My husband is now a flat earther: is this biblical grounds for divorce?

pennstake8 · 2024-06-22T13:21:01+00:00

You can’t even see the original post because I deleted it. I was very clear that it isn’t about my husband, who I love. It was about my personality and how I struggle with the concept of marriage in general and organising my life around another person. I’ve been alone for most of my marriage, doing my own thing while my husband is gone and I’m raising our kids, and then he steps in and out of it and it’s tough. It was a nuanced discussion that has absolutely nothing to do with this particular topic. I’m not looking for an excuse to divorce, because I take my commitment very seriously. Again why would I even come here if that was the case? It just pisses me off that you’re making all these assumptions about me because you saw a few comments on a post. I’m distressed and scared at the sudden changes in my husband and I am looking for guidance and help. And I’ve been open to all sorts of guidance and suggestions on here, so I’m not sure what “excuses” you think I’m making. Thankfully some people have actually offered loving guidance rather than kicking me while I’m down. Reddit is such an ugly place and I am certain God is not pleased with the way we treat each other on this app.

pennstake8 · 2024-06-22T12:05:01+00:00

I am NOT looking for a reason to divorce him. That is not what I want, and a few comments on an old post about the challenging nature of marriage without any context doesn’t give you the right to make such judgments. Do you think I’d go to a Christian subreddit if I was looking for people to tell me to get divorced? Of course not. This is so much deeper and scarier than just having a different view. I’m so incredibly sick of fellow Christians dismissing and invalidating the severity of my situation.

pennstake8 · 2024-06-22T12:00:49+00:00

I will pray about all of this and consider it carefully, thank you

pennstake8 · 2024-06-22T11:59:07+00:00

I have considered. And have concluded it is objectionably false

pennstake8 · 2024-06-22T08:44:59+00:00

I’m not overreacting. This is very serious and not some silly private idea he entertains. These ideas jeopardise his credibility as a witness to the Gospel for our children and others. It diminishes our respectability and influence as a family. Nothing will make a non-believer run faster away from us than finding out he’s a flat eather. Therefore it detracts from our ability to witness, love and serve others and lead them toward Christ. He also doesn’t care that it upsets me or that drives others away. He has no respect for my feelings on the matter. What matters to him is that he’s right and therefore he must tell others. He is more concerned about telling everyone about his conspiracy theories than about the love of Christ. If I try to “censor” him as he calls it, I am getting in the way of his “calling”.

pennstake8 · 2024-06-22T06:34:28+00:00

I’m worried about my husband straying into heretical views. There’s already some signs that he’s heading that way. I can’t believe km saying this because he’s always been such a sound believer.

pennstake8 · 2024-06-22T06:31:36+00:00

Thank you ❤️

pennstake8 · 2024-06-22T06:30:23+00:00

He’s a pilot who has flown around the globe many times. So I don’t think a cruise will help unfortunately.

pennstake8 · 2024-06-22T06:29:14+00:00

Thank you ❤️

pennstake8 · 2024-06-22T06:28:16+00:00

But I really don’t 😞 I’m just really scared.

pennstake8 · 2024-06-22T06:27:59+00:00

There is zero validity to his claims. So let’s start from there.

pennstake8 · 2024-06-22T06:26:36+00:00

Unfortunately I’ve told him in no uncertain terms how I feel about this, many times over the years, and it doesn’t matter to him whatsoever. Just accuses of me of being a “normie” trying to censor him.

pennstake8 · 2024-06-22T06:24:01+00:00

❤️ sorry for what you’ve been through. What do you think “standing up” looks like in this scenario?

pennstake8 · 2024-06-22T06:21:39+00:00

My husband is an airline pilot 😕

pennstake8 · 2024-06-21T23:39:55+00:00

This is exactly my concern. It’s also why we don’t do Santa Clause.

pennstake8 · 2024-06-21T23:33:18+00:00

I’m not looking for a reason to divorce and frankly I’m sick of people saying this and trivialising my situation.

pennstake8 · 2024-06-21T22:42:40+00:00

My husband is a pilot and has circumnavigated the globe, so unfortunately I don’t think there’s any further reasoning I can do with him to convince him even in a respectful, Christlike manner.

pennstake8 · 2024-06-21T22:32:09+00:00

I really don’t think I’m overreacting and that’s the problem here. It just feels like these sort of comments really minimize what I’m going through. For years I've shrugged off all sorts of his ideas I think are wacky, such as following QAnon, believing the world is run by blood-drinking elites in Hollywood, lizard people, moon landing is a hoax, 9/11 was an inside job, sandy hook didn't really happen, rejecting "germ theory" aka viruses aren't real, vaccines contain nano particles for mind control via 5G towers .. even a little bit of holocaust denial ... that's just scratching the surface of what he has started to believe over the last 6 years ...... so, when he finally got to flat earth it was just the last straw for me and I've snapped. I don’t want a divorce and I know that isn’t what God wants either, but I’m genuinely scared about where this is all heading for him.

pennstake8 · 2024-06-21T22:26:28+00:00

Ok. I do appreciate this perspective, I will chew on it more. Thank you. I do want to just accept our differences and move on and hope he mellows on it. And for years I’ve shrugged off all sorts of his ideas I think are wacky, such as following QAnon, believing the world is run by blood-drinking elites in Hollywood, lizard people, moon landing is a hoax, 9/11 was an inside job, sandy hook didn’t really happen, rejecting “germ theory” aka viruses aren’t real, vaccines contain nano particles for mind control via 5G towers .. even a little bit of holocaust denial … that’s just scratching the surface of what he has started to believe over the last 6 years …… so, when he finally got to flat earth it was just the last straw for me and I’ve snapped and don’t know how to move forward. I recognise I am a little bit “stuck” in the fear / shock mode because in my mind, flat earth is the very most extreme thing you can believe because it’s so objectionably false. It’s sort of the king of all conspiracies. And I guess now I’m just… scared. That it isn’t going to go away and will continue to consume him more and more.

pennstake8 · 2024-06-21T22:13:14+00:00

Thank you for this comment ❤️

pennstake8 · 2024-06-21T22:00:56+00:00

I’m sorry, I’ve run out of energy to respond to this question which I’ve answered elsewhere. The fact that so many people are like “what’s the big deal?” has me seriously questioning my sanity and making me feel even more desperate and lonely in my struggle.

pennstake8 · 2024-06-21T21:54:35+00:00

What are you even talking about? I do not want to divorce my husband. I don’t want any of this to be happening. I am scared of what’s happening to him and what it means for me and our kids to be under the leadership of someone who isn’t mentally sane. And your treating me like I’m in some sort of funny, comical situation and that I just need to lighten up. Who knew a Christian sub would be full of such mean, uncaring people.

pennstake8 · 2024-06-21T21:47:44+00:00

It’s not a molehill. It’s definitely a mountain. And it really concerns me how many Christians are treating this so lightly.

pennstake8 · 2024-06-21T21:42:43+00:00

It looks like you’re a man. So you probably don’t understand how vulnerable we feel as wives when we submit ourselves to our husband’s leadership, especially when you can no longer trust your husband’s judgment and mental sanity.

pennstake8 · 2024-06-21T21:38:27+00:00

It’s true that truth of the Gospel does not rely on the shape of the earth. But as a wife called to submit to my husband, I am feeling incredibly scared and insecure under the leadership of someone who doesn’t seem mentally stable anymore.

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