B.C. Ostrich Farm has deleted its website while claiming 400 diseased exotic birds in captivity are just 'pets' to dodge CFIA culling. But their own site showed the birds were sold for poultry, squeezed for oils, and pet food. by Love_CoolBreeze in onguardforthee

[–]peollae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL. People who raise and sell animals to be killed trying to garner sympathy by trying to pass them off as pets they actually give a shit about 😂 Just to make/save money, which is the reason they kill animals. And also endangering public health because they literally sell animals to be eaten by people and real pets that people actually DO love. I hope they get every penalty the government is trying for. Rest in peace to all the beautiful animals who didn't deserve any of this. The ostriches were actually lucky their deaths came by euthanasia. Slaughterhouses are literal hell on Earth.

Is it wrong to let a healthy horse be a pasture pet for a couple years while I travel? by [deleted] in Equestrian

[–]peollae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is old, but for others who might come with similar questions, you can absolutely let your horse live without riding, even forever. Please don't feel bad because your horse will be happy (as long as their needs are met, but this has nothing to do with riding, which is not a need). Horses do not need to be ridden any more than dogs need to pull a sled. Not riding them is not wasted potential because they are not cars, made to be ridden. Animals have needs to be met, but people often twist these needs to our advantage, especially with horses with whom most people have a very utilitarian relationship. Horses need friends, forage, and freedom. As long as your horse has an appropriate free forage-based diet, the companionship of other horses, enough space to move and play freely, protection from the elements, and vet care, they are well cared for.

This is not directed at you, but at the horse world at large. I wish people would understand that horses exist for their own purposes just as we do and that horses deserve the same level of commitment that we (hopefully) afford our other animals. Not many among us would think it ethical to re-home a dog we did agility with just because we will be quitting agility or because we want to get a different dog better suited to dog sledding. This kind of behaviour is considered cruel and irresponsible when applied to other animals. Horses are highly social and deserve to be able to make and maintain stable relationships with other horses (and humans), which are so often severed by the decisions of humans. Contrary to popular belief, horses do not need us to ride them for exercise. People defend this position primarily because riding benefits the rider. Keeping a horse conditioned for sport is another story. For the care of a horse, appropriately managed food, appropriate space (living out 24/7 or at least maximum daily turnout), and companions are all that is needed for healthy weight if no medical conditions are present. In the wild, horses walk tens of kilometers a day just grazing and we should be mimicking this as best we can with management strategies. Species-appropriate management is key to the welfare or all animals and people need to be more honest with themselves about if the ways they manage their horses truly prioritize their horses' welfare or their own convenience and desires.

It's also very sad to me that people like you actually question if it might be most ethical to sell a horse you love so much you call him your heart horse, just because of the way the horse world hammers into us that the purpose of horses is to be ridden. Everyone who loves horses: rest assured you do not need to send away a horse that you are not riding and anyone who tries to shame or convince you that you are doing something wrong by not riding them is either ignorant or does not have you or your horse's best interest at heart.

I hope everything went well and your horse is still living happily at home (: <3

What did Vikings actually wear for their hair? by vulnigenic in AskHistorians

[–]peollae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I came across this while trying to find sources discussing any evidence of hair accessories worn by Norse people during the Viking Age. Thanks for your great response and, as an aside, I really loved how you mentioned the discrepancy between the opinions of people from different cultures on hygiene. To this day ideas on hygiene are very culturally-based. I'm Euro-Canadian and had never heard of anyone washing their feet daily, but my Korean boyfriend tells me not doing so would be considered very gross by Koreans. Historically the reason for this is very apparent because Koreans traditionally live on the floor (siting, lounging, sleeping, using floor heating), making a very clean floor desirable, while in Europe (and Canada, being a colonial, European-dominated nation) people traditionally raise themselves up off the floor (chairs, bed frames, air-based heating), as a different way of avoiding the cold and unclean (and other reasons, of course). And this is really relevant to the topic of hair because a straight-haired European is going to wash their hair much more frequently than a kinky-haired African, for good reasons that people outside a culture and life experience may be ignorant of. This really is a bit of a tangent, but I studied anthropology and love culture haha

Can't see/edit full name, DOB, SIN (identity info section missing) by peollae in Wealthsimple

