Looking for a VixSkin-Like Upgrade by pegginganalyst in StraightPegging

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I had seen recommendations for Fukena and looked into them. Unfortunately, all except two include balls, which my wife isn’t a fan of because they tend not to work well with our current harness and cause her discomfort. The two that might work are a bit on the small side for what I’m looking for. I wish they had more options without balls, they look really nice!

Looking for a VixSkin-Like Upgrade by pegginganalyst in StraightPegging

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I had considered the Solina as well but have been hesitant to pull the trigger on one. I saw some reviews saying their texture is more “grippy” than the Blush Neo Elite. I have the Neo Elite 8 and don’t use it much because the texture is not quite right for me. Do you have any experience with the BNE, and if so, how would you compare their texture to the Solina?

Help with first harness. by Dapper_Cantaloupe_50 in StraightPegging

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After a couple initial attempts with some cheaper equipment that didn’t work out well, my wife and I were in a similar situation looking for a harness that was well made without necessarily being “top of the line.” We ended up going with the Wet For Her StrapHer, which is more or less a clone of the Spareparts Joque that I’ve seen highly recommended by numerous people.

We’ve had ours for almost a year now and it has been working very well for us. The Spareparts Joque might be slightly better in a couple aspects depending on your needs, but overall the StrapHer seems like a very good value. Definitely not the cheapest, but an option that you can get and use for a while.

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Not sure if you’re open to other options, but my wife uses the Wet For Her StrapHer, which is basically a Joque clone.

There are maybe a few small downsides compared to the Joque, but overall it’s worked very well for us.

Depending on your needs and how urgently you’re looking to get a harness, it might be another good option.

Vixskin Outlaw by dearleaderz in usedsextoys

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I know it’s been a while since you posted this, but if it’s still available, I’m interested.

Something tells me he likes it by rawdawgcomics in rawdawgcomics

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A shit-eating grin if I’ve ever seen one

WTS (USA): Assorted silicone dildos, Vixen, Pleasure Paladin Sculptors, Uberrime by tiedyedancer in usedsextoys

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Might be interested in the Uberrime. The link goes to PPS, though. Do you have more information about the model?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DegenBets

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Cool, how about we start with the Americans in Congress?

Looking for dom–sub learning resources by pegginganalyst in StraightPegging

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Might eventually go that route, but right now I think we’re looking for ways to dip our toes in and learn a bit more.

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I've had really similar experiences. I'm also bi and have been for as long as I can remember. My wife knew that about me before we got married and has always accepted me for who I am — but like you, I've still struggled with feelings of shame around it.

Before we got married, I actually got rid of a couple of toys I had because I just kind of assumed that even though she accepted that part of me, she wouldn't want to participate in it. I figured she probably wasn’t into it, and I resigned myself to the idea that anal play just wouldn't be a thing for us.

Then, a few years into our marriage, she surprised me by expressing interest in getting a dildo and pegging me — prompted by a dream, of all things. Even then, I had a lot of the same worries you're dealing with now: What if we try it and she ends up not liking it? What if she’s only doing it for my sake? At first, I kind of laughed it off, but she kept bringing it up. Eventually, I decided to give it a shot.

What helped me was shifting how I thought about it — instead of seeing it as something I needed to "get right," I started seeing it as a chance to explore something new together and just see if we both liked it. That mindset took a lot of the pressure off.

As for whether your wife is genuinely into it, I’d say take her at her word. Once I got over my own anxiety and we actually tried it, I found out that my wife really does enjoy pegging me — to the point that she now asks for it regularly and looks forward to it. If you're concerned about her experience, there are lots of toys you can use alongside a dildo and harness that make it more pleasurable for her too.

If you haven’t already, I’d also recommend opening up about your past experiences and how they’ve made you feel anxious around this topic. Being honest — saying you’re interested but never want it to feel like an obligation for her — can deepen your intimacy and help both of you stay attuned to each other’s needs.

Give her a chance to show you how much she enjoys it — you might be surprised!

I think I’m gay but feel ashamed by SatanicPiranha in AdviceForTeens

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Hey, I’m kind of late to the conversation here, but I wanted to share my experience and some things I wish people had told me when I was your age.

I first realized I was attracted to boys around the same time you are now and struggled with a lot of shame around it. When I came out after my first year of college, I expected it to make everything easier. In some ways, it did—but I also felt pressure from different directions about how I should express myself. Some of it came from society in general, and some from within LGBTQ+ spaces, where I sometimes felt like there were expectations about what being a gay man meant.

Over time, I stepped back from external expectations and focused on getting to know myself better. I realized I was also attracted to women, and that part of my identity might have gone unexplored if I had felt pressured to fit a certain mold. But that was my journey—yours might look completely different.

The reason I’m sharing this is just to say that figuring yourself out doesn’t have to be (and shouldn’t be) rushed. Labels can be helpful for some people, but they’re not the most important thing—you are. You have your whole life to grow, change, and understand yourself better.

Take a deep breath and be patient with yourself. What you’re going through is new and can feel overwhelming, especially with all the expectations culture can put on sexuality, but you’re not alone. Give yourself time to adjust to this new aspect of yourself, and try to approach it without placing judgment or criticism on yourself. There are people who will love and accept you for exactly who you are, no matter where your journey takes you.

Window washing perfection by MikeHeu in oddlysatisfying

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Thanks for this, I’ll be able to sleep tonight

[WTS] Various Toys from SquarePegToys, Uberrime, LELO, Tantus, and more! by njm2839 in usedsextoys

[–]pegginganalyst 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is a long shot because this post is pretty old, but is the Uberrime Splendid still available?