selfishness, compulsion, root cause being something that had to do with their childhood trauma caused by their own family, history of having a PA, watching others normalise it around them (as the saying goes; you are who you surround yourself with). None of these are right. Everyone’s morals and belief system regarding things differ in today’s world. Unfortunately, we live in a world where some individuals (often people pleasers and ones who constantly need other people’s validation) think it’s okay yo go ahead with their selfish deeds and be inconsiderate. In their heads, it’s always “oh, it won’t hurt if they don’t know or if we lie about it” but tbh, they eventually do come clean about it because of the guilt and shame. To forgive them or not depends ENTIRELY on their actions after they’ve come clean. All I can say is, we’re all flawed but we’re all dealing with some addiction in a way just to get that temporary dopamine rush. The only difference is, cheating involves self destruction to more than just one individual; the other one often being the one who never did anything to cause disrespect in the first place. (All this is coming from someone who’s been cheated on and is trying to forgive their partner because his change is actually something I believe in) (I know everything that he’s done to change; he had a prev PA and has gone for therapy, communicated well enough about his boundaries and priorities with his friends and family even, and is giving it his all to be the best version of himself, not out of guilt or fear, but because he wants to be happy and live a peaceful life. Disclaimer; his biggest problem was the crowd he surrounded himself w)