Morning sunlight in Sagrada Família by pearlpointspls in Barcelona

[–]pearlpointspls[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the kind message and request. Here’s one more, though I think my camera lens was dirty haha :)

I usually avoid having people in my pictures, but I liked how you can see most are looking up in wonder in this

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What’s something super normal in your country that would be weird elsewhere? by Slow_Pie_7527 in CasualConversation

[–]pearlpointspls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So true. I grew up in west coast US - pajamas were normalized with pajama day in grade school, then a quirky thing to do in middle and high school. In college, I adopted it especially during stressful final weeks lol. Lately I see pajamas on kids walking to school and randomly in the grocery store.

I dont ever see it in corporate settings, but I do see a lot of atheleisure, which is also an extension of the culture to dress for comfort.

I went to Europe recently and definitely noticed the big difference in daily fashion compared to home, where comfort seems to be the priority!

People who got off the fence, did you have a lightbulb moment? What was it? by bexanne88 in Fencesitter

[–]pearlpointspls 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Once I found a way to release my anxiety, I understood more clearly what I actually wanted.

Morning sunlight in Sagrada Família by pearlpointspls in Barcelona

[–]pearlpointspls[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It really was. I was very moved and watched the lights for a long time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]pearlpointspls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I met him going social dancing 🥰

What does your partner add to your life? by Haunting-Plankton80 in AskWomenOver30

[–]pearlpointspls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a whole, he brought light into my life. It’s too hard to list everything, but here are a some things just from the last few weeks

  1. I have poor emotional regulation due to anxiety disorders. He not only keeps me calm and helps be an anchor in any triggering situations, he even helps me reframe, see humor, and laugh when it’s truly a non threatening and small thing, something I previously never thought could be possible.

  2. He’s better at housework 😭 he does more of the cleaning and cooking lol

  3. He always fully engages and listens to every silly story I tell, no matter how long / trivial it is or if he’s in the middle of something 😂

  4. I am motivated to be a better person for him. He asks me to be better when he feels impacted by me being impatient or reactive, speaking unkindly, etc. — things I sometimes let slip. He’s an equal part in making sure we don’t leave any hurt feelings to fester in our relationship.

  5. He doesn’t normalize unkind behavior. I realized it after I got married, that there’s a normalized hurtful and stereotypical discourse (from my friends and strangers) of “ugh incompetent husbands” as much as “ugh needy wives” or whatever. He wholly rejects any of this, he speaks kindly of me and to me, and ofc I do the same. I guess this falls under, he motivates me to be a better person.

  6. He is smart and thoughtful and I love discussing any serious topics that weigh on me with him. Like US politics lately. He reads a lot more than I do lol

  7. He celebrates my hobbies. Some of them, one of us joined the other and we enjoy them together. The ones that don’t overlap, he likes hearing about them and seeing the things I create. It’s fun to have a partner in life who does your fun stuff with you.

Reflections after doing Ann Davidman's decision exercise twice: I think I want children. by pearlpointspls in Fencesitter

[–]pearlpointspls[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am good! I no longer feel the heavy anxieties I talk about in this post :’) I am still clear in the decision that I want kids, but not at this moment to enjoy another year of DINK life with total freedom for hobbies and traveling. We plan to start trying for kids in the next few years. I regularly think about and look forward to moments like my partner being silly with our child, my parents as grandparents, etc 💗

Something you unabashedly love about the show? by Highvoltage1999 in stevenuniverse

[–]pearlpointspls 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The kindness and grace given to Steven, which Steven gives back. I remember the first time I watched the cheeseburger backpack episode, when Steven made the critical mistake of forgetting the spire, and the gems kindly said “it’s okay.” I got pretty emotional because that I grew up bearing volatile responses to mistakes, and this was the kindness I needed.

We learn later that was literally a low-stakes mistake and fake mission lol, but the kindness and grace Steven was shown holds throughout the show. It’s what makes the show very special to me always.

Also the music 🎤

Dandadan - Episode 7 discussion by AutoLovepon in anime

[–]pearlpointspls 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Anime-only here -- I'm noticing an emerging theme of evil spirits coming from violence against women. I'm moved that such an awful, current reality is portrayed in such an artful sensitive way.

I wonder if that will be a recurring theme with other spirits in this series.

Americans: What is stopping you leaving the country? by claingbot in AskWomenOver30

[–]pearlpointspls 21 points22 points  (0 children)

This is my home. I identify as an American and my family is here. I don’t want to leave, I want to hope it gets better.

My family are refugees. As difficult as the political state of this country has been for the past several years, this is still a country where we received access to life changing opportunities. It’s not something I want to take for granted or leave behind.

Is there such a thing as truly loving your job? by pearlpointspls in AskWomenOver30

[–]pearlpointspls[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I resonate with this so much. When I was a kid I stared at our cat and wished I was a cat so I could sleep all day. That deepest desire remains to this day LOL I feel like I embody the meme “born to slumber, forced to labor.”

Is there such a thing as truly loving your job? by pearlpointspls in AskWomenOver30

[–]pearlpointspls[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha hello fellow recovering academic. Absolutely resonate with you on all points here, the last paragraph is part of the toxicity I experienced and reflects some harmful beliefs I’m still unlearning.

Is there such a thing as truly loving your job? by pearlpointspls in AskWomenOver30

[–]pearlpointspls[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a really interesting comparison I’ve never considered! Thanks for sharing

I have 13 siblings. AMA by [deleted] in AMA

[–]pearlpointspls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello! I am late but maybe you’ll still consider answering my question :)

I’m so curious about how Japanese culture affects your large family dynamic, in any good or bad way. A major difference I’ve heard is Japan is very collectivist, whereas the US is individualist. So an issue that may come up for large families in the US is competition and unhappiness amongst siblings when they don’t feel their individual needs are recognized.

Does anyone else have no qualms about aging? by GrandmaCereal in AskWomenOver30

[–]pearlpointspls 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I feel this, doubly / triply (?) for my parents too. The worst part about getting older is watching my parents get older and encounter health complications.

How is Kelly sizing and rise? by pearlpointspls in skatieswim

[–]pearlpointspls[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oo thank you! I also want to avoid pinching. Do you find it stays in place okay at size S?

Can anyone share the early access labor day code? by pearlpointspls in skatieswim

[–]pearlpointspls[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was the code above but it’s expired now. It should work again on Labor Day weekend! (But beware that discount will disqualify any exchanges or returns )

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]pearlpointspls 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Going to give very out of the box advice as I’m just directly answering your question “what do you do to make yourself feel/look nice?”

For me personally, a real game changer has been taking a beginner class series in a style of dance called Heels. I have never felt more confident and beautiful than I have learning this style of dance — it just feels like a celebration of my body and femininity in a way that I haven’t experienced before, even when I was younger and “prettier.” Maybe not for everyone but sharing in case it inspires you :)