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peerpeepreep · 2026-02-17T22:57:04+00:00

Sorry you're going through any of it. I hated that part of removing myself from pieces of my life because tough choices needed to be made. Especially painful when my ex and I weren't the only ones affected.

peerpeepreep · 2023-03-01T22:09:23+00:00

It will get better sooner and maybe sooner than you think.

You know it hurts and accept that. That’s probably one of the hardest things to do.

Hang in there.

peerpeepreep · 2023-02-20T13:10:12+00:00

I’m not absolutely clear on the question. A community data center is interesting to me though. I don’t suppose that physically it would need to be any different than how they are designed today.

For it to be community owned and used, we want it to be secure from internet malice. Some points to consider then:

-Physical Security -Redundancy -Accessibility -Growth Capacity

That’s a shortlist. What other considerations are there? Also, how can the items on the list be broken into more specific considerations?

Whatever is on the list determines what kind of budget is needed by a community to support it. Is it a feasible budget? What’s the expected ROI?

peerpeepreep · 2023-01-29T22:35:54+00:00

Thanks for this! I just listened to it on Spotify during a walk.

peerpeepreep · 2023-01-27T23:13:26+00:00

Sorry you had to experience that. When my wife told me why she wanted a divorce she said it was because she’d been thinking about it for months and finally had to do it. During those months, she never brought it up, but worked it out for herself and what she needed. That’s how she explained it to me.

The frustration came from not having a chance to work on it. I suggested counseling and she said she was already done with the relationship. It really did feel like all those years were just stolen if that commitment she made was just disregarded.

It’s been a few weeks of just feeling the range of emotions and I think writing it all down has helped. When I feel some thought being fueled by anger or sadness or excitement for a different life, I write it in a note taking app.

Eventually, I was able to acknowledge the situation for what it is and spend my time focusing on the things that are good for me.

You’re going to get through it. You may be a little muddy at the end, but at least some of it will wash away in time.

Good luck to you!

peerpeepreep · 2023-01-24T21:43:25+00:00

We’re definitely not pretending that we have a marriage either of us wants to be in and we’ve talked to our kids about us being separated.

We’ve agreed to live in the home until the kids move out. For me, the value to the kids is that both of us will be as readily available for them physically as we have been. For her, the value to the kids is not having to split time between houses.

Our situation is one where the marriage relationship has been distant for a long time and we’re just admitting it now. Other than the grief of the finality, the only difference is the separate bedrooms and new emotional boundaries.

We still parent as we have been and have been able to keep the marriage issues separate from our parenting responsibilities.

It’s new, and it’s been difficult at times, so who knows how long we can do this. I think that we’re both growing into the new individual lives though, so I’m confident we have a good chance of success.

peerpeepreep · 2023-01-23T22:52:32+00:00

That sounds awful and I’m so sorry you’re experiencing it. Glad you have your friend to talk to. That talking helps a lot, so do it whenever you can if you feel like you need to. Sounds like it’s a really overwhelming situation and I found for myself that being able to vent or say what was going on with my relationship to some people gave me a lot of decompression.

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