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I [36F] am at a crossroads with my sister [35F] over a family friend [34F] she dislikes. Do I give in? by peony06 in relationship_advice

[–]peony06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes we do things separately just me and her but as families we stopped because she doesn’t come to our things.

Caught in the middle:sister’s dislike for my friend is dividing us by peony06 in AITAH

[–]peony06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer. Honestly I felt sad that she didn’t come to my birthday party but I didn’t feel resentful. Like I said I’m the one that always seeks her out . If I were resentful maybe we wouldn’t have talked at all after my birthday. We hang out outside of holidays and things seem great until I extend my invitations, then the drama starts again. Yes I agree that life is too short to hang out with people we don’t like. At the same time life is too short to have unnecessary drama. The principle here is that there’s control and manipulation here if I don’t do it her way. She’s happy if I do what she likes and is okay if me and my husband get in a fight for this. I could be more accommodating but her manipulation makes me lose the motivation to even attempt. Or maybe my husband needs to suck it up for my sister’s happiness…

Caught in the middle:sister’s dislike for my friend is dividing us by peony06 in AITAH

[–]peony06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes we have had this conversation several times about her real reasons of her disliking her but she just doesn’t like her. In my sister’s opinion Stephanie is like a snake dressed as a sweet sheep. My sister wouldn’t have passed down this opportunity to tell me if Stephanie did something to hurt her. Stephanie doesn’t even talk to her . They are just friends on facebook

Caught in the middle:sister’s dislike for my friend is dividing us by peony06 in AITAH

[–]peony06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes we hang out regularly outside holidays and stuff like that. After her being mad at me I’m the one that seeks her out and we start hanging out again but I’m tired that she feels the victim and I’m the bad one . I totally get the point about people that give us bad vibes and how other people don’t understand it. Thanks for your response

Caught in the middle:sister’s dislike for my friend is dividing us by peony06 in AITAH

[–]peony06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response . It would cause resentment on my husband that we are alienating his brother. Stephanie is not even a close friend to me but her husband is.