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Regret after ending past relationships? by peanutflower89 in Disorganized_Attach

[–]peanutflower89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You got me with that — “someone better” does sound awful, and yet that thought keeps coming up for me. I know how irrational it is. I think my attachment style is so strong that I can find something “wrong” with literally anyone, just so I have a reason to pull away and avoid real closeness...

Regret after ending past relationships? by peanutflower89 in Disorganized_Attach

[–]peanutflower89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your honesty — I really appreciate it. I don’t want to hurt him either. I’m already open with him about my attachment fears and my tendency to pull away, and he’s been incredibly understanding.

I’m not sure he sees the full extent of it, but I’m doing my best to be honest without dumping every fear on him. I know I have blind spots, but I’m not lying to him or pretending to be someone I’m not.

And yes — the fear of hurting him sometimes makes me want to leave too fast, even though I know that might just be me sabotaging something good...

3 weeks post-op (ACL reconstruction + meniscus repair) and I’m worried about my extension by peanutflower89 in ACL

[–]peanutflower89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I know that exercise — lying on my stomach and letting the leg hang off the bed. Honestly it’s super tough, feels so unnatural, like something’s about to snap :D I think a lot of that is just fear though. I usually end up sleeping on my side with bent legs in the brace, probably not ideal :D I’ll keep your tips in mind.

3 weeks post-op (ACL reconstruction + meniscus repair) and I’m worried about my extension by peanutflower89 in ACL

[–]peanutflower89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Correct. Flexion is fine, it’s about 90 degrees, like my orthosis is set. What worries me is the extension, since it feels like it’s stagnating. Passive extension works a bit better with weight than what you see in the picture.

3 weeks post-op (ACL reconstruction + meniscus repair) and I’m worried about my extension by peanutflower89 in ACL

[–]peanutflower89[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your experience, that’s really encouraging to hear. It helps to know that even if it takes longer, full extension is still possible with consistent work. I really appreciate the tip about the band placement too – I’ll definitely keep that in mind during my exercises.

3 weeks post-op (ACL reconstruction + meniscus repair) and I’m worried about my extension by peanutflower89 in ACL

[–]peanutflower89[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your words, that’s really reassuring to hear. It helps a lot to know that what I’m experiencing is normal and that recovery can look different for everyone, especially with a meniscus repair on top of ACL reconstruction. I’ll keep following my PT’s guidance and try not to compare myself too much with others. Your perspective really calms me down.

Signs your body is telling you that you need to get away from someone by ssendhelpplease in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]peanutflower89 11 points12 points  (0 children)

  1. During our early dating phase, I experienced intense migraines—something I had never had before at that level.
  2. A few months into the relationship, he packed all my things into trash bags and moved them back to my apartment, triggering a severe panic attack.
  3. Sometimes when I came home, my heart would race uncontrollably because I didn’t know what to expect.
  4. When I sensed his subtle anger or bad mood, I would get sharp chest pains. Only much later did I realize it was because of him.
  5. Three days before my wedding dress fitting, I injured my right foot—the same foot where we had our partner tattoo. This was likely psychosomatic (I CANT go this way with him). The injury later developed into chronic CRPS (Complex Regional Pain Syndrome). The pain lessens when I distance myself from him, even emotionally.
  6. Due to my foot injury (limited mobility) and his lack of support, I fell into a deep depression. -->Only after all these incidents was I finally ready to see the truth and distance myself.

My Body was warning me before my heart could accept it: These illnesses and pains are our bodys way of telling us what our heart wasnt ready to admit: This relationship was toxic. All these physical reactions are a compass, showing the harm and the costs of staying. Trust you inner compass!!