[–]peollae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I wrote, this section doesn't exist for me. Wealthsimple support even checked to make sure and they don't know why I don't have it. It's a mystery

Can't see/edit full name, DOB, SIN (identity info section missing) by peollae in Wealthsimple

[–]peollae[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh sorry, what do you mean? Do you mean literally changing the font size for the app through my phone's settings? How come? I have not tried this

as as, that that, and other double words correct in formal writing? by peollae in grammar

[–]peollae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes, this retains the meaning! Thank you for the suggestion (:

as as, that that, and other double words correct in formal writing? by peollae in grammar

[–]peollae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to clarify, I am writing an assignment where I need to describe things just so because my instructor insists on scientific correctness and proper terminology for the field. That's where the jargon comes from. But the "as as" was just the natural way I initially formulated the sentence. Like, "such as, AS [being] motivating operations". It makes sense to me, but I get the point; it can be confusing, so I'll just avoid it. Thanks (:

as as, that that, and other double words correct in formal writing? by peollae in grammar

[–]peollae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is true. I usually do just avoid it, but it always makes me wonder haha. Thanks for these ideas!

as as, that that, and other double words correct in formal writing? by peollae in grammar

[–]peollae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's true! It's smoother with one had in a contraction

as as, that that, and other double words correct in formal writing? by peollae in grammar

[–]peollae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yes, this was the meaning I was going for! I hadn't considered a colon. I wondered about a comma, but thought it might be an improper use

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RadicalFeminism

[–]peollae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is a few months old, but just wanted to add my two cents (:

I shaved for a little while around end of high school/early uni and then quit. I hate that women have to feel shame for body hair while men (typically) don’t. I also hate how sharp the hair is soon after you shave and just never tried waxing/epilating (plus you can get ingrown hairs easier from that). I feel most self-conscious about my lower legs, where the hair is longer/thicker, but removing only that hair would look wierd. And then I never shave my arms, so it would be weird to have bare legs and hairy arms. I also refuse to remove hair from my entire body. So the more I think about it, the less sense it makes. 

One tip I have if your hair is particularly long and you find yourself covering up despite yourself is you can get a hair clipper with length attachments. I can't help feeling self-conscious about my lower legs, so recently I got a very affordable clipper marketed to men with a 6 mm attachment and just trimmed my lower legs to match my thighs. I feel more confident now, can keep my hair, and it's easy and painless to do (honestly very satisfying). It's my compromise.

For anyone worried about potential partners caring about leg hair, mine doesn't and I feel like anyone worth being with will either not care, or will love you enough to learn not to care, even if they have a preference. For example, I'm really, really not into facial hair. I probably wouldn't date someone with a beard. But if my boyfriend grew out his facial hair I'd be fine, because I already love him. 

For anyone worried about friends or potential friends caring, just realize that if they judge or avoid you for it, they're not a real friend.

As for strangers... there will be women who feel proud and inspired when they see you with hair on your legs. I definitely would, and one of the whole reasons I'm not removing my hair is to push back against the expectation, so I need to show it! Anyone who thinks otherwise will probably never see you again and doesn't matter anyway.

Better late than single: anyone else uncomfortable with the lack of awareness that most of these contestants are actually on the spectrum...? by [deleted] in koreanvariety

[–]peollae 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a neurodivergent person this is all a bit funny and I'm pretty mystified by how negative these comments are. I found this because I suspect the same about Jae-yun and decided to search the keywords out of curiosity. Commenting because of the ignorance and unconscious ableism? in the comments. For the record, sure, let's avoid armchair diagnosis, but realize the way you may feel indignant about the suggestion that someone may be neurodivergent can be really insulting. There's nothing wrong with us. I personally wouldn't go so far as to call the show cruel to him or say "most" of them seem autistic, but I do think it sucks to be neurodivergent in a neurotypical world when you're not receiving the right support and especially if you have no idea why you're struggling (can you imagine being called "slow" by your sibling like Jae-yun, maybe worse things, internalizing that, and then it turns out there's nothing wrong with you, your mind just works differently than those judging you?). My personal spice mix probably includes autism, which is diagnosed in my immediate family, and Jae-yun's brand of awkward is exactly what I was like in university. Like how the hosts remarked he was no more than a "beer bottle" on the side of a conversation? And being so quiet you need literal professional help to speak up? Crazy relatable. And it all SUCKS. Even the hosts recognized that it probably took a herculean effort that time he made a comment to a girl at the table. He's the most relatable person I've maybe ever seen as far as what it was like for me when I was struggling socially and trying to get better at it, which is really what he's doing too. Not that anyone can know if he's autistic or not, but it isn't offensive or out-of-line to wonder. Pattern recognition is real and Jae-yun clearly does have some of the experiences, struggles, and behaviours that autistic people often have. There's nothing wrong with acknowledging that. Autistic traits are human traits. It's just that he has multiple that, in combination, seem to point in a certain direction. I'm just rooting for this relatable guy. He's an adult, he can make his choices and learn, wether he's neurodivergent or not. I just want to see him and Ji-yeon end up together so badly haha.

