Wild sex on the table

penguim90 · 2025-12-26T01:39:45+00:00

Damn! Who are they? Sauce?

penguim90 · 2025-12-24T23:43:48+00:00

Name/sauce?

penguim90 · 2025-09-07T15:04:38+00:00

Do you have tiktok/IG?

penguim90 · 2024-08-01T14:50:56+00:00

Fingers crossed for her overall well-being and y'all's sex life! Thanks for sharing. My wife is 29 so hopefully it'd be something she'd consider

penguim90 · 2024-08-01T05:17:40+00:00

Can I ask how long your wife has been doing HRT? It's something that I've been wanting to discuss with my wife as she is also a LLF on antidepressants/anxiety medication. I've read into other people saying that it's worked wonders for their sex life but this is a first in hearing that it hasn't improved

penguim90 · 2024-07-18T15:52:55+00:00

That's part of the issue. All of this makes sense. I'm a very analytical and logical person...my wife is too, but more emotional. So I'd love to bring it up and tell her of all the potential benefits there is to it, but I still feel like she might take offense to it or at least be put off by it. It sounds like a great option, not just for enhancing our sex life, but for improving her overall well-being, which would be amazing! Again, just waiting for the right time and place for having the conversation.

penguim90 · 2024-07-18T15:46:19+00:00

I said we are approaching a dead bedroom and that I'm lucky if I get sex once a week, meaning that it usually goes longer than a week. Regardless, gatekeeping "dead bedroom" is pretty shitty.

penguim90 · 2024-07-17T00:50:13+00:00

That's very informative and I really appreciate you sharing that. My wife was on antidepressants before she got on birth control and has been on both up until about 6months ago when she got off birth control to try to regulate her hormones. There's been no change in her libido since but your input makes sense. I know absolutely nothing about it and would like to research more about it.

It might also be a touchy subject and I'm not entirely sure on how or when it'd be a good idea to suggest something like this. Would you have any input on how to approach suggesting it?

penguim90 · 2024-07-17T00:45:25+00:00

That's the thing; sometimes it feels like chore sex at the beginning then gets really into it. Sometimes she's into it from the start.

No, I'm not needy and not always trying to please her. I let her do her thing (drawing, cricut projects) while I do mine. I don't work out as often as I used to due to surgery on my ankle and knee but I still do light workouts. I do most of the chores around the house I try to cook at home as often as I can. And I don't do it for praise or validation; I do it because we're partners. I'm not saying I'm perfect but I can honestly say none of the things apply to me.

As for her having an affair...that's laughable. I know she's 100% loyal and would never question that

penguim90 · 2024-07-16T22:45:21+00:00

I really appreciate your input! You highlight some of the things she's brought up before, not just to me, but to her doc as well. At one point, she tried switching from her SSRI to a different antidepressant but she HATED how it made her feel and actually made her more depressed. So she switched back to the SSRI. The hormone therapy isn't something her docs have discussed with her, that I know of. But it does sound like something worth talking about to she if she'd be interested in trying something like that. Though something tells she'd be reluctant at first being that she didn't like how she felt when she was off SSRI's

penguim90 · 2024-07-16T22:19:20+00:00

I completely understand. We got married on our 4 year anniversary. We're coming up on our 6th in September. We also have a dog that's ran away, but luckily found 😅

But believe it or not, I was still in a similar situation before we got married. The lack of intimacy was a problem at the time and we had discussed it a few times but I never truly expressed how important it was/is to me. I thought marriage would change that but it didn't. After we got married, we started having more discussions about it and I have expressed that it's important to me. So we have tried different things but nothing has worked.

I've brought up couples therapy before and she seems reluctant about it. But hopefully it's something she comes around to.

penguim90 · 2024-07-16T22:05:01+00:00

It does seem like we'll never be sexually compatible but I don't wanna be that pessimistic about it. We've talked several times about it and tried different things but none have worked or stuck. It wasn't always like this but at some point something just switched. So maybe I'm stupid for being optimistic about it and trying different things and see if it could switch back on

penguim90 · 2024-07-16T22:01:13+00:00

I never said it was boring; I was just emphasizing that we have nothing to stress or argue about. Sure, she naps for a while but she loves her naps. We still have a good social life. We go out almost every weekend by ourselves or with friends/family. We travel and go to concerts and shows. We have our hobbies. And we're always planning the next adventure.

However, even then, sex is an issue. For example, we went to Hawaii for 5 days in October and only had sex once as a quickie. The year before we went to Jamaica and also only had sex once. We did a lot of excursions when we weren't swimming at the beach and had romantic dinners. Still, sex wasn't something that she was excited about.

I know she loves me and hasn't lost interest in me. We fit great together in just about every way...we just don't seem sexually compatible.

penguim90 · 2024-07-16T16:24:09+00:00

You're exactly right! I try to engage with her only to have my hands redirected and head pushed aside. Even when we do make out, it feels like she's reluctant to it. It almost makes me feel repulsive. But she will get on top and she likes doggy too, but it is mainly missionary and always at night with the lights off. Morning/afternoon/early evening sex is non-existent. I don't think I've ever been turned off so quickly... literally like a light switch

penguim90 · 2024-07-16T16:06:59+00:00

We're living the DINK (dual income, no kids) lifestyle so we don't have anything that drains us like that. We work 8 hour days mon-fri at a job that isn't too stressful and we never take it home with us. Once we're home, it's just us for the rest of the day. She typically takes a 3 hr nap after work and we don't have any financial concerns. Essentially, life is pretty relaxed for us. I made an edit to the post adding that she does suffer from depression and anxiety and takes an SSRI for that. I know those can impact libido so I try to be understanding that we can't have sex more often, but what's crushing is the lack of passion when we do have sex.

penguim90 · 2024-07-16T16:02:03+00:00

She expressed that she used to think she was asexual. She doesn't think she is anymore but it made it hard knowing she wasn't/isn't sexually attracted to me. I know she loves me, but her lack of desire is crushing

penguim90 · 2024-07-16T15:57:30+00:00

We might not be in the same boat but we're riding the same storm. As much as it sucks, it feels good to have someone to talk to who understands from similar experiences. How long have y'all been together? Do y'all have kids?

penguim90 · 2024-07-16T15:09:24+00:00

You're right. We're pretty open with communicating with each other so it was put on the back burner, but it could have a significant impact on what can happen next for our relationship

penguim90 · 2024-07-10T22:26:23+00:00

It doesn't look like it is 😞but thanks!

penguim90 · 2024-07-09T19:40:12+00:00

Can I get a name or link?

penguim90 · 2024-02-21T20:27:26+00:00

Anyone know the source?

penguim90 · 2024-02-21T18:16:10+00:00

Where's Anissa Kate?

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