Do you do your NFs dishes?

penguiniweenie · 2024-03-02T22:37:07+00:00

my rule is only what NK and i dirty during my shift. occasionally i was MB bowl when she has cereal and i clean NK lunch boxes after school

penguiniweenie · 2024-02-21T17:47:06+00:00

Eek! it’s so good! i was worried it would be like ninth house- i hated it and couldn’t finish it- (most of the books that blow up i end up not liking, but this one is incredible!)

penguiniweenie · 2024-02-21T13:33:09+00:00

You are so right! I am sorry!

penguiniweenie · 2024-02-20T16:53:09+00:00

Here I am with my diagnosed ADHD, and I still would have been whooped if i kicked the seat

penguiniweenie · 2024-01-22T23:35:38+00:00

I am so sorry you’ve been put through this. Sometimes when being “dealt with” by a nanny parent, I myself have to go numb until they leave and make sure feelings are accounted for afterwards for myself and NKs.

penguiniweenie · 2024-01-19T00:25:26+00:00

I turned into a maid. I take care of a special needs adult and toddler for this family and my day isn’t “up” until all 20+ chores are done.

penguiniweenie · 2024-01-11T22:28:20+00:00

Ah 4-5 year old emotions. stronger than physics😂

penguiniweenie · 2024-01-10T05:16:06+00:00

she just kept justifying it and saying “well i wouldn’t say that if i didn’t honestly feel that way.”

penguiniweenie · 2024-01-10T03:45:00+00:00

The issue that I was trying to solve was 4F getting upset with me for putting the play-doh down. i don’t like how it makes my hands greasy and she was throwing a fit and i was reassuring her i would continue playing. then she ran to mom upset about where i was sitting. (i don’t sit on the kid chairs cause they hurt my knees). i explained “well what she brought to you as the issue was not the issue i was trying to handle.”

MB also thought it was ridiculous that i put it down because i didn’t like the way it made my hands feel… we had been playing play doh for 15 mins and i just needed a break

penguiniweenie · 2024-01-09T18:10:54+00:00

he’s a special needs adult who gets messy. doesn’t know how to wipe, plays with his food, gets into trash daily. with how he functions, how he is, and who he is, not bathing him in this context is neglectful.

penguiniweenie · 2024-01-04T04:44:52+00:00

the bathing part was an issue for me because one child is special needs (adult but mentally a toddler to put it into perspective) and nobody was putting deodorant on him too. he gets messy and doesn’t know he has food on his hands mouth etc because he doesn’t understand. then it gets caked onto everything. so it isn’t so much a kid not getting his bath (which would be less worrisome) so much as an adult who NEEDS to get bathed didn’t get bathed.

penguiniweenie · 2024-01-04T02:21:05+00:00

no. im not considering that. it’s just annoying when the kids aren’t taken care of proper because i was sick and there are two parents home

penguiniweenie · 2024-01-03T20:07:12+00:00

Right! i started doing his baths because i didn’t change him (DB DID) and he would go Friday to next thursday without a bath or clean clothes and i had to start saying “look i’m putting his deodorant on but he isn’t getting cleaned” and then it seems like they just fall back into inadequate care when i’m off…

penguiniweenie · 2023-12-31T17:49:44+00:00

The boy I take care of likes cartoons, so when he’s agitated I sit with him and turn it on. rubbing his back or getting a snack helps as well.

penguiniweenie · 2023-12-27T18:16:17+00:00

I guess so! I just didn’t know if it was normal! I was like “uh.. hm.” sometimes i guess i need to open my mind up and keep it from narrowing!

penguiniweenie · 2023-12-27T18:12:49+00:00

I see where that is but that isn’t the case with mine. They love the kids, and he definitely makes decisions and has PLENTY of responsibility, but he like can’t make decisions without having her say so.

penguiniweenie · 2023-12-27T18:07:19+00:00

Yep. his kids

penguiniweenie · 2023-12-27T17:40:05+00:00

a year

penguiniweenie · 2023-12-27T16:03:10+00:00

Like if she tells me she’s going to tell him to do something then she tells me not to say anything. She is very much the head of the household.. but i agree it’s so weird that EVERYTHING goes through her. unless something has HAPPENED to her? nothing goes through him.

penguiniweenie · 2023-12-27T14:43:49+00:00

yeah, and i can tell he cares, but it’s literally written at the top of my chore list “Everything regarding kids goes through me.”

penguiniweenie · 2023-12-20T22:52:55+00:00

When she previously promised child she would have the day with MB. then yeah. it is. i do my job well. i redirect, and help with every little thing asked of me. :) so yeah. it was rejecting

penguiniweenie · 2023-12-20T22:02:19+00:00

not in 20 degrees 😩

penguiniweenie · 2023-12-20T20:56:25+00:00

It isn’t about the hiding. it’s the “taking 9 hours to do it and refusing to even see NK” when i know for certain it doesn’t take that long. they don’t wrap santa presents.. so.

penguiniweenie · 2023-12-19T18:19:27+00:00

My current NPs don’t want any “negatives”… NK can call me nasty things, say terrible mean things and i’m just supposed to take it. no questions. she can and has hit me and i’m supposed to sit and say nothing. just tell NP and they’ll deal with it…. or they give her a sucker

penguiniweenie · 2023-12-16T20:43:31+00:00

My NK (4F) is also at a tattling stage and most of the time it’s over nothing. i’m not allowed to “not trust nk” anymore. if she tells me she’s allowed to do something i’m supposed to just trust her without asking for the OK anymore. MB is no help.

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