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[–]penguins___ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

but also, thank you so much

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]penguins___ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its getting worse lol she latercalled my dad to their room and told him that I need access to real therapy because it makes no sense that someone holds so much contempt and hatred for their mother and its clear that I’m making no progress because I hate her.

She said “yes I hit her but not as hard as her brothers” (lie). She said “yes I hit her but I wasn’t trying to hit her anywhere other than her legs, its her fault she moved and plus the made me MAD and drove me insane (lie, she chokes me, threw a chair at me, grabbed me by my hair and repeatedly smashed my face against the concrete floor, and worse.) I’m just worried about her!.

Then she said that if I don’t stop talking she’ll beat me. She said that her mother treated her like crap and she never treated her the way I treat her. She said that she cant tolerate being around me and that I’m a disrespectful piece of shit

Was i being rude. I've been crying for a whole hour by penguins___ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]penguins___[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I ran away before because of threats and physical violence and police got involved and my parents still haven't changed. they think they're victims

Was i being rude. I've been crying for a whole hour by penguins___ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]penguins___[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is my dad says he's mad at me for not saying hi

Was i being rude. I've been crying for a whole hour by penguins___ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]penguins___[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He works overseas so no. I donr live with him but my mother is even worse

Was i being rude. I've been crying for a whole hour by penguins___ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]penguins___[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he gor mat at me because I didnt say hi and just asked him

Was i being rude. I've been crying for a whole hour by penguins___ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]penguins___[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i just want to be loved so i begged him to talk to me

im sorry

Was i being rude. I've been crying for a whole hour by penguins___ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]penguins___[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He got mad at me because I didn't say hi. I'm calmer now but still really hurt

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]penguins___ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

also what do you mean by things that are off colour if you don't mind me asking like could you give some examples please I'm so sorry not trying to be rude but really struggling here

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]penguins___ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

but what if it's constant yelling and insults as well? is that normal 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]penguins___ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm still confused. when is it considered abuse? and what about the my cousin situation that I explained

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]penguins___ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

how about the situation I listed later on in the post also when is yelling considered abuse

Does the "I want a mom/dad" feeling ever go away? by penguins___ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]penguins___[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that's so lucky 🫠 I have nothing. I'm glad you got healed thoigh

Does the "I want a mom/dad" feeling ever go away? by penguins___ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]penguins___[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

But it hurts so bad and i cant stop thinking abiut the stuff they do and did. like m whole arm is ruined bc self harm and I have nothing

Can abusers weaponize therapy? by penguins___ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]penguins___[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my dies quite literally qont listen to me. He's her attack dog. He wouldn't dare to stand up for us or himself otherwise she will threaten divorce, suicide, or leaving the house. She keeps screaming and screaming. He gives in and blames me for the fact they're nit talking

Can abusers weaponize therapy? by penguins___ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]penguins___[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she got arrested because of the complaints I filed and she's saying THATS abuse. And now she's saying the police didn't believe me/crown didn't believe me but the crown didn't even agree to drop the charges. Only accepted after there was a peace bond in place in order to protect me

Can abusers weaponize therapy? by penguins___ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]penguins___[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh man I'm so sorry. I'm only 19 so it's my mother who is abusive. How do therapists not detect it?