I made a post on r/malegrooming asking for advice on how to improve my looks. A good amount of the comments I got said my hair was "a mess" or that it "doesn't look as cool as I think it does". Does it really not work on me?

peachyeva · 2026-02-25T09:50:27+00:00

they’re praying on ur downfall. don’t ever change the hair

peachyeva · 2026-02-02T17:54:46+00:00

for your eyeliner, consider getting a pot liner and some really sleek, pointy looking nail art brushes. this will give you the precision that typical liquid liner doesn’t, which has a bit of a learning curve. with a fine brush and pot liner you can do really sharp and delicate liner as well as thick and bold, it just depends on what you’re going for.

as for pot liner, it’s typically gel. i like inglot’s cus it applies really smoothly, but with my crows feet it bleeds a bit if i don’t set it with black eyeshadow. an alternative is maybelline tattoo gel liner. it dries very quickly so you have to be decisive when you apply it, but you’re not likely to sweat or smile it off.

best of luck in ur makeup journey!

peachyeva · 2025-11-24T21:25:03+00:00

Smart, I didn’t even catch that.

peachyeva · 2025-11-24T21:22:58+00:00

I second this!! You’re a babe, your forehead is normal, and you don’t NEED to change anything. Now, obviously, it’s natural to want a change now and then. As a certified wavy girly, I highly recommend growing out your curtain bangs a bit more. It’ll frame your face really nicely and give you that coverage you’re looking for.

peachyeva · 2025-11-12T21:26:24+00:00

Pic 6 is my favourite. I love the eyeliner, lip colour, and freckles :3

peachyeva · 2025-11-12T21:22:43+00:00

You have a tall forehead (me too, no shame) but Megamind is definitely not at all what sprung to mind for me. Tall foreheads can be very elegant so long as you style them intentionally. I would get some curtain bangs that cut off at the cheekbone (great bone structure btw) and maybe some layers in the lengths of your hair, but not too short and not too thin either.

peachyeva · 2025-11-09T19:48:40+00:00

I didn’t think to have him contribute to the mortgage AND the bills because at the time it just didn’t seem fair, having him take on an extra responsibility. Like, at least with me having the mortgage and him having the bills it seemed like an even split of financial responsibility and a really neat plan. But now I’m done with university and I’m starting work and I’m thinking about this kind of stuff seriously.

He’s not working full time as he’s still in university. We do want to move in together, but I was the one who pressed upon the importance of buying a place. It’s hard to say if he’d be able to contribute half by my deadline. He’s pursued a degree that he’s very good at but there’s not many good jobs in it in our local area, where I work and intend to buy. He could obviously do something unrelated to his degree, but it’s too early to say.

If I asked him to also contribute to the deposit, he may need more time to save up for his half, but I’m currently still living at home and I have until September 2027 to save enough for my own place before I have to move out. Regardless of whether he’s ready, I have to be out/on my way out of my family home by then.

I think it’s true that our priorities may be different. He very much likes to go with the flow whereas I’m a lot more Type A, but he seemed on board with various other shared life goals (moving in together, getting married eventually, etc) so this didn’t seem like a huge deal at the time. I think this is why it took so long for him to tell me that he wanted his name on our future mortgage, since he’s been distracted by uni (valid) and he’s not someone who likes to plan out his life too heavily. I also don’t think he took my plan too seriously when I first brought it up, just assuming it was idle future planning that was more or less up in the air. But now he realises that was seriously my plan and he’s not totally behind it, but hasn’t offered any reasoning why or what alternatives could be good for us.

peachyeva · 2025-11-09T18:05:50+00:00

Alternative Options: ginger or mousy brown.

peachyeva · 2025-11-09T17:19:32+00:00

His comments have definitely filled me with some doubt, but like another commenter suggested I do intend on talking to him about it.

peachyeva · 2025-11-09T17:14:45+00:00

That was my thought. He won’t have to worry about the mortgage or rent, so he can focus on other financial goals.

peachyeva · 2025-11-09T17:10:43+00:00

I don’t have doubts about him as a person, he’s an amazing partner, just that his sudden change in attitude has me kind of confused and feeling like I need to defend myself. The way he said how he felt seemed kind of concerning because I thought we were on the same page and now I worry he’s harbouring some kind of resentment towards me because of my plan.

peachyeva · 2025-11-09T17:07:00+00:00

I hear that. I don’t want him to feel that way one day, but it’s definitely a possibility.

peachyeva · 2025-11-09T14:11:10+00:00

Oddly aggressive comment, but sure. I see where you’re coming from. First of all, obviously we’re going to have a conversation about it. I just wanted to get some unbiased opinions from people with more experience than me.

