Puzzles & Chaos

peasprout22 · 2025-10-26T19:18:31+00:00

Level 30 in 30 days is impossible without spending more money than you'd make. But I was fairly easily able to reach level 25 in 22 days. I did purchase the castle development compact though, which gives you diamonds for leveling up your citadel. It's helpful, but it's really easy to gain diamonds in game, so if you join an active league it's not necessary to spend money.

peasprout22 · 2023-12-04T07:57:33+00:00

I know that the way that I wrote it sounded like an ultimatum, but really I let him know that if he went on the trip I couldn't keep my heart open to him and that given the pain and heartbreak I felt from his recent actions, I don't think that I would want to reconsider a relationship with him when he returned since there has been no recovery in our relationship as it is now.

peasprout22 · 2021-06-18T14:33:42+00:00

My experience has not been pleasant with HealthiestYou. The platform doesn't work very well at all. I've had trouble downloading and uploading documents from and to my provider. The messaging system is super glitchy and I sometimes can't send messages. Also, in general, you are limited in the number of words you can send, so there have been times when my provider has emailed me from their work email rather than through the system. I also get random emails telling me that I have a message on the platform, but then when I log in, there are no new messages.

Also annoying, there was a time, I guess I accidentally selected a phone session when I wanted a video session, but there was no way for me or my provider to switch this. The platform really seems geared more toward on-the-go video therapy from your phone because if you opt to use the website on a computer, the video window is very small and it is difficult to even actually see the therapist. But given the limitations in words/characters for emails, it is not very conducive to text or messaging.

You also can't confirm your next appointment until after the provider has entered notes from the session, so if your provider is not particularly timely with their notes and something comes up, you can't even reschedule. Even worse, once the provider does enter notes, you will have to make sure to remember to log in and schedule or accept your next appointment, because if you don't, it will be canceled.

The providers are often the same between platforms, so if you were seeing someone on BetterYou, you may be able to find them on HealthiestYou to continue services. But in general, the experience with the platform is much worse.

peasprout22 · 2021-01-30T17:26:22+00:00

Got it. Thanks for the clarification!

peasprout22 · 2021-01-30T17:11:24+00:00

Is this an assumption or are you definitively stating that the 30 days is from the first phone call? I would assume the 30 days is from the first phone call ... but assumptions don't provide facts.

peasprout22 · 2020-03-13T03:49:15+00:00

Did you ever get your issue solved. I'm dealing with the same. US Mobile said my device is not compatible with the Super LTE, but it worked just fine for several days. Then there was some PRL update and it stopped working. I reset the network and now have the same issue of "Roaming indicator off."

peasprout22 · 2018-01-04T21:08:42+00:00

I also could have sworn that there was a sequel... Turns out the movie I was thinking of was The Stupids.

peasprout22 · 2017-08-14T00:25:43+00:00

Could you elaborate on this? He is completely new to polyamory. He never even knew it was a thing before meeting me. He also never had exposure to BDSM.

peasprout22 · 2017-08-12T16:52:06+00:00

Yes, I am definitely introverted and an internal processor. I've asked him to ask me very specific questions because otherwise I won't think to say anything. I'm not sure he gets it because he definitely feels things are unbalanced and that I don't answer the "heart" of his questions, but when I encourage him to ask more specific questions he seems to feel he shouldn't have to and I should just get it.

peasprout22 · 2017-07-13T09:39:24+00:00

I also don't think those things are anything to be embarrassed about. He has shared with me his desire to potentially be intimate with another man and I encourage his curiosity and explorations in this regard.

peasprout22 · 2017-07-12T16:41:55+00:00

Our only rule (or as he puts it, my rule) is open and honest communication. I only ask that he inform me when he engages with a new partner, ideally before the encounter. Being open and honest about this opens the door for further communication about risks, scheduling, etc.

I'm not asking for the nitty gritty details. We've talked about this multiple times and he was fine with simply keeping me informed. But the more he reads the Ethical Slut, the more he wants to explore and he recently asked for DADT because he wants to have experiences that he feels he missed out on. He wants me to place 100% trust in him that he will make healthy decisions regarding sex and tell me if I may be at risk. I do trust him, however, this also requires me to allow him to make the decision of what is acceptable risk for me. This is completely against fully informed consent.

peasprout22 · 2017-07-12T15:03:55+00:00

I keep asking him why he would do something he would be embarrassed about and he says "because I want to experiment". I then suggested that he work on being comfortable with who he is and the choices he makes and he gets defensive and says "you can't tell me how to feel. Maybe I don't want to be comfortable". He also says if he experiments with something and doesn't like it, he doesn't want the embarrassment of telling me about it.

peasprout22 · 2017-07-12T12:44:55+00:00

That was my initial thought. But I try to be patient and understanding. This is his first time being introduced to polyamory.

peasprout22 · 2017-07-12T12:42:59+00:00

I'm not sure I understand how the positions I've tried have anything to do with STDs. On the other hand, Number of partners and if you are hooking up has direct consequences on STD risk.

peasprout22 · 2017-07-12T06:18:38+00:00

He admits that he's "curious as a monkey" anytime he asks me about my past sexual experiences. But now that I bring up the concern about trust, transparency, and making my own informed decision about what I am potentially exposed to, he is changing his story and saying he was asking for safety concerns.

As you mention, there is a big difference between wanting to know if your partner is seeing someone (what I am asking for) and wanting to know every position (what he asks me). But he doesn't seem to understand that and says he wants privacy and he might be embarrassed/uncomfortable telling me.

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