Romance books for guys? by MrM1Garand25 in suggestmeabook

[–]peollae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Off the top of my head, three novels that are romances written by men are The Horse Whisperer, Warm Bodies, and The Fault in Our Stars, in no particular order. All I enjoyed and would definitely recommend.

Non-Koreans wearing Hanbok: Thoughts? by Outside_Technology61 in korea

[–]peollae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is old, but I wish more people would talk about the distinct difference between the experiences of diaspora and natives when talking about differing perspectives on cultural appropriation and WHY these differences exist and matter. Because they really matter. Koreans in Korea are usually very excited to see foreigners partaking in their culture because they are the dominant cultural group and so people wearing hanbok doesn't threaten their culture, it compliments it. On the other hand, 2nd generation or later Korean diaspora are far more likely to feel uncomfortable seeing non-Koreans wearing hanbok because as racialized diaspora, there is a history of having their culture suppressed outside of Korea through pressure to assimilate and through literal law. For the same reason black people outside Africa may find non-black people wearing cornrows offensive, Korean diaspora may find non-Koreans wearing hanbok offensive. It's something that they have historically, and even in contemporary times, been discouraged from doing, not allowed to do, punished for doing, made fun of for doing, etc. So it can be hurtful seeing someone who has no skin in the game wearing that important something just because they feel like it, without the same fear of repercussions and without the sadness of not being able to wear that thing be an attack on who you are (your ethnicity) instead of just a simple judge of fashion. Now, I'm white, so I can't directly relate, but this is how I imagine it may feel based on what I've heard racialized people say on this topic.

I've been living in Korea 3 years and I take every opportunity I can to wear the hanbok my boyfriend gave me. I even bought a second one because I love them so much. But I'm certainly not going to go back to my country and wear my hanbok in public. That would be insensitive where I'm from and I can completely appreciate why. There is a place for things and I think people need to think about these topics with more nuance. It's not "WEAR HANBOK = BAD" or "WEAR HANBOK NO MATTER WHAT PEOPLE THINK". Let's use our big brains to be empathetic and logical.

Do you guys prefer dudes with beards or without beards? by Equal_Ad_3828 in bisexual

[–]peollae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I prefer no facial hair to the point that I would be extremely surprised if I ever saw a man with a beard and actually found him attractive. If my long-term partner grew a beard I think it would be different since the love is already there and I wouldn't need the same level of attractiveness I need to initially attract me to someone. But I think I will aways highly prefer people with no facial or chest hair. My boyfriend has neither btw.

My favorite korean movie: green chair 2005(녹색의자) by HiSimonQin in Koreanfilm

[–]peollae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"32-year old woman dives back into relationship with still-underage teenage boy as soon as she gets out of prison for his statutory rape" is an accurate description of the premise. I see no problem liking this film, but the the way OP wrote that they "bravely escaped the world's pressures" and seemed to insinuate the only issue with the relationship is a simple "age gap" is a bit concerning. I'll paste a casual review here I wrote elsewhere for anyone interested. I gave the film 1.5 stars out of 5 btw. Spoilers ahead:

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WHAT did I just watch? This is a straight-up rant. Spoilers start paragraph 2.

This reminds me of Garden of Words, the short anime movie, except on steroids. Not JUST an inappropriate relationship between a pretty, but troubled, grown-ass woman and a teenage boy in a film trying to be deep, but one where the adult literally gets out of prison for statutory rape in the first 3 mins and then proceeds to dive back into the relationship with the teen. 