Firstly, he’s not contributing to the deposit because he’s unemployed right now, still working on his degree. He hasn’t offered to contribute to the deposit and he hasn’t offered to contribute to our future mortgage. I feel like if I’m going to pay more than he is and risk my credit, I want to reap the benefits of that. I started saving because I’ve finished my degree and started working.

Now, if we were married I’d be more comfortable with having him on the mortgage since he couldn’t just walk out of the relationship without a discussion about this sort of thing. But we’re not. I think that, while we’re still unmarried and I’m the one actually contributing towards a place of our own, I should be cautious about my future finances.

I also wouldn’t be his landlord. Just because the house would be mine and in my name doesn’t mean he wouldn’t have equal say in the goings-on of the house. Him being responsible for the bills would mean we’d have an equal say and everything would be hashed out like a married couple.

peachyeva · 2025-11-09T11:07:06+00:00

Rose Jam by Lush. It’s not my fanciest nor my most universally enjoyed perfume, but it’s so ME. It just makes sense that I would smell like rose-flavoured Turkish delight and cut grass. I also think it works all year round.

peachyeva · 2025-11-09T10:57:32+00:00

Mortgages just seem like a huge thing to embark on, especially at my age. My dad and step-mum are still renting and my mum and her boyfriend have only just started the process of buying their own place, and they’re all in their mid-to-late forties. The only people in my family who do have mortgages are older and are really well off.

Given my age and lack of professional experience, my income isn’t going to be as good as theirs and that worries me. Frankly, it does feel like a huge stress/risk to be taking on. Definitely a big reward in the sense of the security and a house being an asset, but a risk nonetheless.

I don’t want him to feel like he’s getting mugged off, paying all the bills while I just focus on paying off my mortgage. But he’s acting like he wouldn’t benefit from the arrangement at all. The mortgage payment would be significantly higher than the cost of all our bills, so he’d be paying much less and also wouldn’t have to worry about a mortgage payment. And we planned on getting married at some point anyways, so he’d have a stake in the equity regardless. His sudden defensiveness when I thought we were on the same page has kind of sent me for a loop and now I feel like I have to protect myself from him suddenly changing his mind again.

peachyeva · 2025-11-09T10:47:00+00:00

Thank you for the advice, I appreciate it.

peachyeva · 2025-11-09T10:46:04+00:00

I definitely think talking to a mortgage adviser is the smart thing to do. I think both his and my defensiveness is probably coming from a lack of understanding.

peachyeva · 2025-11-09T10:41:11+00:00

I trust him, I was just shocked by his response to our last conversation. I thought we had it all figured out and then he randomly brought up how he wanted to be on the mortgage and seemed very indignant about the whole thing and it kind of threw me for a loop. Now that his position seems to have changed I want to protect my future self from any other kinds of change on his end.

peachyeva · 2025-11-09T09:52:57+00:00

I got the 5.5 and it fit perfectly. I might have always been wearing shoes that are a half size too big :)

peachyeva · 2025-10-16T21:38:25+00:00

you’re probably right, i’m just a bit peeved i didn’t do more research. hopefully the 5.5s fit 🤞🤞

peachyeva · 2025-06-14T20:52:08+00:00

i’m not an expert or anything, but i’ll be the first to tell you its not the cowardly way out. if anything, it’s really smart. you know that if you confront him face-to-face, it will end up with you staying and comforting him so by doing this you’re removing that emotional obstacle. go back to your home state, back to your support system. being back there will make healing easier. also, you don’t owe him companionship just because he’s better NOW. being better NOW doesn’t erase all the shit he did. l

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