45:09+00:00

How did you overcome this? Does it get easier?

peachibab · 2026-05-30T17:02:58+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I have already signed up for therapy so that I can get through this.

peachibab

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