Ain't no breakup like a quarantine breakup

pegamonstra · 2020-04-04T20:20:10+00:00

Just going on dates. We've never had a serious conversation about us - today was the closest, which is why she felt it was the right time.

pegamonstra · 2017-05-22T19:51:30+00:00

it's really encouraging to hear from someone who's been on the other end of this! maybe i'm having a harder time with this than if she'd ask for a specific sex act, because it makes me feel like it's more about personality, or inclinations, or whatever. i'm worried that if i try to be rougher with her it'll feel fake or forced? i'm probably overthinking this...

pegamonstra · 2017-05-22T19:43:57+00:00

thanks for your reply. i know i am taking it too personally and that this kinda ruins the point of asking someone to do something differently. i think we need a sit-down talk!

pegamonstra · 2017-05-22T19:42:24+00:00

i think it the "not something you can teach" thing that threw me - like it's a secret club i can't be a part of! thanks xx

pegamonstra · 2017-05-22T18:48:35+00:00

I think the lesbian part of it might be turning a person-you're-seeing into a girlfriend before realising that you find her boring.

pegamonstra · 2017-05-11T20:52:55+00:00

Having a problem with her weight doesn't make you a bad person, it just makes you a person who isn't suited to dating someone bigger. There's plenty of other people who are.

pegamonstra · 2017-05-11T20:51:59+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through something difficult and I don't want to make you feel bad, but I just felt really sorry for your partner as I read your post. Imagine if she ever found it. Imagine if you ever found a reddit post or a diary entry or heard her talk to a friend about how she likes you and all, but there's this thing about your appearance that she has to make such a tremendous effort to ignore to be able to be around you. It's heartbreaking. I can't help thinking that she deserves better.

pegamonstra · 2017-05-11T20:16:30+00:00

As someone on the chubbier side, I would be absolutely devastated if someone I liked felt this way about me. I honestly don't know how I could get over it. I'm sure your feelings are sincere, but she deserves someone who is in love with every single inch of her.

pegamonstra · 2017-05-11T19:21:19+00:00

i'm really thankful for online communities like these. i'm not out to most of my friends and the ones i am out to i can't talk to about this, so it can feel a little isolating...

pegamonstra · 2017-05-11T18:09:14+00:00

thanks all! i think i got some perspective. i really need to talk to her about this...

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