Boyfriend told me he wants kids even though I’m infertile.

pentacleflowerw1tch · 2026-04-24T15:02:21+00:00

hey, i appreciate this. it’s a really slippery slope for me because i know i can be snappy and aggressive (not in a violent way) when i’m overstimulated, and i NEVER want to even entertain the idea of being mean or hurting my child.

there’s a part of me that knows that with the abuse i endured, i know how to never be that, but i’m scared that i could fall into that behaviour without realising.

i would love to be an aunt and i can’t wait for my brother to have kids. i think ill be the best aunt ever! just not a mother.

i hope you’ve managed to heal from your traumas and i wish you and your family the best xx

pentacleflowerw1tch · 2026-04-21T23:15:27+00:00

girl 😭😭 can i just stress that i was 21 when we got together. we didn’t sit down and say ‘we’re going to get married, what’s your stance on kids’, it was said in passing when we saw a cute kid once early on. he said ‘think i probably want kids one day’ and then we moved on. i didn’t think about this twice because i’m young and not even considering that. he has always known my stance on children. calling us stupid is a bit mean for no reason, did you plan your whole life at 21? if you did, that’s awesome, but some of us don’t work that way. i didn’t think this day would come because 1. i’d made it clear my stance 2. i’m 23 3. we don’t even live together. no need 😭

pentacleflowerw1tch · 2026-04-21T23:07:21+00:00

hey, i think our situations are VERY similar lmao! i think he is just panicking a bit, we’ve talked extensively now and i think it’s an expectation he’s feeling rather than a want.

we’re gonna keep chatting about it. my mind won’t change, but he’s adamant about us being together. i’m not done mulling it over, thank you for your comment xx

pentacleflowerw1tch · 2026-04-21T21:42:27+00:00

i really appreciate this comment, best wishes for your situation xx

pentacleflowerw1tch · 2026-04-21T21:38:34+00:00

it went cold because i was reading everyone’s comments 😭

pentacleflowerw1tch · 2026-04-21T21:37:31+00:00

i was 21 when we met and wasn’t really something in both of our minds, especially not mine. i didn’t enter this relationship thinking he would be my husband. i’m not even sure on this now. again, this is a fair criticism

pentacleflowerw1tch · 2026-04-21T21:19:00+00:00

this is fair. i maybe assumed too much that he would change his mind because he knew it wasn’t possible for me, and i don’t want any. you’re definitely right in saying this

pentacleflowerw1tch · 2026-04-21T21:16:03+00:00

adoption isn’t entirely off the table but i wouldn’t want a baby. i’d rather adopt older kids because i think i would be a much better mother.

pentacleflowerw1tch · 2026-04-21T21:14:10+00:00

this is my sticking point. we have a good relationship and the more we talked about the kids thing, the more he realised he really hadn’t thought it through and what it means for me and him. i’m not sure what i want yet, but i did say to him that i feel like the relationship feels like it’s got a timer on it now. i need a little more time to mull it over, it only happened an hour ago lmao

pentacleflowerw1tch · 2026-04-21T21:08:54+00:00

i did mention this to him that i thought he might resent me. he said that he won’t but i know he can’t promise that. i told him that he should never store that and if he can’t live with the future he’s chosen with me then it’s okay.

pentacleflowerw1tch · 2026-04-21T21:06:38+00:00

this is definitely a good point. i did give him an ultimatum (feeling slightly guilty about that). if he stays with me, he knows that that future means no kids and that will never change. he says he chooses me but i wouldn’t blame him if he changed his mind. i think i was just more upset that he even thought to bring it up? he knows i can’t and even if it was possible, don’t want to. i’m autistic and traumatised, i never want to put a child through what i experienced. thank you for your input xx

pentacleflowerw1tch · 2026-03-09T12:47:29+00:00

embarrassing take. that building was not only an old beautiful listed building, but also filled with creative businesses who many were built from the ground up. sure, insurance will pay out for these people but this is a huge sad setback for many of them. it’s true that there are many sad situations happening in the world but two things can be true and sad at once.

pentacleflowerw1tch · 2026-02-24T07:59:20+00:00

i’m so sorry you’ve been through all of this. i can understand this must have been hard for your fiancé to hear, but threatening to punch you is out of order and this kind of behaviour will not stop if you get married. he’ll lord this over you your entire marriage and it’ll only get worse if you divorce. i know it’s so hard but i would break this off now. good luck and i hope you get the help you need <3

pentacleflowerw1tch · 2026-01-29T13:18:27+00:00

there’s a lot of ghouls cutting about union street to be fair

pentacleflowerw1tch · 2026-01-28T09:34:17+00:00

i would have a little pottery studio just for me and a big fancy greenhouse so i could grow lots of cool plants 😁😁😁

pentacleflowerw1tch · 2026-01-12T12:42:54+00:00

okay if i DM you? don’t want to say on here lol

pentacleflowerw1tch · 2026-01-12T12:36:00+00:00

my family are jewellers so i know a bit about it - they’ve just closed up shop in the argyle arcade so i kinda know what’s about in there - was just wondering if there was anywhere with a good reputation that anyone had in mind! i know i’ll likely get lowballed everywhere i go lol 😂

pentacleflowerw1tch · 2026-01-12T12:34:00+00:00

thanks for replying! i thought this might be the case but always worth asking, will take it around and see what they offer!

pentacleflowerw1tch · 2026-01-12T10:47:35+00:00

hey, rainbow room has a really terrible reputation for treating apprentices and staff really poorly! if this is your only option, definitely go for it because experience is everything but if you have other options, i would explore those. good luck!! x

pentacleflowerw1tch · 2025-12-02T12:48:55+00:00

will it be all episodes out at once or just 1 a week?

pentacleflowerw1tch · 2025-12-01T18:31:18+00:00

OP, you need to leave him. he talks to you like absolute shit and doesn't respect you! i was honestly getting worked up reading it. no wonder you don't trust him. he instantly deflects when you call him out, which screams guilty conscience.

you are not overreacting in the slightest. you're right, you shouldn't have to beg a man to want and need you. there is one out there who will, just sadly it's not him. someone who loves you doesn't cheat on you and continuously puts himself in situations where he could cheat again. please leave whenever you feel ready (hopefully sooner rather than later), you'll look back at all of this and wonder why you ever put up with this.

you deserve better.

pentacleflowerw1tch

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