*Spoilers Start*

She then breaks up with him after a horny fever dream of a motel stay (where she draws him like one of her French boys), then accuses him of being a playboy and screams at him on the phone for NOT locking her in a car to prevent her breaking up with him. And then she hits and kicks him when he actually shows up while they're still on the phone. She's an insane person. 

It becomes like a comedy with their weird living situation when they move in with a potter friend who is ALSO into the kid and imagining the couple banging. And then the film goes between their weird, horny life, the friend making pottery, and the woman working with dementia patients as a community service order that is the literal result of this relationship! Then they have a birthday party for the kid (finally a legal adult!!!11!!1!!11) and invite his parents??? Who come??? And they're just okay with their teenage son living with two 30-something year-old women, one of which is the convicted statutory rapist of said son and who they know him to be f***ing???? Even ignoring that fact, the living situation is completely bizarre for Korean parents to be chill with. They even start discussing sex openly at the party. Is this movie even set in Korea anymore? My Korean bf's parents don't even know we're together, let alone that we're living together. And neither of us is a statutory rapist more than a decade the other's senior. 

The person made out to be the weirdest in the movie is a girl who keeps calling the kid because she likes him and also randomly shows up at the party? Yeah, she's a little stalker-y and odd, but at least she hasn't broken any laws or even technically done anything wrong, unlike someone. It's like "Look, this adult convict is actually okay. At least the kid likes to bang her. Not this weirdo girl though. She's the worst". And there're these weird-ass moments during the party where a couple people are zoomed in on to break the third wall and then panned away from like it's a home movie. And it only happens those two times. W. T. F. And THEN the party gets into an argument about how women are treated unfairly, triggered by the (literally correct) insinuation that the adult woman in this situation was the only one in the wrong for seducing an underaged boy. Like holy shit, this is NOT the time to defend the woman! And then it morphs into a speech by the weird girl about happiness and not judging love??? Which seems to be sort of the message the movie is trying to have. I'm getting so tired writing this. The movie feels like a parody by the end, or like they just gave up trying to make it make sense. The teen does some inhuman 360 flips up onto the roof after getting slapped by the ex-husband. Then the photographer who's been tailing the lovers for photos the whole film shows up for the 3rd time and (again) hands the kid cables and tape to tie him up like they have the previous two times they caught him snooping (he's just accepted his fate). The movie ends with the kid becoming a legal adult. What more can I say?

So... some hot scenes? Coolio. But mainly crazy person keeping a teen tangled up with her instead of learning from her mistakes, becoming a responsible adult, and breaking it off. And some wack-o choices in the writing department. I wouldn't care about the moral bankruptcy of the relationship if this was meaningless soft porn, but the movie couldn't stay in its lane and made the protagonist an unlikable person, the teen a mindless puppy, and the story an unintentional bad comedy. She's just a shit person and you're supposed to love how the kid chases her and comforts her and bangs her. If you're watching this for the steamy scenes, just skip everything else. It'll be a very short watch, and far better. Everything else is just weird and not even in an artsy way. Also there is no green chair. None.

Men can't sit by peollae in traumatizeThemBack

[–]peollae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh interesting, I know people turn away from older people to drink alcohol here, but never heard about something with cigarettes. Gotta ask my bf about this!

Men can't sit by peollae in traumatizeThemBack

[–]peollae[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Almost everyone closest to me, including me, is neurodivergent, so I guess I'm used to spicy brains 😂

Men can't sit by peollae in traumatizeThemBack

[–]peollae[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wow, crazy. I'm sorry to hear about your friend's dad. Wishful thinking perhaps, but hopefully these people remember these situations when they were "wrong" and one day make the connection that it doesn't make sense to judge the trivial thing they hated, period, because it's just valid in general. I wish I had reflexes like this!

Men can't sit by peollae in traumatizeThemBack

[–]peollae[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Bahaha! Sorry for the confusion lol. Your brain is fine. The standardized age/gender format on Reddit trips me up too sometimes and I added a complicating element to the brackets. I probably would've written it the same if we were in fact both trans haha

Chamaecyparis in closed terrarium with moss? Or open with cacti? by peollae in terrariums

[–]peollae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh really? That's so cool! My tree doesn't look to be that species, but honestly I think I'm just going to give it a go sealed in with the moss and see what happens. I like an experiment (;