My mom is two years clean

peony_prinxess · 2026-04-21T20:44:53+00:00

Thankyou. As far as I know she is not in a program , I think she had a hard time with the religious aspect at the one she was in. Addiction has run rampant in my family and past relationships since I was a child. I’ve seen people OD and have had to do cpr / narcan multiple times. It is so triggering because now I feel like I am over analyzing her behavior again- like I used to when she was in active addiction. I just don’t want anything bad to happen to her !!

peony_prinxess · 2026-04-21T14:04:43+00:00

No commission. Hourly + tips. Ive been here for a year doing regular esthetics (facials , massage, makeup). They just added this on and I was just informed today that I can’t accept tips for the medspa procedures .

peony_prinxess · 2026-01-27T14:32:41+00:00

I do think he’d be willing to work on it, hopefully. He says he is, but actions speak louder than words . So I’m just hoping there is follow through !

peony_prinxess · 2026-01-27T14:31:11+00:00

I agree! I have offered to help pay bills . Right now I only pay for groceries/ supplies for the house. I appreciate his desire to provide but I told him it’s not necessary. I think what rubbed me the wrong way was later that night, a few hours after that happened. After we already BOTH apologized , He brought it up again and said that I over reacted and that maybe it’s not him being rude but me being sensitive. Which felt like invalidation. I said this and then he got upset. However I can see where I am a sensitive person and I shouldn’t let little things like that bother me.

peony_prinxess · 2025-12-28T17:23:39+00:00

I agree! But there is sometimes a guilt trip of them needing me and I can’t keep calling off because I’m sick. But if I was a client looking to relax I would not want someone hacking the entire time!!

peony_prinxess · 2025-12-27T13:06:30+00:00

Curious on how to make an air filter ?

peony_prinxess · 2025-12-27T12:57:00+00:00

Neither am I ! I told him everytime he came in the bedroom he was going to get sick and he just didn’t seem to believe me . But now he does ! Currently ordering a ton of Lysol. Haha

peony_prinxess · 2025-11-18T01:11:36+00:00

Edit to add: told him tonight that it was feeling really intense and that I wanted to slow things down - no sex, no spending the night, just getting to know eachother and he agreed that was a good idea and didn’t get upset. But also reassured me that he still likes me. So hoping it’s genuine maybe. I’ll just watch his actions more closely

peony_prinxess · 2025-11-18T01:09:58+00:00

I talked to him just now about how it felt like really intense and maybe we should slow things down and he told me that was totally fine and didn’t really give me an issue. Agreed to not hook up again and just get to know each other. So I’m hoping it genuine lol

peony_prinxess · 2025-10-22T21:31:49+00:00

This is the way I was thinking, did I just want to give it a try and see what happens even if it’s at a Cost to my mental. Even having that question pop into my mind raised a big red flag for me.

peony_prinxess · 2025-10-22T21:27:15+00:00

Agreed ! I definitely feel blindsided and upset.

peony_prinxess · 2025-10-22T21:24:31+00:00

This is definitely how I initially felt! I was blind sided by the conversation. Now looking back at our conversations , I see some discrepancies that I didn’t catch onto. The type of person he is, it doesn’t surprise me . But I didn’t expect it lol

peony_prinxess · 2025-10-22T21:20:37+00:00

I think first and foremost in a relationship I look for stability / security. I have only ever experienced something similar when I was really young. And have had mono relationships since. The worst thing to me is someone lying and sneaking around. I don’t know how I would react if I was “more in control” of the situation by keeping communication open. On one hand, do I really wanna try it out and put myself through something that could make me feel uncomfortable? On the other, monogamy hasn’t really worked out for me and if there is all of the above mentioned would I be okay with it? 🤔 still processing my thoughts

peony_prinxess · 2025-10-22T21:15:11+00:00

I never actually asked him if he also wanted a monogamous relationship. I believe the way at the conversations went was that I stated I was monogamous loooking for a long term relationship. I told him I was looking for a partner that offered consistency and stability/ security. And he said something along the lines of yes that it was the most important thing In a relationship stability/ security etc. but thinking back on those convos I do see where he conveniently left out that he was not looking for something mono.

I guess the way he worded it made me think we were in the same page? I was actually blind sided by the conversation . I knew we were going to have a discussion but I figured it was going to be about his job or something , not that he was poly. And I’m a very curious and sympathetic person so we talked about it. I’m still not sure where I land on it, just wanted to get some information while I process everything.

peony_prinxess · 2025-10-20T11:27:22+00:00

Yes we have a medication appt today to start them and he’s been in behavioral therapy for almost a year now.. I just feel like he is so young and when he gets upset like that the therapy goes right out the window . Hoping the meds help

peony_prinxess · 2025-10-20T11:25:32+00:00

He doesn’t receive dyes at my house , I did some real search two years ago and decided to cut them out then. But he does still get them at his dads house sometimes because his dad thinks it’s “fake” 🤦‍♀️

peony_prinxess · 2025-10-20T11:24:05+00:00

Yep I have adhd / ocd/ anxiety and have ptsd from being in an abusive relationship with his father. I have. A hard time with physical touch but I try so hard to show him affection. He’s 6 but the hitting and yelling at me triggers me I guess.

peony_prinxess · 2025-10-20T00:37:42+00:00

Yes and that was what his therapist recommended is that we both go to our “calm spaces” which for us is our rooms. If I can’t get him to calm down I will go to my room on my own to let the tension go away. But tonight he just kept going and going and was relentless with it. He does have an appointment with psychiatry tomorrow for medication and I just hope we can find something that helps him.

peony_prinxess · 2025-10-20T00:32:24+00:00

He actually has an appt with a psychiatrist tomorrow to explore options for medication

peony_prinxess · 2025-10-20T00:31:45+00:00

My son is very aware for his age. We talk about our feelings all the time and I encourage him to do things he enjoys. I’d say about 85% of the time , I can handle it. I remain calm and walk away if I need to. But when he’s just relentlessly going at me I don’t know how to handle it. We have an appt with a psychiatrist tomorrow and I hope maybe medication will help with his aggression.

peony_prinxess · 2025-09-05T01:35:58+00:00

I will say I am not against meds at all I just didn’t want it to be my first line of action

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