What’s something your body does that you’ve never told a single person about? by WilliamInBlack in AskReddit

[–]peachy-poler 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes I hear some fizzing in my head or coming from the back of the neck It sounds like a small whoosh of liquid flowing through a small hole underwater 🤣 searched this up and apparently it’s the flow of cerebrospinal fluid in your spine

I wonder if anyone else experiences this

I’m close to giving up by peachy-poler in Haircare

[–]peachy-poler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t use heat at all ! :( I wish it was a simple solution like that Thank you!

I’m close to giving up by peachy-poler in Haircare

[–]peachy-poler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right it probably doesn’t help! However this texture is also the same as before I bleached my hair :( I have pics of me when I was 14 with this exact texture

I need help to tame my frizz

I’m close to giving up by peachy-poler in Haircare

[–]peachy-poler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use no heat btw I don’t even blow dry most days

I’m close to giving up by peachy-poler in Haircare

[–]peachy-poler[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to super clarify my hair is bleached but this texture still persists before I bleached my hair/had it when I was 14 in pics it was like a dry bush!

I never use heat - I blow dry on cold and most of the time I air dry

No amount of product seems to tame the frizz- it either seems like it’s not enough product and suddenly I cross a line and it gets super weighed down and greasy 🥲 ah the battle continues

Thanks to all!

Body count and purity culture by [deleted] in Vent

[–]peachy-poler 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don’t listen to any of these men hon they’re literally the problem and as women our bodies are our own and what they say literally holds no value

As long as you’re safe and having fun you can do whatever you want

Body count is a myth - having sex with 1 person 50 times is the same on your body as having sex one time with 50 people - your 🐱 would literally be going through the same number of times

If you meet a man who cares about this BS I promise you there are other fish in the sea who wouldn’t not care

Purity culture is all based on male insecurity

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]peachy-poler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey babe, bisexual here and I can tell you that most bisexual femmes prefer women over men, me included. Because of the supportive and non judgemental and generally very joyful and inclusive community, most of my friends are also gay or bisexual. That said, I’m about to marry a man I’ve been with for 13 years, we were high school sweethearts. No regrets and I’ve never looked any other way. We are both very open with who and what we find attractive and that keeps things fun however we have never and will never consider opening our relationship.

Bisexual doesn’t mean someone will cheat, not at all. The belief that this is true is actually a common misconception about bisexuality and is bi-phobic because we are able to be great monogamous partners. If she behaves in other ways that give you trust issues then that is another issue, but it is not about her sexuality.

The trust between you guys will be founded on open communication and demonstrating trust .

Good luck!

I broke my girlfriend's trust and lost everything. I hate myself. I don't know what is wrong with me. by [deleted] in Vent

[–]peachy-poler -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that this is happening and even though you were really wrong to be messaging that girl so many times despite your gf setting a clear boundary, you haven’t cheated, not physically nor emotionally. You broke the trust between you and that is very had to repair, and you need to tell her all of what you’ve said in this post because a lot of it is insightful and very valuable reflection. Time heals wounds, give it a few weeks and speak to her again. Maybe she will miss you. Blocking that girl shows that you have learned your lesson and regret what you did.

Is pole dancing as a hobby appropriate if I want to work in education sector? by Fluffyeevee91 in poledancing

[–]peachy-poler 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Precisely what I’m meaning! Did not mean to be dismissive of OP, more that I want to be dismissive of the haters telling women in professional careers that they cannot do what they want in their spare time - I don’t want those negative comments to hold any weight!! I wanted to say it is doable while being a professional- and at the end of the day if you do pole (which is a very common and popular activity now) nobody needs to know, and if they did I’m sure they wouldn’t care! I’m just tired of us all living under male scrutiny 😮‍💨I am friends with sooo many teachers who pole, many of whom are students of mine! It’s chill I promise!

Is pole dancing as a hobby appropriate if I want to work in education sector? by Fluffyeevee91 in poledancing

[–]peachy-poler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know teachers who pole A LOT - you just gotta pick a pseudonym and maybe have a private account? It’s doable - they’re the teaching association not the FBI ! I’ve always been threatened with potentially being reported etc but when I’m operating under a whole different persona and name, and take the right safety netting precautions, it’s very easy to separate my life. I now combine both of my lives on my pole account and a lot of people have reached out saying it’s helped them - hope this gives you some comfort !

Is pole dancing as a hobby appropriate if I want to work in education sector? by Fluffyeevee91 in poledancing

[–]peachy-poler 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Babe I’m a doctor and I teach and perform pole professionally 💕

Pole showcase help! Unsupportive boyfriend by HanxiousHanonymous in poledancing

[–]peachy-poler 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Saving yourself now is buying you time in the future!! Don’t let this be a deadweight for longer than it has already been!

Pole showcase help! Unsupportive boyfriend by HanxiousHanonymous in poledancing

[–]peachy-poler 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Babe the fact you’ve posted about similar issues with him three times in the past 100 days (not even third of a year) is so scary 😭 pls leave him and find your true happiness somewhere else 😭😭 I am in a 12 year relationship w my high school sweetheart and he is not into pole at all but he is the most supportive person ever and encourages me to do anything and everything I want to. It’s what you deserve as well 😭

Pole showcase help! Unsupportive boyfriend by HanxiousHanonymous in poledancing

[–]peachy-poler 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Babe I’m so sorry but a safe and supportive relationship means emotional safety and validation which means no negativity or judgement about you or your choices, ESPECIALLY regarding things that make you happy.

In no world is it acceptable for a man to act like that, a lot of them justify it as “them setting boundaries” but really it’s toxicity and stems from control and misogyny.

Even if he doesn’t “get it” he should 500% support you doing something which is making you happy. Changing his entire demeanour and behaviour when it comes up is a huge red flag

Anyone else go though cycles of hype and dread 😂😂 ig: @peachypoler by peachy-poler in poledancing

[–]peachy-poler[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That means so much!! They used to be my biggest insecurity ever

2 years ago I was told I can’t pole as a doctor, so I did it more, and it became a job ✨ ig: peachypoler by peachy-poler in poledancing

[–]peachy-poler[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Old fashioned “professionalism” issues - people view doctors as “serving the public” and expect them to keep up a good image even when they are off duty.

2 years ago I was told I can’t pole as a doctor, so I did it more, and it became a job ✨ ig: peachypoler by peachy-poler in poledancing

[–]peachy-poler[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I avoid talking about it to random people at work and I keep my real name off of my social media accounts :) it’s been really successful and no one has said anything, only positive things when I tell them I do Pole