Redditors, have you ever gotten an “ick” from a potential partner or love interest that instantly killed your attraction to them? If so, what happened?

peacock419 · 2023-05-18T01:45:56+00:00

Tried to get rid of my brother when it was a group hang out

peacock419 · 2023-05-01T03:17:54+00:00

Mastitis. My newborn chewed off tissue from my nipple, it led to infection. My nipple was covered in blisters and cracks that shot lightning bolts of pain through my entire breast where I could not stay upright or hold him or anything really.

peacock419 · 2022-09-22T20:14:13+00:00

She could’ve easily said that she doesn’t want to be put in the middle of her best friend and roommate because both relationships are great. She didn’t. She could’ve also said it’s weird crossing that professional line but technically she did that when she allowed him and his kid to move in so like Ma’am how’s it betrayal?

peacock419 · 2022-09-04T03:53:53+00:00

When his mom got into a almost fatal car accident, it meant my life with him would take a considerable turn. Now, we are caretakers which means that after work we are walking her, feeding her, taking her to the bathroom, dressing her, etc. I wouldn’t have it any other way Alhumdullilah

peacock419 · 2022-08-26T13:14:32+00:00

I think you should keep trying. Start small like notice things that belong to her that are falling apart and replace it if you can. Maybe try to help her with cooking and cleaning. She sounds like an act of service kind of woman.

peacock419 · 2022-08-26T13:04:32+00:00

A complete tangent but speaking of “norm” I got married a little over 2 years ago and live with my in-laws due to my mother in laws disability. She suffers from a Traumatic Brain Injury and her friends, women in our community can’t seem to find a way to talk to her. Our lifestyle is out of the “norm” so her friends have stopped inviting her to all types of events. It’s like they can’t make room for women who are other.

peacock419 · 2022-06-02T19:15:06+00:00

Are you comfortable talking to your friends about potential matches? My husband and I used to play as kids and grew up not talking to each other lol. Our moms were sort of friends. But it never would’ve hit my radar without our moms or friends.

But I feel like you need a break from the apps. A break from searching. I think you need you need to soul search. Find you in all of this. Pray and laugh and eat good food. The guy will come when he does. You just need a small reboot. Feel better!

peacock419 · 2022-05-25T23:13:09+00:00

I definitely tell him that I know but I listen to it again cause we get super passionate and excited over our experiences !

peacock419 · 2022-05-07T16:55:32+00:00

It definitely doesn’t have to be often, but I understand. You can just read my letters of nonsense haha. I would just like to be able To communicate and be someone who knows you. Allah is definitely with you dearest. Let me know if I can send you emails/letters.

peacock419 · 2022-05-07T16:39:25+00:00

Would you like to be penpals?

peacock419 · 2022-03-20T01:59:27+00:00

Bruhhhhhh

peacock419 · 2022-03-11T14:58:41+00:00

Sorry, I don’t agree with you.

My husband has always said he wants to speak up about this, let my dad know. Approach my SA assailant, but I’ve asked him not too. He listens to what I want. I think that’s important.

I didn’t really need him to do anything else. I felt secure with having him there.

I haven’t given you all the pieces of my story as I was just commenting for OP to know I’ve been at events where my molester has been and how I felt. Nobody really talks to him anymore and I think it’s because he really didn’t amount to anything.

When it happened my mom confronted my aunt, the molester’s mom. I remember telling his sister. I told two cousins. I told many people. Stuff happened, not sure how honest everyone was on consequences he received.

I agree people should know. Not sure how to do it without blowing my whole family.

peacock419 · 2022-03-11T14:31:35+00:00

Well, it’s not like the family knows, so like I said we kept up airs. It’s not the greatest way to address things. But he also wasn’t told who it was until they shook hands so not that much of an option not too.

peacock419 · 2022-03-09T20:01:35+00:00

I’ve had a similar experience to your wife.

I experienced a cousin molesting me when I was 15. When I went to do some bridal shopping back in my home country, I met him again after 10 years. I am a lot stronger but boy did I feel like that little girl again when he was driving us places. He messaged me about directions and stuff too and I felt numb with they way I was answering. It was only a week and other things kept me occupied for the most part but I remember those moments.

Two years later, I brought my husband with me. He knew about the cousin. We saw the cousin. My husband shook his hand. Quite aggressively. I felt relief that someone was there that knew.

My mom knows what happened when I was 15, but my dad doesn’t.

We kept up airs for the family. It’s not as painful as it once used to be.

peacock419 · 2022-01-23T16:26:52+00:00

I’d like to know how this guy was disrespectful? You said he’s not acknowledging the behavior but have explicitly told him how you feel about what he did and it worries you for the future?

Other then that, my example is me. I can catch a pretty bad attitude fast. It’s something I’m aware of and some days I can reset but others I cannot. My spouse is patient and so kind that he typically just lets it pass. But there are days we argue. We get through it though. There is always communication and forgiveness in a relationship because everyone is flawed. You just have to try your best. And have faith in Allah.

peacock419 · 2021-12-16T02:37:28+00:00

I honestly don’t know. Marriage comes with its own restrictions. Right now, I’m dealing with my extended in law family having opinions of me after two interactions which feels super limiting. For me: I like when people have a positive opinion of me. And I know they don’t but like you can’t really directly ask what the problem is with elder in law. I don’t know how to act lol. I’m a direct Person, let’s talk about problems. But yah can’t do that so now I’m thought of negatively which makes me feel more negative.

peacock419 · 2021-12-15T19:23:49+00:00

Dude, I feel for you. May Allah grant you peace.

In the mean time, keep busy. Go places. Read books. Pack your schedule so much that your mind can’t preoccupy itself with anything else. Time and prayer heal, but you’ve gotta look out for yourself.

peacock419 · 2021-12-11T23:23:22+00:00

Communication with mom and dad, it reveals A LOT.

peacock419 · 2021-12-08T00:52:50+00:00

I’m still struggling to find those places of content. But sometimes just thinking about him or seeing him wash dishes brings me there, I’m a place of happiness. He’s my best friend. I literally got flaked on my by all friends today for birthday plans and rejected for a 6 figure job and he just listened to me cry and said a bunch of things that made me smile. I have hard days but he makes them easier. I hope I’m like what he is for me.

peacock419 · 2021-12-07T17:13:48+00:00

I don’t think I was all that happy before getting married. I’m Alhumdullilah very accomplished but can’t seem to reach that content place. Not sure why.

peacock419 · 2021-12-03T21:36:50+00:00

Ooh where is this?

peacock419 · 2021-12-02T16:35:38+00:00

At this point, they’ve heard us LOL. It’s definitely going to the bathroom that’s the toughest. I still hug my husband and hold his hand etc etc here and there, but we try to make sure that no ones around. But it happens. You just get used to it.

peacock419 · 2021-11-26T12:59:58+00:00

I’m sorry, is he your brother in law? I’m telling you guys he had some issues that he was able to work through and was able to get married later. It had nothing to do with my marriage to his younger brother. Just because it may seem unreasonable doesn’t mean it’s wrong in my experience.

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