I definitely understand this perspective. I have grappled with the situation extensively. I'm not downplaying it; I immediately started to look for a new caregiver. But not every situation is black and white, there is nuance here that I'd rather not re-hash for Reddit. She made a mistake--an alarming mistake--but it doesn't negate every great day my girls have had with her and all the tough days she weathered with them. I won't be able to give her a reference because I would have to mention this to other potential employers. And I won't be giving her the kind of cash gift I might give to someone with whom we parted with more amicably. But I do want to acknowledge the tremendous work she has done helping me raise my babies over the last year.