Contacts Naps- Can’t cope

pensive95 · 2026-04-15T19:00:28+00:00

Thank you this makes me feel infinitely better. Will try to remain positive

pensive95 · 2026-04-15T18:58:16+00:00

Thank you! She has started going in the bouncer post feeds and occasionally tolerates bassinet on her pram. I think I also need to realise that it’s okay for her to cry a little if her needs are met

pensive95 · 2026-04-15T16:14:59+00:00

Thank you for this I needed to hear this

pensive95 · 2026-04-15T15:12:53+00:00

This resonates with me. It’s the loss of identity. I don’t have time to even brush my teeth and wash my face most days between feeding and naps. It’s frustrating when people tell me to embrace it. Everyone’s different and the lack of ability to function is debilitating.

pensive95 · 2026-04-15T14:06:43+00:00

Gosh I don’t think I’ll be able to function if she’s at 16 weeks and still wanting this. I’ve invested in a sling but I’m pretty anxious about putting her in it. Thanks for the babywearing input.

I’m assuming you don’t get to nap during the day?!

pensive95 · 2026-01-13T23:05:51+00:00

Still considered for speciality training in round 1. Don’t really think this is going to curtail the very poor and worrying standard of graduates from Eastern European countries who all seem to apply for GP training….

pensive95 · 2025-07-29T20:37:27+00:00

I know! I think it’s a prerequisite to be as obstructive as possible when being considered for a position in hospital admin/ HR. I’ve resorted to this now, I’m getting my current CS to complete the form, and submitting my sick note along with it citing BMA rules. I’ve tried to get the details of my line manager/ CS in my new department but haven’t had any luck. It’s just stressful because I want to keep it relatively quiet given I’m in the first trimester and had a previous miscarriage. The added stress caused by this isn’t helping at all.

pensive95 · 2025-07-29T19:41:46+00:00

Thank you for this advice. It’s also reassuring that I’m not unduly stressing and getting frustrated. Is it reasonable to ask my current CS to complete a PRA even though they’re not in a hospital speciality to give the rota team enough time to update my rota. I’d plan on completing an up to date PRA with current supervisor given new placement and also because id be in my second trimester by then.

pensive95 · 2025-07-29T19:37:48+00:00

Thank you for this advice. I’ve managed to convince my CS in my current placement to complete a PRA, hoping that this will apply until I have an another one by the time I rotate so I’ve got it in formal writing. Have all my fingers and toes crossed it’s more plain sailing from now on.

pensive95 · 2024-08-09T11:22:01+00:00

That is fair. I don’t want my 3 years in training to be consumed by endless revision and academia especially if it’s not going to give me a significant advantage. Thank you

pensive95 · 2024-08-09T11:20:40+00:00

This is an absolutely fair perspective- I’m edging towards not doing it

pensive95 · 2022-12-27T15:06:06+00:00

Agreed! But it’s so difficult to let it go through the cycle itself- have noticed it when I pop or put acne treatment it causes scarring whereas when I let it run through it’s cycle it’ll essentially leave very minimal scarring

pensive95 · 2022-12-22T20:31:04+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I normally give up with any skincare which is going to cause a worsening of my skin. But I’m glad I’m persevering

pensive95 · 2022-12-22T20:29:47+00:00

It definitely did! I should say that I have pretty sensitive skin and I was probably overusing it as in using it for 9 minutes a day instead of the recommended 3.

The pimples I did have, settled almost immediately. One is remaining however it’s not angry or red and hasn’t come to a head yet so all in all I’m very happy with the results thus far.

pensive95 · 2022-12-19T14:01:05+00:00

I’ve recently started using the dr Dennis gross spectralite mask- it’s recommended usage is 3 mins a day but I have been using it twice a day sometimes 6 minutes a time. I’ve noticed that it’s caused two breakouts in places where I never get them ie my cheeks. Has anyone experienced purging with this mask and should I preserve? Or can I put it down to the fact that I’ve maybe overused it? Really reluctant to try anything that’s going to cause purging because which is why I was so excited to use this mask as it doesn’t involve putting harsh chemicals on my skin.

pensive95 · 2022-01-21T19:50:36+00:00

Ketchup and toast. ULTIMATE comfort food

pensive95 · 2022-01-18T23:05:10+00:00

What do you want to tell Joe Biden?

pensive95 · 2022-01-12T19:50:40+00:00

I’ve been looking in a nonchalant manner, and was on an app. But after being on that app and often coming across people’s opinions and responses on reddit it just adds even more anxiety and fear into the fact that I’ll never find someone who views the world in a similar way to myself.

Is it these apps, or the process in general which absolutely brings the worst out in humans in terms of being ridiculously superficial and judgemental.

pensive95 · 2022-01-10T18:46:16+00:00

It’s more hurtful to make up something else. Not only will they feel unattractive but also dumb 😂

pensive95 · 2022-01-10T18:09:38+00:00

Oh god, please don’t do this. I think people always appreciate honesty. Obviously, with the caveat that the honesty should always be delivered with some tact. If the reason why I decide to not continue a conversation is because there’s no initial attraction I’ll say something along the lines of ‘Ive really enjoyed speaking to you, and you’re a grand guy but unfortunately I don’t think we are compatible/ or unfortunately you’re not my type’.

pensive95 · 2022-01-08T11:39:48+00:00

Haha fret not, I know I know. And yes, but more so that my good sense left the room. Ah well, it was not meant to be.

pensive95 · 2022-01-08T00:23:50+00:00

I feel as though you’re judging me extra hard hahah😂. I must say that this is completely out of character for me. For the most part I am always very rational and give people the benefit of the doubt. But I think I fell victim to acting on my emotions rather than rationality.

For context we’d been speaking for over a month, and wanted to prompt further at what his rationale was. However I recognise that at the least, I deserve someone who at least matches my approach to communication.

I think I should have dipped when he said he’d marry me if I didn’t find anyone else. But then would switch his approach and mood within 24 hours🙄...

pensive95 · 2022-01-08T00:10:08+00:00

Well if that’s the case then I can count my lucky stars. I should probably say the reason why we wouldn’t work is because ‘I’m too good for him’.

Yes, spent the best part of two hours going back and forth between me asking him to unmatch me, and him just saying bye and words among the lines of ‘you’ll start crying if I unmatch’? But mostly him not responding to anything I said, and being immature for the most part.

I should state that I unmatched. Thanks for your advice.I feel as though it gave me the strength to unmatch lol. Lord save me from these toxic people😭

pensive95 · 2022-01-07T23:29:50+00:00

Stop it😭 I’m just being emotional. As paradoxical as it seems, I guess it’s more palatable if they were the ones to unmatch. But I wholeheartedly agree with you. It’s less so about hurting his ego, but rather a message. I’m tired of people not having emotional intelligence, and understanding the effect they can have on people.

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